Linda Carroll was once teaching an interpersonal communication class. During the “debate” section of the course, Linda tried an activity she called PILLOW TALK. This simple activity proved to be the foundation for inspiration to write a book about love and relationships.
Each person sat on a pillow on the floor. The first person stated his/her argument. When he/she was done, the second person sat on the same pillow and took on the argument of the opposing party. It worked so well, Linda tried it later on as a counselor.
“I worked with a couple on “lock down”. They needed therapy. They were ready to split despite having a good thing going. They had an issue around money, and they couldn’t work it out. The guy believed money was a means to pleasure. He had it, he spent it.
His partner believed money was security. Starvation was her concern. They had been together for many years, but were ready to leave each other.”
When they first came into the room with Carroll as counselor, they began screaming at each other about their own points of view.
“I remembered PILLOW TALK and asked if they’d be willing to try something. I had them each talk about their position, and then they switched places. I had them each talk about the viewpoint of their partner as if it were their own viewpoint.”
The man began to share how he’d grown up in a migrant family and there was never enough money. He’d wanted a basketball one Christmas, and only received socks.
The woman spoke about her father and mother who were dreamers. They were always starting something, and always spent money they didn’t have until they finally ended up homeless.
“When they got each other’s story, and they got each other’s differences, and they talked about it from the other persons viewpoint, they started laughing.”
us to remember:
Neither of them changed their position on the issue, but they developed empathy for each other.
They realized the other person wasn’t bad or wrong
“If couples knew more skills dealing with love, they wouldn’t need therapy.”
Linda Carroll is the author of Love Cycles and Love Skills, which was launched last Friday on Valentines Day, February 14 2020. Her books are for people who aren’t so smart in how to thrive in relationships.
Although PILLOW TALK is not a focus of her books, it illustrates well why all of us need the skills Linda teaches.
is so valuable. She tells us the difference between LOVE and LOVING. She
teaches us the Cycles of Love, which are:
DOUBT AND DENIAL
There are quiz’s and exercises to take alone or with your partner. If all else fails, try a little PILLOW TALK
Many of our radio guests have made reference to A Course in Miraclesbook. They lovingly call it “the course.” I have not read this bible of conscious thought, but it’s been on my “must read” list for a while now.
In preparation for today’s show with Pam Grout I read her latest book called, “A Course in Miracles Experiment”. I was hooked quickly. In fact, after spending a few hours last night reading Pam’s book, I woke up at 2:30 this morning (and since I couldn’t sleep) I read more of her book until the alarm went off around 5:30.
I’m the very person these books have been written for. I live in a problem mindset, rather than a possibilities mindset. Pam’s wisdom put me in a good mood, despite the lack of sleep, and I’m living in a sense of “it’s possible” today.
Pam’s book was written to simplify A Course in Miracles, and to help those who found the original a little dry and “long winded”. She began creating it by blogging about each lesson of “the course” which she still completes every year.
“A Course in Miracles was just the thing that really captured my attention to do for longer. I’m one of those dabbers that practice a lot of spiritual searching.”
Teachings of God when Pam was young lost appeal as she grew older. The strictness of the belief did not ring true for her. She had to let go of those tenets and be open to other possibilities; how this “divine buzz” comes to us.
“A Course in Miracles felt like my path. It’s the one spiritual practice I kept doing year after year.”
Eventually the teachings started to stick, and Pam is still learning. She will always be a student of A Course in Miracles.
“The course teaches the message of love; the message of a bigger truth; getting rid of all the blocks to love and peace; and discovering who we really are.”
Pam tells us there is a spiritual presence here for us at all times, and that it’s exciting to understand what life really is for each of us.
Her latest book began in January 2018 when Pam once again started the course. Each day she’d blog about each lesson, and her perspective of the wisdom taught. Those following her blog began to suggest she write a book. After ignoring those requests for a few months, Pam finally decided to do just that. Thus, A Course in Miracles Experiment was created.
