Infinite Perfection of Everything

Our recent guests, Tahnee Woolf and Allen David Reed have spent many years researching, developing, and creating a model representing our individual journey of consciousness. They call it the Ten Terrains of Consciousness.

https://www.tenterrains.com/

I found our discussion with them fascinating. They have been brought together by spirit to do this work.

Tahnee Woolf and Allen David Reed

The Ten Terrains model was developed out of their common lives, and the discovery of fields which opened between them any time they were together. Tahnee wanted to understand people and have clarity for the reasons we are all so different.

What is underneath the differences between people?”

Tahnee Woolf

Allen had a different mission: to understand why human perspective is most often opposite from the truth. He grew up in the woods of Washington state without connection to family. The trees, earth and animals were his connection, causing Allen to ask: Who are we, and why are we doing what we are doing? He took on a study of sciences and religions.

We are living in a universe that is conscious. Every particle is aware of itself.”

Allen David Reed

Allen and Tahnee have designed a map of consciousness that illustrates to what degree we have separated ourselves from our own consciousness. The symbols tell a story. As it emerged, the clearer the model became.

You have Anthropology on one end and infinite consciousness on the other end. It is like we are all living in a parallel universe to each other.”

Tahnee Woolf

Allen explained consciousness using a rubber band and his index finger.

We are electrical bundles of energy. We are at a certain terrain based on the charge we have. Our charge holds us in judgement. Through healing, learning, and understanding, our charge can be released causing us to come into our true beinghood. We come to neutrality. “

Allen David Reed

Infinite perfection of everything.

During the research of the Ten Terrains model, people were reporting greater understanding of themselves and family members through a 10-minute quiz. The same quiz is available to you. Taking it will likely offer a new perspective of who you are since aspects of your culture, family, and community may be feeling uncomfortable or nonconforming to your beliefs. It is likely caused because you are living in a parallel universe to others.

The word Terrain was carefully selected. A Terrain is the condition upon which something manifests. Deserts, jungles, forests, plains, mountains, are all different types of terrain. There are also terrains in the psyche which give way to our cultures, beliefs, and behaviors.

Understanding the different lenses that we as individuals and others see through gives us all a better understanding.”

Allen David Reed

Tahnee clarified the Ten Terrains model does not define our personality. Many different personality types will live at the same Terrain. Allen and Tahnee’s model illustrates WHERE you are rather than WHO you are.

You may express your personality differently based on the Terrain you are at, but your personality, character, and astrological sign stays the same.”

Tahnee Woolf

Like riding in a hot-air balloon, as we rise higher and higher, nothing changes but our perspective. We are not suddenly any smarter, wealthier, or worthier. We simply have a grander perspective the higher and higher we rise.

No one Terrain is better than another Terrain just as being the age of 12 is no better than being the age of 50. Our experiences and perspectives are different, and each experience brings more enlightenment.

Tahnee Woolf

Ego only sees what is going on now. When you are an infinite being, you have awareness of the journey and you allow it to take as long as is necessary. Wherever you are, (whatever Terrain you find yourself) you have chosen to be there because of the lesson you are to learn. Do the spiritual work and be centered where you are. You are where you are for a reason.”

Allen David Reed

Todd and I took the quiz. He is at Circle, and I am at Square. We simply answered questions based on what felt true for each of us through a series of choices. A report has been provided to us which explains the meaning of our place at that Terrain. The report also clarifies challenges we are likely facing in our journey and the gift we are here to give. Like I said: fascinating!

Some people may make a Terrain shift, while others do not. There is no goal to reach a certain terrain. We all have a different purpose, and some people may need to stay at their current Terrain to fulfill their purpose – like Abe Lincoln.

Abraham Lincoln had to live at SQUARE his whole life to end slavery.”

Tahnee Woolf

Your journey is different than mine. You may or may not have an awakening. When a shift does happen, it can create conflicts in relationships. During a shift we might find ourselves reading different books than before, seeking out new friendships with people we hadn’t been interested in before, or simply feel uncomfortable with our current situation as if we are dying to break free from something.

Allen would likely tell us to relax, trust the process, and patiently wait.

