Are you a business owner who has considered writing your own book someday? Could a book be a powerful driver of your business growth? How can you get your expertise out of your head so readers and potential customers can find you?
Our most recent guest,
Mary E. Knippel, helps people like you do just that. She is fabulous at guiding
you to dive deep into your own stories and bring them out into the world.
Mary has also led contributing authors to publish a compilation book titled Written in her Own Words.
Mary relies on 35 years of experience as a journalist to ask provocative questions which uncover the heart of your message with clarity and compassion.
“I grew up in a small town on a farm. I had a playhouse where I would go and write in my journal. I’ve always known the answers were at the end of a pen.”
Mary’s career began as a secretary. She was always editing and rewriting
her boss’s work. Today she is still correcting the grammar of others.
“I’m the catalyst, muse, and cheerleader. Your story matters and you are the only one who can tell it from the inside out.”
Mary encourages her writing clients to be courageously transparent and vulnerable on the page. When it’s in print and somebody else has your book in their hands, they will be impacted by your story.
“You as the author are talking soul to soul because you put your heart on the page.”
Many people come to Mary
and make the following statements:
I don’t know where to start…
I don’t know what to say….
I don’t know what people can learn from me…
Mary’s solution:
“I’ll give them a writing prompt and say, ‘pick up your pen, set a timer for 5 minutes, and simply allow your pen to move across the page in response to the prompt’. Your heart knows what to write.”
Mary believes when your
pen is moving across the page you are creating from a different part of your
brain than when your hands are on a keyboard.
“When you’re grasping a pen it slows your head down so you can get your thoughts on paper. People have claimed they can’t read their own handwriting, and it doesn’t matter. You are making a connection to the page.”
Mary’s memoir, The Secret Artist is a series of essays she wrote before, during, and after her second breast cancer experience. She is an example of the ways she encourages people to show up where they are.
“It’s time you talked about your story. Think about when you were a kid. How did you lose yourself? Which activity carried you away for hours? Where does that show up in your life today?”
Mary suggests you may
also consider the first job you were paid for.
“I had a client who was
10 years old when she got a job babysitting a newborn. Because she had a disabled
brother, the young mother knew my client was capable of watching her baby.
I said to my client, ‘you were a ten-year-old who convinced an adult you could take care of a newborn. Don’t you see how that has been in your DNA your entire life?’
When my client gave this story at a professional meeting, the audience saw another side of her. They saw her humanity. She built rapport with many women at that event because she talked about babysitting.”
Mary takes pleasure in coaxing that type of information out of her clients. Not everything that goes in your journal is going to be published on Amazon, but she knows looking at all of your truth helps you decide where your story will go.
“We’re all storytellers and nothing is random.”
Mary sees our stories as part of a beautiful tapestry. We all have a thread, and if our thread isn’t there the picture isn’t complete. She helps people show up on the tapestry to represent who they are and what they believe.
“Many people believe their personal story doesn’t belong in business. No! Your personal story is the heart and soul of your business.”
Have you reader, been thinking to yourself, “Someday I’ll get around to writing my book”?
Here’s Mary’s response to that : “Someday isn’t a date on the calendar. So, if you’re serious, then put a date on the calendar to mark when you want your book published. Then we can begin planning.”
Create a working title for your book
Purchase a URL for that working title
Get your content on paper
Figure out who you’re writing for
What do you want them to walk away knowing?
What do you want them to do when they finish your book?
How are you going to impact them and inspire them?
What’s on the shelves where you think your book is going to be?
“Who are you in competition with, or how are you filling the gaps of what’s already out there?”
“It’s for women who need space to tap into their creativity and what they want to accomplish in this wild, wonderful world. We’ll do some writing and hands on activities to get your juices flowing.”
Mary is looking for authors who are longing to get that story out. They will be an Amazon bestseller because that’s part of her program.
Volume 2 of her compilation book In Her Own Words is coming out in July 2024. You could be an author in July by writing your first draft and at the retreat!
Mary is offering a freebie of writing prompts to help you get started. Click HERE to accept her gift.
“You will receive a writing prompt every day in your email or a text, whichever way you choose. Unleash the writer in you!”
Monday, October 2nd is a workshop with Mary called Telling My Untold Story. Check out details HERE.
Our recent guest, Danny Carroll reports another startling statistic:
The Average cancer patient in America is worth $1 million to the medical system
“There is a strong incentive to diagnose as many people as possible with cancer.”
Danny wants to be wrong about this assumption, however his years of experience leave him to draw no other logical conclusion.
He’s a lawyer by education and spent his working life in consulting asset management and venture capital. Although Danny is not a doctor, he started his journey in about 2,005.
“I had a friend in Bombay who was diagnosed with cancer. She had no insurance and couldn’t afford treatment. I ran a marathon to raise money for her. I raised a lot of money.”
When Danny’s friend went into the hospital to begin treatment she looked well and healthy to the point you’d never suspect she had cancer. During treatment she’d message him…
“Danny, I don’t know what these doctors are doing, but it feels like they’re putting poison in my veins.”