“There are those people who love the book (A Course in Miracles), and those who hate the book, thinking it’s boring. My task was to make it a little more fun.”
Pam declares that, like me, you do not need to have read A Course in Miracles before reading her book, A Course in Miracles Experiment. If you don’t feel called to read the original, Pam simplifies the lessons in her book.
“We want to be who we really are: God’s son or daughter, and we all have assignments – the things we are meant to do. The guidance is available to all of us, and the answers come easily.”
I highly recommend Pam’s books. I’ve only read this one, but the way she writes is so entertaining, I’m sure any of her creations are worth delving into.
Please look into a charity Pam set up for her late daughter, Taz Grout’s 222 Fund formed because of an inside “joke” of sorts Pam and her daughter shared. Now, Pam is offering gifts and love to people in need.
The Hedgehog is also special to Pam. She and her daughter sent a hedgehog to each other each month. It is through these two symbols (222 and Hedgehogs) which Pam continues to feel close to her daughter since Taz’s untimely death. You can read more about Pam’s experiences in her book.
Today’s guest,Sora Garrett is not just another organizational guru. Sora caused me to consider an expanded view of “clutter” in all areas of my life. I’m so happy her newest book, Simply Enough, Create Space for What Matters was launched this week. I needed to grow awake in this area.
Which of my belongings make me most happy?
Are any of my possessions no longer aligned with who I am becoming?
How would losing all (or most) of my possessions impact me?
What were the times when I had enough…more than enough…not enough?
“Until you know what truly matters where you are right now, you won’t know what you truly need to get where you are going”
In her book, Sora encourages us to make two lists:
A JOY LIST – a reminder of your destination, and what you want to keep for the journey
A CLUTTER LIST – the possessions and areas of your life that feel heavy or burdensome.
“Choose 3 things from your CLUTTER LIST to give someone who will appreciate it, or a thrift store where it can be found by someone who needs it.”
A STORY OF NOT ENOUGH
I love the parable about a woman who has the opportunity to tour both heaven and hell. The woman is first taken to hell, through the fiery gates and into a large room. What she sees is completely different than the images of hell she was taught as a child. There are tables and tables overflowing with food of every kind, goblets of golden wine, music, bounty everywhere. Yet the people sitting around the tables look famished and miserable. The woman is puzzled, but then she notices something strange. The people in hell are holding long spoons, but their arms are unable to bend so it is impossible for them to feed themselves. So even though the people are sitting around tables laden with a generous supply of food, they are starving. Interesting, she thinks, and asks to be taken to heaven. She walks through a different set of gates, these pearly, into another large room. Astonished, she sees exactly the same setting: tables overflowing with food, goblets of wine, music, people sitting around the tables with long spoons and unbending arms. But in heaven, the people are smiling, laughing, dancing and glowing with good health. There is one simple difference. In heaven, the people have learned to feed each other. In hell, they are still holding on.
Simply Enough, Create Space For What Matters page 68
I learned today to stop holding on. Will you join me?
“Everything you thought was true is crumbling before your eyes; Everything you thought you were, you don’t know any more. I was in a shamanic death and rebirth; a dark night of the soul; a shamanic dismemberment. I was being squeezed through finer and finer sieves until my pulverized parts were primordial goo. I stumbled out of the crucible, and I had perspective.”
Rev., Dr. Stephanie Red Feather
Rev. Stephanie Red Feather, Ph.D., is the founder and director of Blue Star Temple. She is an ordained shamanic minister, holds a bachelor’s degree in applied mathematics and master’s and doctorate degrees in shamanic studies from Venus Rising University. She also calls herself a Divine Feminine change agent and a champion of Empaths.
Stephanie was our guest this past Tuesday where she shared her thirst for learning; her intensity, drive, and energy. She also shared (the quote above) her transformation upon the discovery of her long-lost empathic abilities.
