“I wouldn’t say I was a control freak, but I was probably close to that, especially about my kids. I tried to protect them 24/7. Of course, that does not work.”
Murielle
Fellous may have a story like yours or another parent you know. Her desire to
protect her kids and influence them positively was good, but it’s an illusion
she suggests we must let go of.
“It led me to depression.”
Her
three teenaged children were acting out in ways that could have been very
dangerous, if not fatal. They were going to parties and exploring their
independence a little too much.
“I was living in anxiety every time they went out, and that’s something you cannot sustain. I got to a point when I was so low I wished I would disappear. It was too much for me.”
Murielle didn’t want to admit
she was unhappy, because she feared it would mean she didn’t love her kids.
“One night I woke up in tears. After crying and crying, I let go of the self-judgment and realized I wasn’t a horrible mom for feeling like I did. It became clear to me I could not co-create or co-parent with the Universe when I was only feeling fear, anxiety, and hopelessness.”
Murielle
learned she was not responsible to save her children, but she could save
herself through better ways to cope. She introduced us to some coping methods
she discovered:
Surrender (life would give me the tools to protect my kids when I was ready to receive them)
Meditation (self-regulating from fear to faith)
Tapping (stimulating blood-flow to the brain)
“When we are in a state of worry, our analytical brain which supplies solutions and ideas isn’t able to receive the amount of blood flow necessary to think clearly.”
What is
the next step?
“Examine your thoughts and your inner dialogue. Co-parenting with the universe is about being emotionally aligned with higher vibrational emotions than fear and worry.”
What is
the next step?
“One day my prayer was answered when my son was matched with a Big Brother. His mentor helped him for three years, and he stayed in contact with my son even after we left the country. I had found a way to be flexible with the outcome, and I received a solution.”
Stay open to solutions from a book, a person, or a program. Stay open and flexible. Something will come.
I don’t know about you reader, but I was a young mother once too. I remember having all these emotions because of the responsibility I felt had been placed on my shoulders. I felt as though it was up to me to see that my kids achieve success.
It would have been nice to have someone like Murielle to talk to back then. Someone to answer the question,
What is
the next step?
“Let go of worry when you’re that triggered, knowing you can’t use thoughts to change your thoughts. You have to go through your nervous system using a method like TAPPING.”
*At this point in our interview, Murielle went through a comprehensive demonstration of TAPPING. It’s worth your time to watch and learn more of her technique.
Tapping is a combination of ancient wisdom since it uses the same meridians in acupuncture. Tapping is acupressure as you will push on certain points of the meridians to calm your nervous system.
Tapping
adds elements of Psychology, too because you talk about your problem while Tapping.
You’re sending a message to the stress center of your brain which triggers the
fight, flight, or freeze reaction.
Tapping breaks the neural association between the problem and the anxiety. We relax. The brain starts to function better. We are clearer, we have more resourcefulness, we feel better.
“One of my kids tried to kill themselves, and I was so changed by the experience of TAPPING that even when they were in the psychiatric hospital for a week, I was able to intercept the loop of negativity.”
Murielle does a weekly podcast called Co-Parenting with the Universe. She is an intuitive life coach helping single moms prevent the downward spiraling of overwhelming guilt, powerlessness, and depression.
Because she is a facilitator, presenter, researcher, author, and co-author of a manual called Startup! a school-based arts curriculum for Native American youth and other cultures, Carey has seen the ways art therapy heals historical, generational, and current trauma.
“It’s called neurodevelopmental art therapy, and it rewires the brain from trauma, depression, and anxiety. It’s a bottom up, whole brain healing approach involving left & right brain integration.”
Carey reports that after 25 years of neuroscientific research, we know trauma cannot be healed without getting the whole brain involved. Carey teaches very specific, scientifically designed, art therapy activities that include a series of exercises to engage the 4 functioning structures of the brain.
“Art therapy is actually a master level degree requiring a graduate program specializing in art therapy. After a 3 year graduate program, I had to do a 3,000 hour internship and pass a licensing exam. Then I could register with the art therapy credentials board.”
Carey’s program uses self-directed neuroplasticity and our maladaptive stress response to help clients get off the hamster wheel of negative feedback which loops in our brain.
“Art redirects, strengthens, and rebuilds neural pathways since with trauma there’s a lot of damage that happens in our neural network. Inflammation causes damage in the brain and a hyper-arousal response on the brain causing anxiety, depression, aggression, and that fight, flight, or freeze.”
Carey explains the reason art therapy works when both sides of the brain are engaged.
“Art is a right brain activity. Verbal expression is a left brain activity. If you’re using both hands, that’s bilateral stimulation. Then, when you’re hearing instructions, it engages the auditory processing system.”
Images are created and encoded
Emotional articulation is regulated
Adaptive coping skills are developed
The brain is communicating
Carey isn’t just teaching this to clients and facilitators, she has seen firsthand the results of Art Therapy and it’s healing effects on her own trauma.