We all have amazing potential. We constrain ourselves, and often undermine our own progress.”

Allen David Reed

Go to TenTerrains.com find their book, and take the quiz!

The American Dream is Alive and Well!

When Emily Letran was thirteen years-old she escaped Vietnam in a boat during the middle of the night with her aunt, brothers, and a few cousins.  During the 7-day journey on the ocean, the party was shot at, robbed, and beaten, but left to live. And lived they did. In fact, Emily’s story is one of hope, abundance, and freedom.

Saigon-born in the late 1960’s, Emily had seen horrific images of war as a child. Whole villages of people were killed, and the sky was often orange from smoke. When the communists came into power in 1975 life immediately changed for her family.

There was never enough food, which the government “provided”. The Vietnamese citizens were forced to stand in line for rations of food and supplies – given according to the number of family members in each home.

Emily’s mother passed-away one year later, and by 1981 rumors of another war in Vietnam began to swell. Her brothers and cousins were old enough to be drafted into the communist military. Thus, the escape from her home country was put into action.

Emily’s father and a few siblings would stay in Vietnam and join the family soon. As Emily looked back at her father that night the boat was pushed silently into the ocean, she felt hope and determination to make his sacrifice worthwhile. The expectation to survive, thrive, and be successful weighed heavily on Emily, even more than fear of the unknown.

Sadly, Emily never saw her father again.

This small group of survivors lived in a Malaysian refugee camp for 3 months before taking her first airplane ride and arriving in New Orleans, Louisiana, United States of America.

New Orleans 1981

Her first impression of America?

Everything was BIG, and you feel a little lost. Our first meal was Popeye Chicken, and I thought where is the rice? You can’t eat food without rice”.

Emily Letran

Culture shock and language barriers were the biggest challenges. Emily had learned conversational English in Vietnam, but that did not suffice in school when learning science and other subjects.

Imagine not being able to understand ANYTHING people were saying for 5 hours in school every day”.

Emily Letran

Emily would study at night translating her English textbooks into Vietnamese. She delivered newspapers, biked to school, and through government programs received free school lunch. She had drive to serve the family, live up to her own expectations, and determination to understand the language.

Emily longed for her father to join them in America so the family could be complete. He was still in communist Vietnam where BIG BROTHER is always watching; where government can search your home any time they want to and take anything they want.

By the time she was in high school, the family lived in California. Emily went to undergrad classes at the university while still in high school, and she took summer classes too. She was working hard to make the most of her blessed situation.

Emily’s father passed-away and soon after she became a U.S. Citizen. She legally changed her first name to Emily, kept her Vietnamese name as her middle name, and combined two different Vietnamese last names (Le and Tran) to form her last name. The American Dream was no longer a hope. It was reality.

We have a sense of gratitude knowing we live in the best place in the world – the U.S. We take pride in being here as an immigrant, knowing there is no other country in the world which offers real freedom and the ability to achieve”.

Emily Letran

Emily is now Emily Letran, DDS and owns two specialty dental practices in southern California. In her profession, not many people share their stories. This compelled Emily to write her story in a book. It is meant to inspire immigrants and others.

You can share your story in a book and increase the number of people who hear your voice”.

Dr. Emily Letran

To other refugees Dr. Emily says:

Look for help. Go to churches, neighbors, friends, and ask for help. Ask them to point you to the resources.”  

Emily Letran, DDS

To natural American citizens Dr. Emily advises:

Stay open-minded. Do not stereotype, or assume you know someone’s story because of how they look. Do not assume they cannot do something or do not understand you. Be available to help when/where you can”.

Emily Letran, DDS
Dr. Emily Letran

On this Election Day 2020, Emily had more inspiring advice:

You should  be grateful we have two opposing parties in America that fight each other. The option is one single party that dictates everything to you, and controls everything you have”.

Emily Letran, DDS

Emily has been there and done that. As we parted, Emily offered a gift to YOU:

Text FREEDOM to 6262987587 and get a free Blueprint for Focus and Productivity 

The American Dream is alive and well!

Permission to Feel: EQ Important as IQ

Our recent guest, Joanne Light, Ed.D spoke directly to parents and grandparents listening to our show. She quoted from Marc Brackett’s book: Permission to Feel about Emotional Intelligence using the acronym: R.U.L.E.R.