A nurse places a patient’s chemotherapy medication on an intravenous stand at a hospital in Philadelphia on Aug. 4, 2015. (AP Photo/Matt Rourke, File)
Danny relates…
“In my ignorance, I strongly encouraged her to continue the treatments. And within 3 rounds of Chemo, she died. I had funded her treatment, and ensured her compliance to the treatment, and when she died I was absolutely devastated.”
Danny thought to himself…
“I’m going to search to the ends of the earth to find a better solution to this problem, and I’m going to find the cure for cancer.”
Danny began studying everything that looked like a potential
solution. He studied
Nutritional healing
Emotional healing
Spiritual healing
Energy healing
Conventional medicine
“I found with all of these systems, I could be in a situation where I had 2 people with the same diagnosis on the same protocols, and one would live, and the other die.”
Then, Danny discovered Germanic Healing Knowledge (GHK) developed by Ryke Geerd Hamer, MD.
GHK helped Danny discover reasons for a chronic condition he’d been suffering from, and how to heal it once and for all.
”For 6 months my entire body was riddled with golf ball sized knots in my calf muscles, thighs, arms, and back.
The physical therapist would iron these knots out through an excruciating process which left me bruised all over.
It would help temporarily, but a few days later the knots were back. While on this merry-go-round, I was dating an American diplomat. We were both living in Bombay and her 2 year posting was expiring. She was being sent to Chile.
Though we had become soulmates, we concluded we’d have to terminate our relationship because nobody in their right mind has a long distance relationship between South America and Southeast Asia.
On the Friday evening before she was due to leave, we had a candid discussion about the state of our lives. We agreed to try this ridiculous long distance relationship and see if it fizzled out naturally rather than terminate the relationship altogether. When I awoke Saturday morning, all of the knots that were in my body for 6 months had magically disappeared.”
Overnight, Danny’s medical condition had been resolved. He concluded after learning from the teachings of Dr. Hamer that those knots were put there because Danny was going in the wrong direction in life. He was planning to terminate a relationship with his soulmate, who today is his wife.
“Our subconscious has the ability to trigger various biological programs in order to help us address an issue. In my particular case, the biological program was meant to slow me down and keep me from running in the wrong direction.
When my soulmate and I agreed to not terminate our relationship, the problem was solved. The knots disappeared as magically as they came.”
Danny suspected there could be a similar mechanism between cancer and the mind.
Dr. Hamer’s work reported a 92% success rate healing terminal cancer patients using a form of mind body medicine. He concluded after 39 years of research that cancer is essentially a survival biological program. Cancer is there to help us, not there to hurt us.
“If you travel to a cold climate, you’ll find street dogs with long hair. You go to a hot climate, and the dogs have short hair. That’s the way nature adjusts, and it works. It works the same for humans.”
Danny used an example to illustrate the way this works for
humans.
“The biological purpose of mammary glands in a woman’s breast is to lactate when the woman is pregnant and/or nursing. This makes the breast fundamentally a nurturing piece of equipment.”
Many breast cancers are formed in the mammary ducts, and
according to Danny, these “cancers” may develop when the woman metaphorically wants
or needs to nurture a loved one.
The body creates added tissue in the breast as a nurturing trigger. Doctors may diagnose this as cancer, start chemotherapy, and even remove the breast. Danny has seen, though, that when the nurturing crisis is over, the breast tissue will return to normal.
“It doesn’t matter whether the breast is there or not. The biological program runs in your brain. This is the control center. The cause of the problem is the life crisis. The organ is just a symptom of the problem.”
You can only heal yourself, but you must first understand the cause of the problem.
Danny Carroll was a very timely guest since Todd announced on the show that he has been diagnosed with cancer in his neck on the back of his tongue. He is slated to begin chemotherapy and radiation soon.
Of course, Danny highly discourages Todd from going that route, and suggested the cause for the added tissue in Todd’s throat.
“There is a problem in your life you’re having a hard time swallowing. Because the carcinoma is also affecting your tongue, this means there is a trigger related to speaking as well.
Todd, figure out the problem, solve it, and the tumor will go away.”
Today, people come to Danny who are terminally ill, and he reports a 70% success rate – meaning patients are able to solve the problem that caused the trigger, and they are healed.
On Danny’s website https://danny-carroll.com/ you can find a 400 page downloadable book which addresses every disease known to man so you can identify the cause of a problem with snipers-rifle precision.
“When you identify the cause of the problem with the symptoms of the problem, you can switch cancer off like a light switch.”
I highly recommend you turn on your curiosity switch and get Danny’s book so you can keep yourself and your loved ones free from radical medical procedures that aren’t treating the problem. They’re actually combatting your body’s natural, biological, healing process.
Won’t you join me in prayers for Todd? Pray he can discover the cause and trigger of his situation and fully heal without chemotherapy and other harsh treatments.
The odds were against our recent guest, Saylor Cooper, from the very start.
“My twin sister and I were born 3 months prematurely in 1993 in Conroe Texas. Our lungs were small and underdeveloped. We weren’t expected to survive and were hospitalized for about 4 months.”
Because Saylor was on a ventilator to help him breathe, he developed a condition called Retinopathy of Prematurity (ROP) where the blood vessels of the eyes leak because of too much pressure. His retinas detached.