“When I was a little girl my parents were both mentally ill. My father has Asperger’s, and my mother has borderline personality disorder with severe alcoholism.
When I was 11 my family just fell apart and I ended up in the hospital from physical abuse. After a few years living with my autistic father and brother, I got kicked out of the house and found myself on the streets.
I was a young teen on drugs, and part of the Punk Rock scene in the 1980’s. That community of people saved me despite becoming a single mom in my early 20’s.”
Carey put herself through school and experienced art therapy while in a graduate program. Her trauma symptoms began to decrease, then disappeared completely.
“I know firsthand how art therapy worked on the maladapted stress response my brain was primed for. Following an exposure to mold, my body reacted with Severe Electro-Hypersensitivity Syndrome. I couldn’t be around computers, cell phones, or even cell towers because I could feel them a mile away. I healed my brain using neuro developmental art therapy and a self-directed neuroplasticity based approach called dynamic, neural, retraining system.”
Today, Carey applies her training in the Red Road approach to healing with Lakota and Dakota tribes. Working with native people, she is helping them heal and rebuild from historical and generational trauma. She sees amazing results. Art Therapy is helping!
“Our research outcomes show across-the-board reduction of anger, depression, anxiety, post traumatic symptoms, dissociation, and sexual thoughts.”
Carey is doing amazing work, and we are delighted she allowed us to introduce her labor of love on Life Mastery Radio with Todd & Jackie.
She is offering all of you a free video to start your own Art Therapy. Click here to receive Scribble your Way to Calm.
Every child needs access to this program as a prevention and intervention strategy from trauma, depression, and anxiety. It’s time to undo the damage of the pandemic and rebuild healthy building blocks in the nervous system, the sensory system, the emotional, perceptual, and cognition in the brain.
Imagine even the youngest children having healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, positive communication skills, and adaptive coping skills to deal with their own traumas.
Those words were spoken by Jonathan England’s mother after he’d been arrested for a DUI. Those words caused a shift in Jonathan’s thinking from that point on, but let’s take a few steps back…
Jonathan was twelve when his sixteen-year-old brother died of muscular dystrophy.
“I was holding his hand and watched him take his last breath. I knew he would die young, but nothing prepares you for losing an older brother.”
Representation of Jonathan and his brother
Jonathan had always been his brother’s hero and protector –
helping him dress, eat, etc. Once his brother was gone, Jonathan began to
question his own purpose.
“What am I here for? Who am I? How could there be any meaning to life if my brother didn’t even get to have one. He was stuck in a wheelchair and died at 16. Life is meaningless.”
Jonathan lost his belief in God, his parents had divorced, and
when he wasn’t able to save his brother or his family, he felt like a failure.
“I spiraled into darkness, and became a broken down, blacked out, drunken atheist, beach bum.”
After a few years, Jonathan’s transformation began with a feather stroke from the Universe.
After that came a little nudge of inspiration that says, “You should do something different”.
Being stubborn, Jonathan didn’t even notice the stronger shove from the Universe, or even when the cosmos hit him with a spiked 2 x 4.
“I had plenty of 2 x 4’s smacking me on the head, and I ignored them all until August 20th, 2015, when I woke up from a blacked-out, drunken stupor to discover I’d rear-ended a car at a stop light.
I put my truck in reverse and tried to take off down the road to escape the accident scene. But there had been a police officer sitting at the stoplight who witnessed everything.
My victim mentality kicked in and I thought, ‘that’s just my luck.’ But then I began to thank God for that police officer because he pulled me over and took me to jail.”
Jonathan calls it a blessing that he was taken to jail. It was
his mother’s birthday, and the one phone call he was allowed to make was to
her.
“I was feeling shame. No one was hurt in the accident, but they could have been. I kept hearing voices in my head and from my mother, ‘Jonathan you could have killed someone.’
Finally, I listened and thought to myself, ‘Jonathan, if your actions could have hurt someone, then your actions could help someone. That means your actions matter. If your actions matter, then YOU matter.
Since YOU matter, life is not meaningless’. In that moment I decided my actions going forward will only help people.”
Today, Jonathan England is an earth-shaker and a guide to the
highest levels of purpose and source alignment. He’s a successful real estate
investor and an acclaimed author.
Jonathan’s best-selling book is: If I Die Before I Wake where he describes the 5 Levels of Consciousness as part of the transformational journey he took to change.
The 5 Levels of Consciousness are:
Dis-Oriented
Goal Oriented
Journey Oriented
Value Oriented
Soul Oriented
Our questions direct our focus, and our focus is directing our
destiny.
“One evening I was flipping through channels late one night, and an Italian guy named Dean Graziosi comes on. He says, ‘Have you ever in your adult life felt like you should be further along than you are right now?’ I’m like, yes.”
I became Dean’s top student. Within 18 months I had made 400K; and within 2 years built a multi-million dollar empire.”