  • Recognize your emotions
  • Understand your emotions
  • Label your emotions
  • Express your emotions
  • Regulate your emotions

EQ is as important as IQ.”

Joanne Light

As a Parent Empowerment Coach, Joanne is an expert helping parents to cope during situations like COVID-19.

There are so many places to feel stuck, and parents are dealing with many issues right now.”

Joanne Light

Joanne’s own daughter struggled in her 20’s with a personality disorder and anxiety. In what felt like a hopeless search, Joanne found a woman running groups for parents of children struggling in the way her daughter was. In this group she found no judgement, but instead, acceptance, support, and help.

Joanne learned when she as a parent received help, she was able to help her daughter. She discovered her niche as a Career and Life Coach – empower struggling parents.

Parents benefit by finding advocates for their personal support, which provides the skills to help their children.”

Joanne Light

Joanne spoke about “complex kids” who are challenged with maladies such as ADD, depression, eating disorders, cutting behaviors, and anxiety. It is alarming that 25% of young people between 10-25 have thoughts of taking their own life. Suicide is now the second leading cause of death in this age group.

ALL kids are having issues, and the pandemic has only made it more obvious.”

Joanne Light

Having Joanne as a Parent Empowerment Coach is a process of exploration. Parents learn to rely on their own abilities with guidance to make goals, follow through with them, and achieve them with intention. It is nice to have someone to be accountable to.

To all parents, Joanne recommends the following areas to focus on:

  • Resiliency
  • Connection
  • Structure
  • Self-Care

Resiliency: Parenting is an inside out process. Examine your own values, live them, and your children will reflect those values back to you. Resiliency is a coping skill children learn by example; it is the ability to get back up when they fall down or fall behind.

Dig in and dig deep to become the best parent you can.”

Joanne Light

Connection is the key to effective parenting. Parents should react, but not overreact. Nothing will build a wall between child and parent faster than reacting without first understanding. Parents should give themselves permission to back off in the heat of the moment, empathize, and revisit the problem when emotions have cooled off.

Make time together enjoyable for all family members. Studies prove families who have dinner together result in children who are more successful academically, live cultural values, are less worried about challenges, and feel grounded in the family unit. Actions like these develop and increase Emotional Intelligence (EQ).

Structure: Joanne highly recommends FAMILY MEETINGS once a week, or every other week. Schedule regularly and allow each family member to take turns leading the meeting. Choose a topic for each meeting and set ground rules early. Kindness rules.

Family meetings provide a “check in” with each family member. It is a time to confirm chore assignments, share feelings, compare schedules, and for expression without judgement. Make sure to have an activity after the meeting – games, dessert, a movie, etc.  

It sounds cheesy, but it helps! Many life coaches preach family meetings. It’s a time to set boundaries and responsibilities as a calm, caring, nurturing parent.

Joanne Light

Self-Care: all parents should make this a priority. Every day, each parent should do something strictly for themselves whether 5 minutes or 30 minutes.

  • Have a cup of coffee…alone
  • Call a friend
  • Journal, sharing positive thoughts and gratitude (count your blessings)
  • Sip a glass of wine
  • Take a nap
  • Listen to music that lifts your spirit
  • Dance
  • Exercise
  • Eat a healthy snack
  • Meditate

Self-care is critical. When parents cope well, kids will as well. Self-care is not selfish; it is not indulgent. It’s critical.”

Joanne Light

If you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control with your own emotions – chances are your children are experiencing the same. Seek out support like Joanne did. In fact – contact Joanne. Care for yourself to better care for those you love in an emotionally intelligent way.

Joanne Light, Ed.D CLC – Parent Empowerment Coach

Positively Zero

Zero has negative connotations, even though it is just a number.

Life is a zero-sum game.”

He’s a real zero, man!

Cars are lauded for going zero to 60 mph in seconds.

That’s a lot of fuss about nothing; or it’s all or nothing.

Start with a blank slate.”

We often zero in on something; or we zero out on everything. Most of us have zero tolerance for zero dark thirty, and ground zero is a moniker for a significant place of note.