“Like a true Texan, I wrangled through all of that. Despite the surgeries to repair my eyes I was left with limited sight. I can see shadows and shapes up close, but I can’t make out details.”
Saylor Cooper
Saylor’s twin sister had a more positive outcome to the surgeries to repair her retinopathy, and Saylor came out fighting!
Saylor was mainstreamed into both public and private schools. He also went to a school for the blind to learn more technology. He attended college for two years.
“I’m pursuing entrepreneurship because it’s hard for people with disabilities to find employment. There are so many barriers.”
His go-getter attitude pushes Saylor to consistently overcome his challenges.
“There’s a lot of people who just sit back on the sidelines thinking I can’t do it. I am not that person.”
Getting his education in both the United States and Mexico, Saylor is bilingual in English and Spanish. He also reads Braille. He participated in sports such as swimming, snow skiing, and scuba diving.
The world of
ever-advancing technology helps Saylor every day. He uses a Braille keyboard, a
tool that reads text on a computer screen, and another which has a talk-back
feature.
“I enjoy reading inspirational books, and interviewing others on my podcast who are also blind, or who live with all kinds of disabilities. So many people have inspired me throughout life.
I’ve interviewed a PGA World Champion who has no hands, a woman who went her whole life without knowing she has dyslexia, and a father who was not diagnosed with autism until his son was diagnosed.”
From the time he was very young, Saylor dreamed of being on the radio.
One summer, Saylor attended a radio broadcasting course at the school for the blind. That led to a broadcasting apprenticeship with Houston’s New Country Radio 100.3 FM.
“I’d get discouraged once in a while because there were so many buttons to push, and I didn’t know which buttons were the correct ones.
Thankfully a good friend of mine, who’s also blind, introduced me to the station playlist, playback software, and remote voice tracker where I could record voice tracks making a radio show sound like it’s live when it’s actually automated. That led me to create Real Variety Radio.”
On Saylor’s show you’ll hear popular hits from the seventies to today’s hits; country, from the classics to today’s hottest Nashville icons; and in the evenings you’ll hear a mix of classic rock and roll.
“Listeners can crack open a cold beer, sit by the bonfire and dance.
A big shout out goes to Dakota Caldwell. He does the Christian show on Sunday mornings.”
Saylor has aspirations for professional speaking, including hosting in-person events. His book is available in paperback and on Kindle through Amazon. It’s dedicated to his mother and anyone who has overcome challenges.
“Let me share a simple truth that has become a cornerstone of my own existence. Life is not always easy, but it’s always worth it. Every moment; every breath is a precious gift from God.
From the very moment of my miraculous birth, the odds stacked against me. Standing before you, I’m reminded of the profound grace that permeates every breath we take.
Through my own experiences I’ve learned that perseverance, hard work, empathy, listening, courageous risk taking, adaptability, and surrounding oneself with a supportive tribe, can guide us through even the most arduous of circumstances.
Let us strive to persevere and adapt gracefully to life’s ever-changing tides. Let us surround ourselves with individuals who uplift us, who believe in our dreams and remind us of our own boundless potential.
As we step forward into the world, may we carry with us a renewed sense of purpose. Let us take these action items to heart. Know that you are not alone on this magnificent voyage.
May the pursuit of bliss be the guiding star that illuminates your path.”
“I wouldn’t say I was a control freak, but I was probably close to that, especially about my kids. I tried to protect them 24/7. Of course, that does not work.”
Murielle
Fellous may have a story like yours or another parent you know. Her desire to
protect her kids and influence them positively was good, but it’s an illusion
she suggests we must let go of.
“It led me to depression.”
Her
three teenaged children were acting out in ways that could have been very
dangerous, if not fatal. They were going to parties and exploring their
independence a little too much.
“I was living in anxiety every time they went out, and that’s something you cannot sustain. I got to a point when I was so low I wished I would disappear. It was too much for me.”
Murielle didn’t want to admit
she was unhappy, because she feared it would mean she didn’t love her kids.
“One night I woke up in tears. After crying and crying, I let go of the self-judgment and realized I wasn’t a horrible mom for feeling like I did. It became clear to me I could not co-create or co-parent with the Universe when I was only feeling fear, anxiety, and hopelessness.”
Murielle
learned she was not responsible to save her children, but she could save
herself through better ways to cope. She introduced us to some coping methods
she discovered:
Surrender (life would give me the tools to protect my kids when I was ready to receive them)
Meditation (self-regulating from fear to faith)
Tapping (stimulating blood-flow to the brain)
“When we are in a state of worry, our analytical brain which supplies solutions and ideas isn’t able to receive the amount of blood flow necessary to think clearly.”
What is
the next step?
“Examine your thoughts and your inner dialogue. Co-parenting with the universe is about being emotionally aligned with higher vibrational emotions than fear and worry.”
What is
the next step?
“One day my prayer was answered when my son was matched with a Big Brother. His mentor helped him for three years, and he stayed in contact with my son even after we left the country. I had found a way to be flexible with the outcome, and I received a solution.”
Stay open to solutions from a book, a person, or a program. Stay open and flexible. Something will come.
I don’t know about you reader, but I was a young mother once too. I remember having all these emotions because of the responsibility I felt had been placed on my shoulders. I felt as though it was up to me to see that my kids achieve success.