Stephanie is the author of :
She hasn’t always known she was an Empath, because her skills took time to evolve. Stephanie was a very sensitive child, easily sensing the needs of others. Now she helps others to discover and hone their empathic abilities.
You might have the same question I had: What is an Empath?
“A quality we possess; something we can access to build a bridge to another person to be able to SEE things in their perspective and walk in their shoes. Now take that quality and turn up the dial so you FEEL that perspective 24/7 – that’s an Empath.”
Rev., Dr. Stephanie Red Feather
Question: Is it learned?
“It’s a choice made at a soul level; to show up in your body with a particular energetic physiology and a refined set of sensitivities. It is something that we are. It is how we show up on this planet. Being Empathic is part of our human blueprint. At birth it’s part of our natural coding and a natural way of interacting with the world. It’s a different way to perceive energy.”
Rev., Dr. Stephanie Red Feather
Stephanie explained that we likely all have these qualities, and we expressed them as a child. Sadly however, we likely learned to shut them down from others who’d lost their own sensitivity, and therefore didn’t understand our own.
“Life experiences will determine if our natural empathic abilities get turned on.”
FIVE QUALITIES OF AN EMPATH:
Ability to merge with and absorb the energy of other beings; people, animals, anything with a life force.
Highly sensitive nervous system. It’s easy to get overwhelmed.
Great sensitivity to energies around us and an ability to perceive or access subtle information stored in the energy field of other sentient beings. May see the dead, apparitions or angels.
Premium placed on peace and harmony.
Big open heart, and desire to serve others. We may tend to deplete ourselves putting others first and ourselves last. Prone to service-oriented professions.
All these qualities exist on a sliding scale. You could peg high in one of these areas, and low on a few others. There is no threshold for which you’re deemed an Empath or not. You are either a conscious Empath, or an unconscious Empath.
Does this resonate with you? Stephanie’s book is a tremendous resource. We are in a cycle of ascension. Time is moving faster, and vibration is rising. Empaths are here because it’s time for them again. They are here to usher in the next phase of consciousness; to heal the heart.
“I am here to support people in their spiritual awakening.”
“You’ve had a bad day. You’re in a hurry to get to home, but you must stop by the grocery store. Then, you have to wait in line to pay for your purchases. You’re feeling angry, stressed, and ready to erupt.“
“You glance down at a baby in the shopping cart ahead of you in line. She smiles. The sweet, chubby baby smiles at you. Your anger is diffused, and your attitude immediately changes. That’s a miracle. A miracle is an act of creation.
We can manifest, recognize, and create simple miracles everyday.”
Jim provided me and our listeners with inspirational nuggets. I’ve listed a few for you…
“Simplexity – Life is simple, but we humans bring complexity to it.”
“Each of us needs to reveal to ourselves who we truly are.”
“One of the crimes with which society is most concerned at this time is identity theft – stealing your identity for the purpose of gaining access to your assets. Each of us is the greatest perpetrator of identity theft that can be imagined. We have stolen our own identity by denying our True Self.”
“Distraction happens when we attach ourselves to “things” rather than the experiences we are having.”
“There isn’t a new, right, or wrong path in life. Your life IS your path.”
“The stress we feel in life is partly because we try to live up to the expectations of others. Instead, we should simply live life as our true self.”
“We have to be self-serving to serve others. We serve humanity by living our truth.”
“You cannot long for something which you’ve not already experienced.”
“We are always living our life’s purpose. The purpose of life is the progressive realization of truth. Our life’s purpose is getting to the truth of who we are.”
“There is no such thing as unconditional love, because any love upon which there is a condition is not love.”
Create miracles everyday by living as Jim Phillips suggests…
Imagine you’re an average person who enjoys animals and the world around you. Imagine you’ve never had the inkling to write anything, let alone a book. Then, imagine one day you hear a clear, distinct voice say, “The book is ready”.
What would your next action be? Would you sit down and write, and what would you write? Imagine you receive dictation by way of emotions, visions, and pictures in your mind from a herd of horses. Imagine the horses provide you with an understanding of the world you never had before.