Zero means none, nothing, naught, or nil. Zero is usually not an indication of success.

Until now.

Mabel Katz has now defined Zero Frequency as THE place to be, THE goal to strive for, and THE greatest source of peace and happiness.

Zero Frequency is the name of Mabel’s book, and its arrival on ground zero of a pandemic could not have been timed more perfectly.  

Mabel learned the ancient Hawaiian art of problem-solving known as Ho’oponopono. (Those are o’s, not zero’s) It transformed her life and Mabel spent twelve years as an apprentice of the practice, leading to the birth of Zero Frequency®.

The ancient practice involved gathering the entire family, and, in the presence of a moderator, each member would ask the others for forgiveness. Hawaiian healer Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona updated Ho’oponopono for modern times so that it could be practiced alone.

Mabel Katz

The process of Ho’oponopono in today’s terms is to discover the divinity within oneself and to achieve complete freedom from the past.

So, what is Zero Frequency®?

Simply put, Zero Frequency® is our natural way or condition, who we really are. It is the magic way of living twenty-four/seven in inspiration, freed from the chains of all our subconscious programming and all our preconceived ideas, memories, and beliefs. When we are at Zero, we are our authentic selves, able to access our true talents and natural gifts.

Mabel Katz

Mabel explained that those who ascribe to numerology believe that numbers have vibrations. The number zero resonates with the vibrations of eternity, flow, and wholeness. It also represents choice.

Zero is the alpha, which is the beginning, and the omega, the highest. Zero is also the symbol of infinity, and it is believed that it brings us closer to God.

Zero is also the symbol of nothingness; we often perceive that to be negative in nature. That is so far from the truth! Mable claims it is in this nothingness that we experience an absence of all the memories, thoughts, beliefs, and actions that have held us back. It is in this nothingness that all answers are revealed.

Mabel’s book speaks to the heart. As you read it, you may find yourself slipping into the state of Zero Frequency®. You may feel peaceful and creative. Her book will take you on an inner journey and teach you how to choose to go back to Zero moment by moment.

It’s possible for you to be truly happy and fulfilled, and there is a simpler path toward what you want.”

Mabel Katz

Juice Up Your Life Force

Your life force is your juice. Life force is the vital energy within you responsible for maintaining your life and your health, and it plays a major role in how your physical body, mind, and emotional and energetic systems feel and operate. If your life force wanes too far, you get sick.

Nourishing your life force begins the moment you rise each morning.

The first hour of your day sets the stage for rest of your day. What are you ingesting? What are you doing? What are you allowing into your field? Connect with yourself first.”

Christine Arylo

Christine Arylo is the author of Overwhelmed and Over It – Embrace your Power to Stay Centered and Sustained in a Chaotic World. She is a transformational leadership advisor, three-time bestselling author, and host of the popular Feminine Power Time podcast.

At the age of 30 Christine realized life is more than she ever thought it could be. She began to seek out more wisdom and found it while studying different and varied cultures from her own. Intuition guided her to write her fourth book, and trusting divine timing, the result is a new way of thinking which completely connected with me.

Overwhelmed and Over It has caused me to consider personal change and defy societal rules not in harmony with my natural self. Her book invites the reader to open up to self-awareness. Do any of the following behaviors describe you?

  • I take on other people’s feelings and problems or make it my job to fix them or better things for them.
  • I try to do too much at one time and then feel scattered, fragmented, and overwhelmed.
  • I overstretch my financial resources and then feel like I do not have what I need.
  • I run my inner batteries and body down.

Christine encouraged us to “find your fierce voice and make different choices. You’ll influence others while doing so.”

She describes “imprints” which we might call experiences that shaped our self-descriptions, beliefs, and values. Imprints in our hearts cause fear, shame, and judgment. We then create coping mechanisms which undermine us.

We have the power to create new realities through our choices, which means we have the power to redefine success and the systems that say what it is.”

Christine Arylo

Work/life balance has become like a marker of nirvanic success all of us overwhelmed women strive for yet never seem to reach. It’s not for lack of trying, focus, or diligence that we fail. The truth is, we have been missing that there is a fundamental flaw inherent in work/life balance as a goal for personal and professional success: Work/life balance is the wrong equation.