It would have been nice to have someone like Murielle to talk to back then. Someone to answer the question,
What is
the next step?
“Let go of worry when you’re that triggered, knowing you can’t use thoughts to change your thoughts. You have to go through your nervous system using a method like TAPPING.”
*At this point in our interview, Murielle went through a comprehensive demonstration of TAPPING. It’s worth your time to watch and learn more of her technique.
Tapping is a combination of ancient wisdom since it uses the same meridians in acupuncture. Tapping is acupressure as you will push on certain points of the meridians to calm your nervous system.
Tapping
adds elements of Psychology, too because you talk about your problem while Tapping.
You’re sending a message to the stress center of your brain which triggers the
fight, flight, or freeze reaction.
Tapping breaks the neural association between the problem and the anxiety. We relax. The brain starts to function better. We are clearer, we have more resourcefulness, we feel better.
“One of my kids tried to kill themselves, and I was so changed by the experience of TAPPING that even when they were in the psychiatric hospital for a week, I was able to intercept the loop of negativity.”
Murielle does a weekly podcast called Co-Parenting with the Universe. She is an intuitive life coach helping single moms prevent the downward spiraling of overwhelming guilt, powerlessness, and depression.
Because she is a facilitator, presenter, researcher, author, and co-author of a manual called Startup! a school-based arts curriculum for Native American youth and other cultures, Carey has seen the ways art therapy heals historical, generational, and current trauma.
“It’s called neurodevelopmental art therapy, and it rewires the brain from trauma, depression, and anxiety. It’s a bottom up, whole brain healing approach involving left & right brain integration.”
Carey reports that after 25 years of neuroscientific research, we know trauma cannot be healed without getting the whole brain involved. Carey teaches very specific, scientifically designed, art therapy activities that include a series of exercises to engage the 4 functioning structures of the brain.
“Art therapy is actually a master level degree requiring a graduate program specializing in art therapy. After a 3 year graduate program, I had to do a 3,000 hour internship and pass a licensing exam. Then I could register with the art therapy credentials board.”
Carey’s program uses self-directed neuroplasticity and our maladaptive stress response to help clients get off the hamster wheel of negative feedback which loops in our brain.
“Art redirects, strengthens, and rebuilds neural pathways since with trauma there’s a lot of damage that happens in our neural network. Inflammation causes damage in the brain and a hyper-arousal response on the brain causing anxiety, depression, aggression, and that fight, flight, or freeze.”
Carey explains the reason art therapy works when both sides of the brain are engaged.
“Art is a right brain activity. Verbal expression is a left brain activity. If you’re using both hands, that’s bilateral stimulation. Then, when you’re hearing instructions, it engages the auditory processing system.”
Images are created and encoded
Emotional articulation is regulated
Adaptive coping skills are developed
The brain is communicating
Carey isn’t just teaching this to clients and facilitators, she has seen firsthand the results of Art Therapy and it’s healing effects on her own trauma.
“When I was a little girl my parents were both mentally ill. My father has Asperger’s, and my mother has borderline personality disorder with severe alcoholism.
When I was 11 my family just fell apart and I ended up in the hospital from physical abuse. After a few years living with my autistic father and brother, I got kicked out of the house and found myself on the streets.
I was a young teen on drugs, and part of the Punk Rock scene in the 1980’s. That community of people saved me despite becoming a single mom in my early 20’s.”
Carey put herself through school and experienced art therapy while in a graduate program. Her trauma symptoms began to decrease, then disappeared completely.
“I know firsthand how art therapy worked on the maladapted stress response my brain was primed for. Following an exposure to mold, my body reacted with Severe Electro-Hypersensitivity Syndrome. I couldn’t be around computers, cell phones, or even cell towers because I could feel them a mile away. I healed my brain using neuro developmental art therapy and a self-directed neuroplasticity based approach called dynamic, neural, retraining system.”
Today, Carey applies her training in the Red Road approach to healing with Lakota and Dakota tribes. Working with native people, she is helping them heal and rebuild from historical and generational trauma. She sees amazing results. Art Therapy is helping!
“Our research outcomes show across-the-board reduction of anger, depression, anxiety, post traumatic symptoms, dissociation, and sexual thoughts.”
Carey is doing amazing work, and we are delighted she allowed us to introduce her labor of love on Life Mastery Radio with Todd & Jackie.
She is offering all of you a free video to start your own Art Therapy. Click here to receive Scribble your Way to Calm.
Every child needs access to this program as a prevention and intervention strategy from trauma, depression, and anxiety. It’s time to undo the damage of the pandemic and rebuild healthy building blocks in the nervous system, the sensory system, the emotional, perceptual, and cognition in the brain.
Imagine even the youngest children having healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, positive communication skills, and adaptive coping skills to deal with their own traumas.
Those words were spoken by Jonathan England’s mother after he’d been arrested for a DUI. Those words caused a shift in Jonathan’s thinking from that point on, but let’s take a few steps back…
Jonathan was twelve when his sixteen-year-old brother died of muscular dystrophy.
“I was holding his hand and watched him take his last breath. I knew he would die young, but nothing prepares you for losing an older brother.”