Helen Brennand, our guest today had a similar experience to the one I’m describing. She never dreamt she would write anything, but she heard a voice, and although she resisted for a time, the book is now published and titled Belief.
A dialogue with the horses she cared for needed to be “let out” Helen explains.
“It was a phenomenal time. The learning opened a new world to me. I felt blissful in a time of grief. They invited me to move out of my comfort zone into a new life.”
Helen was experiencing stream-consciousness writing. It was instantaneously flowing from one thing to another. She wrote a couple pages a day. It was very healing and cathartic to her.
“It was like I was being set free.”
Helen was present with animals her whole life. She had rescued them, or helped them, when needed. She supported charities and took in a few horses who needed a home.
As Helen spent time observing the animals and using hands-on healing work, they began to communicate with her, offering understanding.
Helen herself lost a child and was just getting through each day. The horses took her into a deeper journey of love and understanding, which nurtured her, embraced her, and helped her see the joy within her grief.
“The horses carried me in a way that not even a close friend could have done. I surrendered to everything. They grabbed me, and I’m glad they did.”
Every level of communication came through the horses in a methodical, clear way. The order of information “blew her away”. She was amazed that animals were able to get her on the right track.
“I had to see myself as a worthy human being that had a role and place in this creation. When you receive unconditional love energetically from another being, there is no way to deny this real experience.”
“When we tie ourselves or others down, we restrict our potential,” Donna, the horse said to Helen.
I’m envious of Helen’s great connection to her horses and other animals. You’ll enjoy reading her book, Belief. Perhaps there is a book ready for you to write, and perhaps Helen’s experience will lead you to know it’s possible when you listen, love, and live with complete freedom to create.
A song has been written to raise money for the horses being affected by the wildfires in Australia. This is a link to listen to the song yourself:
“You’re walking down the sidewalk and pass a stranger coming the other way; you’re aware of each other but there’s no connection, no interaction or engagement. Further down the sidewalk you encounter an old friend; you’re both so happy to connect and there is a mutual exchange of words, emotions, and energy between you two; there’s a wonderful energetic vibe that flows, and you both find yourselves nourished and uplifted by this vibration even as you go your separate ways down the sidewalk.”
Our guest this week, Mary McNerney draws a parallel between our current perspective of earth, and where that relationship needs to go.
Mary’s book gives amazingly simple exercises to shift into that new relationship and to learn to attune to Earth’s voice and vibration.
Mary grew up on a farm in Ohio. She was always aware of the Earth and our need for it. She went to college and law school, and was busy in her career.
One day she was home on a beautiful day. She asked herself, “what should I do today?”
Profoundly and distinctly she heard the words, “Take dictation from the Earth”
“It was the voice of our planet earth communicating with me.”
Mary didn’t know what action to take until 6 months later she heard the same instruction, “Take dictation from the earth.”
After hearing a voice the second time, Mary sat down and began to write what clearly came to her mind. A stream of dictation came quickly, making it hard for her to keep up. A group of angelic beings were also providing wise words in conjunction with the Earth.
“It was clear they were dictating a book to me. This dictation from our planet earth and the angelic beings.”
Mary doesn’t believe she has special powers. She has learned how to “allow” the dictation to come.
“We all have this innate ability. We’ve simply gotten away from our intuitive frequency. This book gives us the wisdom, guides and tools to awaken our ability to talk with the Earth.”
What does the Earth have to say?
“What I really want to convey to you is what I am about now, because that will help you and human consciousness understand more completely what your role is in conjunction with mine. We are a ‘togetherness,’ which is something that humankind has missed to comprehend, failed to understand, for quite some time, for eons. Now in this time, it is the time for humanity, and what the human consciousness represents, to awaken to the ‘togetherness of what we, you and I, truly are. We are one soul. We are one consciousness traveling together.”
What do angelic beings (WE) have to say?