Christine described work/life balance like a tug of war. I recall in that activity someone always ends up muddy.

Our lives are dynamic, not static. Diverse, not divisible into two parts. Cyclical, not linear. Which is why we need a new constellation — a configuration — for how to think about, organize, interact with, meet, and design the interconnected parts of our lives.”

Christine Arylo

Christine provides this new configuration in her book, and she invites us to make more empowering choices while engaging with it. It includes simple, yet significant steps.

It is time to end my overwhelm. Who is with me?

Check out ChristineArylo.com She is planning a Women’s Wisdom Class the second week of November. Find details at Women’s Wisdom Quest Take a listen to her podcast as well at FeminePowertime.com

Child Soldier – War Hero

Following the interview with our inspiring guest, Essi Bagheri, last Tuesday, I will try more diligently not to complain about my circumstances. He fought a war similar to wars many of us face, and he has come through heroically.

Essi Bagheri

Essi is the author of Shattered Soul The True Story of a Child Soldier.

The title of his book might give away one of the situations in his life that brought him grief, but until you read his book you won’t learn that it was because of early traumas in his life that he became a child soldier in the first place.

Being born in Iran in 1966 to an 11-year old mother and a 30-year old father became Essi’s first challenge. (Not that he remembers it). Six months later though, the separation from his mother would prove to put him on a path where tragedy would surely follow.

Upon learning at the age of five that the mother he believed was his was not, the doubts about his value and worth began to haunt Essi. Discovering your life is not what you though at any age can be devastating, and because Essi was simply too young to truly understand, he was being set up for more trauma which would shape his identity.

After friends and family betrayed and abused him around the age of 9, Essi began to take active note of life. He wanted to belong to a family he had a bond with. He wanted to feel part of something that grounded him to culture and society. His search for these feelings led him to make a decision that would endanger is life.

At the age of 14-15, Essi joined the Revolutionary Guard to fight Saddam Hussein’s army who had invaded Iran. Prior to enlisting, Essi had seen soldiers coming home from war in coffins and being lauded and praised for their courage and sacrifice. He wanted that praise. Even if he died getting it.

With the promise of going to heaven, and having 47 virgins meet him there, the teenage Essi was “brainwashed” (his description) to seek for such greatness in serving his country.

After basic training Essi went to the front lines of battle. His role: disassemble land mines. A soldier would be lucky if he had opportunity to find a landmine before it detonated. Very rare circumstance indeed.

In fact, when Essi watched his friends blown to smithereens while searching for mines, he began to realize how wrong it was to put human beings – especially young boys  – in charge of such a barbaric mission. This did not feel heroic to Essi any longer.

The only way out of this situation was to be injured. At least then he would have time in the hospital away from the fighting. Yet, what were the chances Essi would only sustain injury in such a dangerous task?

Essi chose the unthinkable – he used his own gun to shoot himself in the arm. Believing it was a battle wound, Essi was treated medically with great care; and treated honorably as a war hero. Isn’t that what he wanted?

Essi would soon realize that being sent home this way was not honorable. It was not heroic. This began the emotional spiral of pain into the darkest abyss of alcohol and drug addiction. Surely Essi’s whole life had been a lie and being sober only reminded him of that.

For 30 or more years Essi stayed on the battlefield he had created in his head. He fought his identity, his worth, his very existence every day for three decades.

When the light was lifted, and his purpose was revealed, Essi fought for someone else – you and me. Those of us who have suffered trauma, abuse, and/or addiction have a coach to talk to . Someone who truly gets it. Someone who has been that shattered soul.

Essi’s book is well worth reading, if only (as I mentioned at the top of this post) to help each of us recognize our own blessings, and help us feel grateful for the people around us who’ve lifted us up and made it possible to heal.

It is available on Amazon, and as the title suggests it is a personal, true memoir of a war hero. The war of life.

Shattered Soul The True Story of a Child Soldier

Some Part of YOU is Opposed to What YOU Want

Have you ever been highly dissatisfied with your situation but unable to change it?

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard calls this quandary the final eighth (and refers to everything going before it as the first 7/8).