Representation of Jonathan and his brother
Jonathan had always been his brother’s hero and protector –
helping him dress, eat, etc. Once his brother was gone, Jonathan began to
question his own purpose.
“What am I here for? Who am I? How could there be any meaning to life if my brother didn’t even get to have one. He was stuck in a wheelchair and died at 16. Life is meaningless.”
Jonathan lost his belief in God, his parents had divorced, and
when he wasn’t able to save his brother or his family, he felt like a failure.
“I spiraled into darkness, and became a broken down, blacked out, drunken atheist, beach bum.”
After a few years, Jonathan’s transformation began with a feather stroke from the Universe.
After that came a little nudge of inspiration that says, “You should do something different”.
Being stubborn, Jonathan didn’t even notice the stronger shove from the Universe, or even when the cosmos hit him with a spiked 2 x 4.
“I had plenty of 2 x 4’s smacking me on the head, and I ignored them all until August 20th, 2015, when I woke up from a blacked-out, drunken stupor to discover I’d rear-ended a car at a stop light.
I put my truck in reverse and tried to take off down the road to escape the accident scene. But there had been a police officer sitting at the stoplight who witnessed everything.
My victim mentality kicked in and I thought, ‘that’s just my luck.’ But then I began to thank God for that police officer because he pulled me over and took me to jail.”
Jonathan calls it a blessing that he was taken to jail. It was
his mother’s birthday, and the one phone call he was allowed to make was to
her.
“I was feeling shame. No one was hurt in the accident, but they could have been. I kept hearing voices in my head and from my mother, ‘Jonathan you could have killed someone.’
Finally, I listened and thought to myself, ‘Jonathan, if your actions could have hurt someone, then your actions could help someone. That means your actions matter. If your actions matter, then YOU matter.
Since YOU matter, life is not meaningless’. In that moment I decided my actions going forward will only help people.”
Today, Jonathan England is an earth-shaker and a guide to the
highest levels of purpose and source alignment. He’s a successful real estate
investor and an acclaimed author.
Jonathan’s best-selling book is: If I Die Before I Wake where he describes the 5 Levels of Consciousness as part of the transformational journey he took to change.
The 5 Levels of Consciousness are:
Dis-Oriented
Goal Oriented
Journey Oriented
Value Oriented
Soul Oriented
Our questions direct our focus, and our focus is directing our
destiny.
“One evening I was flipping through channels late one night, and an Italian guy named Dean Graziosi comes on. He says, ‘Have you ever in your adult life felt like you should be further along than you are right now?’ I’m like, yes.”
I became Dean’s top student. Within 18 months I had made 400K; and within 2 years built a multi-million dollar empire.”
Jonathan claims we can all make shifts like he did. We can create a new identity that creates new actions, and a new reality is formed. Your reality is based on the reflection of who you believe you are.
“Seek first the kingdom, and all else will be added to you. That’s what Level 5 (Soul-Oriented) is all about. You drop from the head to the heart.”
His book teaches there are awakenings to transcend each level. Jonathan mentioned David Hawkins’ book, Power Versus Force, and the frequency chart which can be used to compare to the levels of consciousness Jonathan addresses
“Level one is shame, guilt, and apathy. At level 2, you start to get angry. Then you get to pride which is the last negative frequency.
In level 4 you start to put love back and bring all of eternity with you. It’s called Value Oriented. There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.
Level 5 is the ‘not my will, but thine be done.’ It’s a complete surrender. It’s bringing heaven to earth.”
A brilliant cut diamond has 57 facets (57 sides) to it. If you
only see one facet, you don’t even know you’re looking at a diamond.
Through inspiration, Jonathan was told to do three specific things: 1. Reinvent the educational system 2. Reinvent the monetary system 3. Unite religions.
Thus, he is the creator of an entirely self-sustained, conscious-driven, living, complex in Costa Rica. The Earth Waking Eco Village is carved from tropical lushness, where people live by spirit and alignment in service to each other in a central prosperous economy. Residents take 100% responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, actions, and reality while working in harmony with nature and each other.
Our recent guest, Anneli Driessen has been curious about these questions since her youngest childhood memories. What she has learned, and what she now teaches, is that despite our chaotic planet, the Universe is supremely organized, and we can be spiritual leaders who live happily with the crazy inconsistencies of our human existence.
“I grew up Catholic in a little coal mining town in Germany. I believed in God the Father and Jesus, but there was something that bothered me. There was a house in town where I’d been taught Satan lived.”
Anneli would typically cross the street to avoid the horrible house at the end of it, until one day when she was 7 years old, curiosity got the best of her.
Anneli walked up to the house (which ended up being a Lutheran church), and sneakily entered without being seen. She was shaking in her boots knowing she was about to see where Satan lived.
“Oh, my God, this is the end of me!”
Anneli opened the big metal front door and parted the red velvet
curtain directly inside. To her surprise there was no one there, including
Satan.
“I saw benches and a confession booth like the Catholic church had. There were flowers similar to those I’d see at Sunday meetings, and it even smelled the same as the church I attended.”
Anneli’s heart pounded as she stood there alone taking it in. This
was not where Satan lived, it was a church like the one she belonged to.