“Now, we will ask you to similarly connect with your own heart, your own inner beingness. There too you will find not only your own rhythms but also your connection to the entire world, the entire life stream around you. This is the divinity that flows to you and through you—the same divinity, which is the current flowing through your Earth. As you link to the divine within you, you simultaneously link to the current and feeling and pulse of your Mother Earth. One is not separated from the other.”
Our interview with Mary was astounding. Her book offers exercises for each of us to practice and become perfected in our ability to communicate with, and draw strength from, our Mother Earth.
Mary provides simple exercises dictated to her from Mother Earth and WE – the angelic hosts.
“The purpose of these exercises is to demonstrate for us our connection on a physical, bodily level, connecting first to our body and then to our Earth’s body, one and the same. As simple as the exercise may seem, the importance cannot be lost. As you tune your vibration first to yourself and then to Her, you build and strengthen the vibrational force field vibrating through you, the both that is one.”
On Tuesday’s Life Mastery Radio show we spotlighted 4 individuals doing amazing work for our communities, youth, and individuals through a nonprofit. Each has a unique story and compelling reason to connect their experiences and talents with people who need help.
Cseeszka Borjigin (known as Chay) was told by a doctor in 2015, “your organs are shutting down. We can do surgery with a 50% chance you’ll survive, and if you do, this will happen to you again. You’ve got about 3 months to live.”
Chay refused the surgery, went home and prayed, “Lord, I sure hope you have a plan B because plan A isn’t going to work for me.”
is well, and sees patients in her home and over the phone. Her patients can’t
afford traditional medicine, and Chay never charges them. Sometimes she pays
for their supplements out of her own pocket.
Chay is looking for real estate to build The Cultivating Wellness Center as a nonprofit to serve the medically under-served and heal them whole body, soul, and spirit. You can call Chay at 720-662-1511
Please consider donating to Chay’s cause.
Brian Hanson was living a life of adventure. He was the lead singer in a band called ALMOST, president of a manufacturing company at the age of 24, pioneered the concept of home theater, started one of Chicago’s first internet service providers, became an RN at 57 working with patients who’d suffered traumatic brain injury; and then he became a patient with traumatic brain injury following an untimely death…twice.
Brian now works with The Bison Foundation:BrainInjurySupport: Operational and Neurological. Their mission is to: enrich the day-to-day lives of the brain injured with strategies to improve the possibility of their recovery.
Brian became emotional a few times during our interview as he voiced gratitude for programs such as BISON that have helped him to heal, and offered support during the process.
Like Chay, Brian is seeking donations to build a facility to
treat those persons with brain injuries. Brian is also seeking an agent to support
his personal goal of professional speaker.
Kym Coan has championed several successful companies over the past 30 years. She brings her previous corporate communications experience as an advertising/public relations executive to serve and empower future entrepreneurs. Her passion is helping startups execute a powerful launch.
With her husband Boaz, Kym has begun Rebound Financial Resources, a nonprofit whose mission is to empower individuals with knowledge, resources and services to establish, restore, and secure a better financial future.
“Learn, recoup, and rebuild your finances. We sit down with people and help them create a plan of success.”
Rebound Financial Resources provides the Fostering Financial Freedom program for youth, which serves all children, and even those who’ve aged out of foster care.
Kym offered a gift to all our listeners today to help you understand the FICO system: an ebook titled FICO Decoded. To get this helpful resource, simply email firstname.lastname@example.org and in the subject line place: “Send me the book”
Please consider donating to Kym’s cause.
Action Verb, Connector, and Muse, JO Welch was another guest on our show. She is multi-talented in her own right, and she also supports Brian in his mission at The Bison Foundation.
Jo belongs to a large network of followers, and many of them are deaf. She performed a great service to our non-hearing listeners as she signed for them throughout the show.
JO also introduced a nonprofit close to her heart, which was begun by her teenage child: the Mystic River Theater Company. The founders of MRTC want to form a theater group that will be inclusive and bridge the gap across miles and identities.