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard

When you are stuck in the final stages of achieving a goal, you’ve probably done everything pretty much right. You took the initiative, followed a plan, and moved toward your goal. This is the first 7/8.

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard

Bridgit described the problem many of us experience – despite the nearness to the goal, hard work, access to resources, and commitment, we find ourselves unable to take the final steps to success.

If you are like me, you have been in this position more than once. Ugh!

The truth is, not every part of you wants what you think you want! Some of your inner selves are opposed to your goal.

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard

What?! Thank goodness Bridgit explained:

When you identify and learn to speak with your inner selves, you’ll uncover their secret intentions and figure out which of them support your goal and which are impeding it.”

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard

Bridgit calls this process VOICE DIALOGUE.

Throughout her book you are guided to discover the following truths about yourself:

  • The final eighth process
  • How your inner self is formed
  • How to communicate with your primary selves through voice dialogue
  • The hidden inner selves who are determined to stop you from succeeding
  • How to communicate directly with your hidden inner selves
  • Discover your own false negative beliefs
  • Find the invisible, unresolved dilemmas called double binds that reside in you
  • Your choice – abandon your goal or go for it
  • Do you need failure?
  • How to assign your inner critic a new role
  • Cross your finish line
  • Learn to apply safe-success guidelines

One workshop participant who’d been stuck professionally for a long time jumped into the voice dialogue process and soon afterward found herself having to choose between two career-boosting job offers. She marveled, “What? Do your dreams just start coming true when you start doing voice dialogue?

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard

Bridgit claims she’s seen such things happen. The final eighth process frees people to develop courage, strength, creativity, and to access the resources needed to break through any impasse and reach a goal. It might feel magical!

The goal is not to eliminate any self, but to learn from it. Trying to get rid of an inner self does not work and cannot be done. It is a fool’s errand. Anyone who has tried to eradicate their Inner Critic knows that. What I’m helping you do is become intimate with your inner selves, so you have a direct relationship with them and stop wasting time and energy running away from parts of yourself you don’t like or are frightening.

Bridgit Dengel Gaspard

It sounds like Bridgit’s book can benefit all of us – no matter what your inner selves might say to talk you out of getting it.

A Deeply Admired Hero

I met one of my admired heroes on Tuesday! Dr. Bernie Siegel was our guest, and I was thrilled to finally meet him in person.

It was in the late 1980’s when I began the painful, suicide-thought-inducing work of healing from childhood sexual abuse. Dr. Seigel’s 1st book (he just wrote #19) was recommended to me, and I obediently began to read it.

Love, Medicine, and Miracles was my first foray into the self-help book genre. In the chapter titled “The Will to Live” about a patient diagnosed with cancer I read:

We cannot change the past -our parents and our exposure to carcinogens—but we can change ourselves and thus our future. As one of my patient’s said, “Cancer isn’t a sentence, it’s just a word”.

His message captured me. Sexual abuse is a carcinogen. It was up to me to change myself because I could not change the past. Dr. Siegel’s book set me on the path of forgiveness and full healing.

Tuesday’s show with him as guest was full of wonderful stories. What a wonderful storyteller Dr. Siegel is. In fact, his 19th book is a story with real characters.

Three Men Six Lives is the title of Dr. Siegel’s new book. You can expect by reading it to be filled with inspiration, hope, and love. In fact, Dr. Siegel is the poster child for those outcomes.

Before we went on air live, Dr. Siegel shared a very personal story which confirms to me his purpose, which is to guide us all to self-healing.

Bernie was the first born of his parents. His mother had an extremely underactive thyroid, which meant that throughout her pregnancy with Bernie, she had very little energy. When it came time to deliver Bernie, she lacked the strength to complete the process on her own.

After being in labor for about a week forceps were finally engaged. Bernie was pulled into the world red and bruised, and anything but a beautiful baby. His mother was embarrassed to take him out in public.

His grandmother stepped in and massaged Bernie’s face and head constantly to push his natural features back in place. The touch she provided was the catalyst for Bernie’s ability to love life and love others.

The story does not end there. Years later Bernie and his wife were getting massages in different rooms of the same clinic. The masseuse Bernie was assigned was a woman. She began to massage Bernie’s head and face.