“I started to ask questions. I began a search for answers. My father took me to incredible places, and I traveled around the world. I wondered how there could be a God of love and still be so much discrimination for different beliefs.
I studied comparative religions and went to different churches. I was fascinated by the genuineness of the faithful, and it was very touching for me.”
Anneli’s experiences have led her to do what she does today. It was her calling to establish the International Metaphysical Academy in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada.
The Academy’s mission is to encourage independent thinking and provide new knowledge, self-evaluation, and personal development. Anneli provides metaphysically oriented coaching for individuals and groups and a cutting edge metaphysical graduate program.
Anneli’s approach is primarily cognitive and less experiential. She defines
Metaphysics as:
“The study of mind, energy, matter, and unexplainable phenomena that are invisible to most people. It deals with universal laws and principles of consciousness, mysticism, intelligence, spirituality, and the purpose of all life here and inside the cosmos.”
It may be nice to be a monk
living on a mountain somewhere, but how does that serve humanity?
I am inspired by that question Anneli put to our audience. It is beautiful to me that she teaches service and love as being the most important aspects of our spiritual nature. It’s not enough to achieve enlightenment if we don’t use it to enhance the lives of others.
“That’s consciousness expansion and so much of the message I share. Expansion is not a lofty goal; it’s how we act daily with authenticity.”
Anneli includes scientific discoveries she’s made herself, along with other authors, thinkers, and writers who substantiate knowledge of the spiritual world. She claims some of it is mind boggling.
~ Her Academy is for open minded people who are willing to revisit what they once believed to be true. And, it’s open to anyone who has questions.
~ Her Academy is not about control or dogma. It is not manipulation of any kind. Students face their own devils and find they are usually not real, just as in Anneli’s case.
Despite our chaotic planet, the Universe is supremely organized,
and we can be spiritual leaders who live happily with the crazy inconsistencies
of our human existence.
Our recent guest gave us food for thought (pun intended) during our interview with her. The problem Kayla Douthitt suffered from beginning at age 15 was NOT giving herself enough food.
“I was always comparing myself to other people. I played softball, so I wanted to run, bat, and pitch better. I was never good enough.”
Her desire to be better took Kayla down a misguided path. She started dieting to lose weight, thinking that’s how she would achieve the “better” status she was looking for.
Kayla entered a power struggle of perfectionist thinking. She began skipping breakfast, then lunch, then dinner. Soon, a week had passed without having any food.
“I would tell people I wasn’t hungry, or I already ate. I would drink a diet coke to fill me up, but I wouldn’t really eat anything.”
Her body, starving for
nourishment, would crave food and Kayla would binge on “junk food” in one
sitting and fill herself up with unhealthy alternatives like ice cream, peanut
butter, and everything sweet.
This cycle continued for
10 years through high school and college, hiding her habits from family and
friends.
“I think my parents knew that I was struggling. Either they didn’t want to accept it or didn’t know what to do. My mom’s diabetes affected her diet, but they didn’t understand the full problem I was experiencing because I didn’t open up to them.”
Kayla weighed herself at
least 10 times a day and eventually lost 10-15 pounds taking her to weighing
only 96 pounds. Counting calories was a constant thought.
“About 8 years ago I went through recovery and am fully recovered now. As I work with my clients, I hold myself accountable in my diet, body image, and self-care.”
Today Kayla is an anti-diet advocate and body image transformer on a mission to support parents with tools to help their child overcome low body image, negative self-esteem, and eating disorders.
She is the CEO of Wisdom ‘N Wellness, the host of What’s Eating You? Podcast, and the creator of Dangers of Dieting workshops.
There are several types of eating disorders. Kayla defined a few of them for us:
Anorexia
Self-starvation and weight loss. Compulsive exercise, distorted body image, and preoccupation with weight.
Binge Eating Disorder (BED)
Episodes of eating large quantities of food quickly resulting in shame and guilt.
Bulimia
A cycle of binge eating and self-induced vomiting.
Pica
Involves eating items not typically thought of as food and do not have nutritional value such as hair, dirt, and paint.
For Kayla, fear and control were always present throughout her years of dieting. Her relationships were affected as well because of common panic attacks, bouts of anger, and general unhappiness.
“No one wanted to be around me. I was having panic attacks first thing in the morning, or I’d have to pull off the road while driving. I wouldn’t go to parties or holiday gatherings; and at my wedding I refused to eat the wedding cake despite the tradition. I was depressed, and my husband and I wanted kids, but I couldn’t conceive. I wanted to be normal again.”
Kayla laughed when she talked about her five foot, four inch frame and how she could have been four inches taller if she’d nourished herself better during her formative years.
“I missed being tall. I messed that up.”
Kayla’s healing journey
began with therapy. It involved self-development and meditation. Then Kayla found
intuitive eating.
“Intuitive eating is eating like a baby.”
Kayla learned to focus on her body’s response to cues of hunger and satisfaction rather than weight control. Intuitive eating fosters a positive relationship with food.
“I would ask my husband what it feels like to be full. I learned to tune into my feelings of eating. I learned to trust my body and allow time for ice cream, salads, or a green smoothie. It was okay to have what I wanted.”
Kayla is now the mom of a toddler who is turning three years old soon. She learned how to care for her body to carry a baby, including rejuvenating her natural hormones.