The Mystic River Theater Company is founded on principles that theater should be accessible and accepting of all. They’re looking for a location in Massachusetts so the love of theater can be shared with an audience of all backgrounds. They are ambitiously hoping to produce a musical the summer of 2020.
You can explore all the resourceful help JO Welch offers her clients at www.AskJO.org
Please consider donating to JO’s causes.
I enjoyed being part of this amazing show spotlighting nonprofit organizations doing good for our youth, individuals and communities. If you’d consider looking at one more up-and-coming nonprofit I’d appreciate it.
I’m Jackie Bailey. For many years I’ve been teaching children, youth, and adults how to find their core beliefs; and to discover the experiences that taught them those beliefs. I’ve seen the empowering outcome when a child can barely look me in the eye on the first day of class, to several weeks later telling an inspiring personal story about a value they hold dear.
My goal is to help all persons SPEAK with power; FEED others in word and deed, and to LEAD with positive influence.
It’s not enough any longer to educate only the youth in my own community; I want to give children worldwide the same opportunity. Thus, I’m starting a nonprofit organization called THE SPEAK FEED LEAD PROJECT.
I hope to enter schools and neighborhoods around the globe teaching children how to tap into the POWER of VOICE; the POWER of SERVICE; and the POWER of LEADERSHIP.
Todd serves on my board of directors, and we’d appreciate your support by way of donations of money, goods, or services.
“We are all affected by First Responders, whether we know it or not. They have the drive and passion to make a difference in our communities every day. Their lives should be fulfilling, instead they’re losing their lives.”
Captain Dan Willis
Imagine a day at work, when every person you encounter lies to you. Imagine they run from you, or call you names like “pig”. Imagine those people who do approach you are confrontational and violent.
As your day goes on, you encounter someone recently deceased…. a child…. the victim of a fatal traffic accident or medical emergency. Imagine your goal is to make life better for people, but no one respects you, thanks you, or gives you compassionate support.
How would you feel after just one day of such emotional trauma?
Our guest this past Tuesday was Captain Dan Willis, a retired La Mesa California police officer. His days…. every day for 26 years…were filled with emotional trauma investigating the most heinous aspects of life:
Crimes of violence
SWAT Team Standoffs
“You become a victim of the profession. The job not only affects you, but your colleagues, and community. Suicide is the number one cause of death for First Responders. It accounts for more than all other deaths combined. Half the people who start their careers as First Responders never finish.”
Captain Dan Willis
Emotional trauma for First Responders may result in:
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Lack of connection in relationships
Over reaction to normal events
Anger and irritation
“Any one of these symptoms is a red flag. If you notice a change in the personality of a loved one – take notice.”
His literary work contains more than 40 wellness strategies for anyone dealing with any trauma, and we ALL experience trauma multiple times during our life.
Captain Dan’s methods should be part of OUR everyday healing.
“We should build resilience, and experience constant wellness. Bulletproof your inner spirit so you won’t be crippled by trauma.”
Captain Dan Willis
Healing from his own PTSD, Captain Dan explained his treatment included EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
Since PTSD is an injury to the brain, you can recover from it. In fact, it only took one miracle treatment with EMDR for Captain Dan to be able to remember all the trauma he’d experienced and not go into the deep, dark thoughts he would before the treatment.
I learned so much about PTSD, and how trauma injures the brain. Captain Dan is educating First Responders and the rest of us about very important aspects of healing.
You think YOU have bad days?
“When we kiss our spouse goodbye to go to work each day, we think to ourselves, ‘I hope I get to see you again.‘”
Captain Dan Willis
The next time you have opportunity to interact with a First Responder, please express your appreciation. Consider the sacrifice they make for you every day.
“Think about how precious life is. The way to experience the most, and be fulfilled is to be loving, caring and compassionate. Have a purpose beyond yourself. Take meaningful action for others and be helpful.”
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