What seemed like moments later, yet was 10-15 minutes of time passed, Bernie awoke to 20 people standing around him. They were delighted when he regained consciousness. Evidently, the touch of the massage therapist caused Bernie to become so entranced and relaxed he was completely unresponsive to all the people who tried to revive him.

Bernie explains that the internal memory of his first several weeks of life caused his body to relax in such a way he reverted to babyhood. What a delightful example of how our past experiences, memories, and attitudes still shape and affect us today.

In Love, Medicine and Miracles, Dr. Siegel asks us to consider 4 questions:

  1. Do you want to live to be a hundred? (In other words, do you love yourself enough to take care of your body and mind?)

2. What happened to you in the year or two before your illness? (Your past experiences may indicate why this illness is plaguing you)

3. What does the illness mean to you? (Does it represent death, embarrassment, or a challenge)

4. Why did you need the illness? (Sickness gives people “permission” to do what one has always wanted to do but has always been too busy to start)

The lessons of Bernie’s life, medical practice, and career as an author/speaker is this: Unconditional love is the most powerful stimulant of the immune system. Love heals. Miracles happen.

Read any one of Dr. Siegel’s books and you will be transformed. I think he will become your hero just like he is mine.

Love, Medicine, and Miracles

Faith, Hope and Healing

Three Men Six Lives

Feeling Different, Incomplete, or Unworthy?

Have you ever felt different? (As if no one understands you)

Have you ever felt incomplete? (You know something is missing, and cannot seem to find it)

Have you felt unworthy? (Undeserving of happiness, money, or etc.)

These same feelings plagued Judi Miller most of her life. She finally let go of what did not serve her and wrote a book which teaches all of us how to live with transformative love and forgiveness.

Her book is: Perfect: A Path to Love, Forgiveness, and Transformation

Forgiveness is letting go of stories that no longer serve us.”

Judi Miller

Judi has an amazing story which sparked her personal transformation. She shared a snippet with us as our guest this past Tuesday.

As a child Judi had fears of the dark, the night, and being sexually assaulted, though she had never had any such actual experience. She could sense certain dark, foreboding energies always around her at night.

Night after night Judi would recite the Lord’s prayer over and over until she fell asleep. This routine continued through her adult years until she was married with children.

In the exhaustion of two children, the terror stopped; the spirits, the energies stopped.” 

Judi Miller

Unfortunately, once Judi’s children grew up and left home, the house fell silent again, and the frightening energies returned.

I literally tip-toed around my house afraid of what I might encounter or see. It felt like someone was standing behind me, and like eyes were staring at me from across every room.”

Judi Miller

Due to an upcoming surgery, Judi sought out a Healer. The first visit with that healer made Judi feel as though a lock had clicked into place. She knew it was a defining moment in her life. Soon, she would discover that Healer would play a bigger part in her life story than Judi could have imagined.

As the Healer and Judi discussed her fear of the dark, no relevant reason for the fear could be found. There was no event in Judi’s past which explained her terror. The Healer introduced Judi to the concept of past lives.

Could that be the answer?

As you know, we inherit DNA from our parents.  Epigenetics is a science which explains the ability to inherit emotions, memories, attitudes, and behaviors from our parents.”

Judi Miller

On her 80th birthday Judi’s mother shared her experience as a 12-year old girl wherein she was attacked and assaulted by her stepfather. It was crystal clear to Judi: The pain and terror she had been feeling was her mother’s pain and fear.

Even more amazing to Judi was the discovery that the ancestor of the Healer she had been working with was the one who had inflicted pain on her family a generation before.

In that moment of revelation, I could have felt terror, hatred, even betrayal. I did not. All I felt was the immense perfection and beauty of the universe giving us the opportunity for everyone to heal.”

Judi Miller

Judi saw how all our souls are connected and loved. At the moment of her discovery, she heard Ed Sheeran’s song: Perfect.

Well, I found a girl, beautiful and sweet
I never knew you were the someone waiting for me

Well, I found a woman, stronger than anyone I know
She shares my dreams, I hope that someday I’ll share her home
I found a love, to carry more than just my secrets
To carry love, to carry children of our own

I have faith in what I see
Now I know I have met an angel in person
And she looks perfect

The name of Judi’s book emerged. It was perfect!