Some of the tips Kayla
teaches are:
Meditation and being
still
Journaling
Conversation with others
and positive self-talk
Self-Care
Self-Love
Kayla hosts the What’s Eating You? Podcast where she talks to parents about communicating better with their kids and speaking more openly with them.
If Kayla could go back
in time and give her parents advice she’d say…
“Allow me to mess up. Let me fail and see what happens. Don’t expect perfection, and don’t apply pressure.”
What does Kayla tell
parents today?
“I teach parents how to help their kids with mindset and positive self-talk. I teach intuitive eating. I help parents help children to write a self-love sentence, an affirmation, things that help them feel better.”
Imagine you’re in the middle of your busy day. Suddenly you get a phone call from a family member who tells you to get to the hospital immediately because someone you love has been involved in an accident and it’s very serious.
What would you do at that moment? Would you say, “I can’t do it because I’m too busy”? Likely you’d rearrange or change your scheduled activities to be at the side of your loved one.
“I just proved to you there’s no such thing as time management. I proved you have the time, and will make the time, for things that are important to you.”
Dr. Noah is a legendary executive coach, keynote speaker, and bestselling author. He is recognized as the father of AFFORMATIONS.
“Let’s imagine I’m gonna give you a million dollars right now. Sounds great, right? There’s a catch:
~You have no time to see your family and friends, and you have to work constantly.
~You have to be sad, angry, depressed, and miserable all the time.
~You have no one to enjoy the money with; no family, friends, nor any personal relationships at all.
Would you still want the million dollars?
I just showed you through an exercise what you might get by focusing only on money. Time, Energy, and Relationships are also necessary.”
Dr. Noah mentioned there are people who have lots of money, but they’re not happy. When we learn to leverage the other factors (time, energy, and relationships) we have more wealth and happiness.
Dr. Noah grew up in a financially poor family where lack was abundant. One day he went to the library and started reading books on self-help. He read all the classics – Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, & Steven Covey.
“I did what the books told me to do, but I couldn’t seem to get the principles to work. So I started reading books by the spiritual thinkers of our time – Ernest Homes, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hey, Deepak Chopra & Donald Washington.
Years later I had an epiphany when realizing what was missing in all of these works. No one was talking about it. Since then, I’ve published over 20 books and helped our clients find over 2 billion dollars in revenue.”
So, what’s the secret?
“It is wrapped up in the title of my first book called Permission to Succeed. Most people don’t really need more how to’s of success. They need to give themselves permission to succeed.”
During our interview, Dr. Noah discussed these 4 stages of
competency.
Unconscious Incompetence
Conscious Incompetence
Conscious Competence
Unconscious competence
“The highly successful people have become Unconsciously Competent at allowing themselves to succeed. It took the nerdiest nerd in the industry (me) to systematize these unconscious habits that highly successful people are doing. Because they don’t know they’re doing it, they can’t teach it.”
Dr. Noah invented:
AFFORMATIONS.
“When you ask a question, your brain looks for the answer. Therefore, rather than make affirmation-type statements, ask a question to yourself.”
Why am I so rich?
Your brain begins to search for the answer.
We can take conscious control of the questions we’re asking. Change the questions, change your habits, change your results, and thereby change your life.
Why am I so abundant?
Why is it so easy for me to attract money?
Why am I a money magnet?
“My mission on the earth is to teach the world to AFFORM empoweringly. The Book of AFFORMATIONS has over 400 unique AFFORMATIONS in all areas of life, from health, wealth, abundance, overcoming fear, lowering your stress, relationships: whatever is keeping you from being successful in 10 major areas of life.”
Dr. Noah’s AFFORMATIONS Method is the first of 11 power habits
that unconsciously successful people practice. These AFFORMATIONS change our
subconscious thought patterns instantaneously.
Think about how often you may be telling yourself “I can’t do it because… (no time, no money, no power)”. Dr. Noah suggests asking “Why CAN I do that?”
Dr. Noah’s The 7 Figure Expert is a free book for you, and he suggests to read this one first.
If you’re suffering from “income-ceiling-syndrome” no matter
what you do, you will just keep banging your head against that income ceiling.
If you’re an action-taker, take responsibility for your life and be coachable
with Dr. Noah.
It’s time to FACE FACTS! There is so much we learn about people by examining their facial structure and details. Our most recent guest is an expert.
Joseph McGuire joined us from Dublin, Ireland to share his amazing tool for understanding sincerity and honesty in communication. It also comes in handy for negotiations when we learn to become an impartial and unbiased observer of people.
“I was reading people as a small child and intuitively knew stuff about them. In sports I could see which players were committed and which players were holding back, and a lot of other stuff like that.”
Joseph McGuire
At one point, Joseph was introduced to the ancient Chinese scale of reading faces as a diagnostic tool for mental and physical ailments. He then worked as a therapist for 30 years and was continually reading people’s faces and body language.
“People are endlessly fascinating, and when I would touch them I would know what was really going on in their life. Their stresses were being absorbed into my body. That’s when I decided to bring these techniques into the world of business.”
Joseph McGuire
Joseph teaches that we tell a story before we even open our mouths or move a muscle. We also register others’ faces in 1/17 of a second, leading us to tell ourselves a story about the face and the person behind it, whether it’s realistic or not.
Walt Disney’s Bambi
“Hollywood has been using this stuff for the last century. Look at Bambi, for example, very soft, rounded features with big eyes. When we see a face like that it triggers a soft response within us. Somebody with features like that is not a threat.”
Witch from Disney’s Snow White
“Contrast the witch in Snow White. She has very tight, angular, pointy features. Because it’s not pleasant, we aren’t attracted. Even though these examples are fictional characters, their facial features and expressions are designed to represent a particular type of personality.”
Even though as humans we have innate reactions to faces, Joseph is concerned about eliminating bias.
“I’m not about judgment, and I’m not concerned with conventional notions of beauty and attractiveness. When I’m looking at a face, I’m looking for character.”
Joseph McGuire
The first question Joseph may ask himself is about a person’s eyes. Does the person convey warmth and a genuine smile that lights up the eyes?
“We should always enter a room with a smile. It’s a muscle relaxant, it lowers blood pressure, and releases tension when we smile.”
Joseph cautions about “the social smile” people use to get on our good side. He reports that if the eyes are not engaged with their smile, it’s a red flag of insincerity.
During
election season, Joseph suggests watching politicians and celebrities with the
sound off at first, then rewind and watch again with the sound on.
“Ask yourself if what you’re watching now rings true with what you just saw and heard. You’ll often find the body language is telling you something different than what they’re saying.”
Joseph’s
book is categorized by different parts of the face. The first chapter is the
shape of the face.
“Facial shape is a very basic outline of a personality. You’re not looking for specific details especially since some of us are a mixture of 2 or 3 facial shapes.”
Joseph described Todd’s facial shape:
Todd Cudaback
“He’s an element of the rectangular shape, but he’s got a relatively broad, flat chin. He will have lots of practical ideas.”
Joseph
described my facial shape:
Jackie Bailey
“Jackie’s got that leadership look. Jackie doesn’t want you to waste her time.”
Chapter 2 of Joseph’s book looks at each half of the face. The right side of the person’s own face tells you about their professional/public persona while the left side reveals their private persona.
“The right side shows genetic influence from the mother’s side, and the left from their father’s side. I’m looking for differences, particularly with the eyes, because the eyes will often give you very different messages.”
Chapter
3 focuses on the forehead, hairline, and eyebrows.
Is the forehead vertical or sloped? A vertical forehead indicates people who like to work with structure and planning. For this type of person, it’s important to present your information in an orderly, structured manner.
“If the forehead curves back like Vladimir Putin, this person will absorb information very quickly. Therefore, they want you to speak quickly and present the information quickly.
Russian President Vladimir Putin
If the eyebrows are straight across these are people who like information in a very logical, linear manner. If the eyebrows are more curved they’ll want to connect personally with you first before you offer information.”
I don’t
want to give away too many of Joseph’s secrets because his book is very worth
owning. He goes into forehead lines, noses, mouths, and even ears. It’s all so
fascinating.
Joseph typically works with CEO’s and C-Suite individuals in terms of their personality, character, and the ways they are being perceived when they communicate. Joseph also teaches the skills of negotiation using the knowledge from his book.
“I will sometimes work with teams and managers to help with the communication between themselves. I do a lot with sales teams. l build bridges, create relationships, and help people get their message across.”
Joseph’s work helps us recognize who the person is we’re speaking to and engaging with. It’s easy to be confused or even seduced by words. Some people are incredibly articulate, very descriptive, and very convincing with their words. But we need to be able to see beyond the words.
Don’t be deceived! Learn to
let your intuition interpret what you’re visually seeing and feeling. Trust.
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I'm excited to share with you an opportunity to be part of a mastermind of people who want those outcomes, too. Imagine the power of working together as a group, providing helpful feedback and encouragement, and then even getting speaking gigs in many of the same places and stages! What could be more fun and rewarding?
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My goal for all my clients, young and...not as young, is to empower the message inside you and unveil the ways you can share it with the world. That includes finding as many potential audiences as possible.
I'm excited to share with you an opportunity to be part of a mastermind of people who want those outcomes, too. Imagine the power of working together as a group, providing helpful feedback and encouragement, and then even getting speaking gigs in many of the same places and stages! What could be more fun and rewarding?
I've partnered with the Legacy Builders network to bring SPEAKER CIRCLE to life. This is a twice monthly mastermind group for speakers and wanna-be speakers ages 16 and up. It's an affordable investment that has opportunity to reap HUGE profitable rewards.
Since this happens on the 2nd and 4th Mondays every month, the next session is happening on September 25th. It's not too late to join and get fabulous coaching and training.
Jackie Bailey Speaker Coach Hello Jackie, My goal for all my clients, young and...not as young, is to empower the message inside you and unveil the ways you can share it with the world. That include
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If your goal is to share your message with as many potential audiences as possible, then this event is for you. This workshop series was created for my community of family-serving speaker/entrepreneurs. This group minimizes the pitfalls that often get in the way of experts maximizing their ability and reaching their full potential.
Come join me, and rather than putting more things on your plate, let's get some of those troubling things off of your plate!
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