Her book contains simple exercises so you can learn to embody your own life experiences, lessons, and stories.

Judi has gifts on her website for you when you purchase her book:

  • The 5 Secrets to Deep and Lasting Happiness from Marci Shimoff
  • The Feeling Body from Dr. Sue Morter
  • Activating the Healer Within meditation from Dr. Sue Morter
  • 21 Meditations on Love and eBook I Want for You What You Want for You from Janet Bray Attwood
  • The 5 Secrets to a Life of True Success from Debra Poneman

Just by going to her site: JudiMiller.Net you will receive a free eBook.

Might as Well Face It – You’re Addicted to Love

Robert Palmer’s ear worm of a song “Addicted to Love” describes love obsession in a rhythmic way:

Your lights are on, but you’re not home
Your mind is not your own
Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is what it takes

You can’t sleep, you can’t eat
There’s no doubt, you’re in deep
Your throat is tight, you can’t breathe
Another kiss is all you need

Whoa, you like to think that you’re immune to the stuff, oh yeah
It’s closer to the truth to say you can’t get enough
You know you’re gonna have to face it, you’re addicted to love

Sherry Gaba, our most recent guest admits to being addicted to love.

I’ve been married multiple times and want to relinquish the shame love addiction brings on. It’s never too late to recover.”

Sherry Gaba

Sherry Gaba is a Certified Recovery Coach and Psychotherapist. She is also the author of Infinite Recovery, The Law of Sobriety, The Marriage and Relationship Junkie, and a new book to be released Sept 22nd: Love Smacked. How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love

Love and relationship addiction are process addictions which result in the same brain activity as drug addiction. Any addict needs a fix. With love addicts, they long for an attachment when break ups occur.

The love addict chases that first high – the drug of that first love of adolescence or early adulthood.”

Sherry Gaba

The relationship addict will:

  • Over-adapt to what others want
  • Fear letting go of a relationship
  • Fear the unknown without a partner
  • Need to be in a relationship to feel whole
  • Look to others for affirmation
  • Give up who they are for fear of losing a partner

Being alone is scary for a relationship addict, and it begins with early trauma.

Sherry Gaba

Sherry was a preemie. Living for two and a half months in an incubator meant she was not held, there was no human contact or bonding, and she was fed through her feet.

I didn’t meet my mother until I was more than 2 months old, and then she was unavailable throughout child-hood. I was a love addict from the get-go.”

Sherry Gaba

It took years for Sherry to understand her obsession with love and relationships, and through therapy work she now makes choices from an embodied place rather than in desperation.

Healing from addiction is a discovery of yourself.”

Sherry Gaba

Since all addiction comes from early child-hood trauma, you may be prone to addiction yourself. Did you experience any of the following?

  • Divorced parents
  • Neglectful parents
  • Premature birth
  • Abandonment
  • Abuse
  • Child-hood injuries
  • Addicted or alcoholic parents

You may likely respond to pain as an infant would respond. As an adult you may be clingy, always looking for acceptance and recognition, and do not feel you are enough or have enough.

A love addict will unconsciously attempt to satisfy his/her need to belong in many ways. The desire is simply an illusion of what love will give you; a fantasy of what you want.”

Sherry Gaba

Sherry’s own mother married a con man after Sherry’s father died because she felt lost without her husband. Despite being 70 years old, she was vulnerable like a child searching for love and belonging, insecure and needy.

Sherry’s mother was taken advantage of financially, physically, and emotionally by a man she likely did not love.

An illusion which was devastating to the whole family.”

Sherry Gaba

Sherry can help you and loved ones heal from the addictions related to love, relationships and codependency. Becoming aware is the first step.

Her gift to help you become more aware is an eBook titled: “The Truth About Codependency

Inside is a special invite to join her Wake Up Recovery Facebook Community

If you want to be in a healthy relationship start by empowering yourself to be happy in your own skin. Have confidence to say what you feel and be strong on your own.

If you expect someone else to fill you up, you will always be disappointed. Break your addiction to love!