Jonathan claims we can all make shifts like he did. We can create a new identity that creates new actions, and a new reality is formed. Your reality is based on the reflection of who you believe you are.
“Seek first the kingdom, and all else will be added to you. That’s what Level 5 (Soul-Oriented) is all about. You drop from the head to the heart.”
His book teaches there are awakenings to transcend each level. Jonathan mentioned David Hawkins’ book, Power Versus Force, and the frequency chart which can be used to compare to the levels of consciousness Jonathan addresses
“Level one is shame, guilt, and apathy. At level 2, you start to get angry. Then you get to pride which is the last negative frequency.
In level 4 you start to put love back and bring all of eternity with you. It’s called Value Oriented. There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.
Level 5 is the ‘not my will, but thine be done.’ It’s a complete surrender. It’s bringing heaven to earth.”
A brilliant cut diamond has 57 facets (57 sides) to it. If you
only see one facet, you don’t even know you’re looking at a diamond.
Through inspiration, Jonathan was told to do three specific things: 1. Reinvent the educational system 2. Reinvent the monetary system 3. Unite religions.
Thus, he is the creator of an entirely self-sustained, conscious-driven, living, complex in Costa Rica. The Earth Waking Eco Village is carved from tropical lushness, where people live by spirit and alignment in service to each other in a central prosperous economy. Residents take 100% responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, actions, and reality while working in harmony with nature and each other.
Our recent guest, Anneli Driessen has been curious about these questions since her youngest childhood memories. What she has learned, and what she now teaches, is that despite our chaotic planet, the Universe is supremely organized, and we can be spiritual leaders who live happily with the crazy inconsistencies of our human existence.
“I grew up Catholic in a little coal mining town in Germany. I believed in God the Father and Jesus, but there was something that bothered me. There was a house in town where I’d been taught Satan lived.”
Anneli would typically cross the street to avoid the horrible house at the end of it, until one day when she was 7 years old, curiosity got the best of her.
Anneli walked up to the house (which ended up being a Lutheran church), and sneakily entered without being seen. She was shaking in her boots knowing she was about to see where Satan lived.
“Oh, my God, this is the end of me!”
Anneli opened the big metal front door and parted the red velvet
curtain directly inside. To her surprise there was no one there, including
Satan.
“I saw benches and a confession booth like the Catholic church had. There were flowers similar to those I’d see at Sunday meetings, and it even smelled the same as the church I attended.”
Anneli’s heart pounded as she stood there alone taking it in. This
was not where Satan lived, it was a church like the one she belonged to.
“I started to ask questions. I began a search for answers. My father took me to incredible places, and I traveled around the world. I wondered how there could be a God of love and still be so much discrimination for different beliefs.
I studied comparative religions and went to different churches. I was fascinated by the genuineness of the faithful, and it was very touching for me.”
Anneli’s experiences have led her to do what she does today. It was her calling to establish the International Metaphysical Academy in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada.
The Academy’s mission is to encourage independent thinking and provide new knowledge, self-evaluation, and personal development. Anneli provides metaphysically oriented coaching for individuals and groups and a cutting edge metaphysical graduate program.
Anneli’s approach is primarily cognitive and less experiential. She defines
Metaphysics as:
“The study of mind, energy, matter, and unexplainable phenomena that are invisible to most people. It deals with universal laws and principles of consciousness, mysticism, intelligence, spirituality, and the purpose of all life here and inside the cosmos.”
It may be nice to be a monk
living on a mountain somewhere, but how does that serve humanity?
I am inspired by that question Anneli put to our audience. It is beautiful to me that she teaches service and love as being the most important aspects of our spiritual nature. It’s not enough to achieve enlightenment if we don’t use it to enhance the lives of others.
“That’s consciousness expansion and so much of the message I share. Expansion is not a lofty goal; it’s how we act daily with authenticity.”
Anneli includes scientific discoveries she’s made herself, along with other authors, thinkers, and writers who substantiate knowledge of the spiritual world. She claims some of it is mind boggling.
~ Her Academy is for open minded people who are willing to revisit what they once believed to be true. And, it’s open to anyone who has questions.
~ Her Academy is not about control or dogma. It is not manipulation of any kind. Students face their own devils and find they are usually not real, just as in Anneli’s case.
Despite our chaotic planet, the Universe is supremely organized,
and we can be spiritual leaders who live happily with the crazy inconsistencies
of our human existence.
Our recent guest gave us food for thought (pun intended) during our interview with her. The problem Kayla Douthitt suffered from beginning at age 15 was NOT giving herself enough food.
“I was always comparing myself to other people. I played softball, so I wanted to run, bat, and pitch better. I was never good enough.”
Her desire to be better took Kayla down a misguided path. She started dieting to lose weight, thinking that’s how she would achieve the “better” status she was looking for.
Kayla entered a power struggle of perfectionist thinking. She began skipping breakfast, then lunch, then dinner. Soon, a week had passed without having any food.
“I would tell people I wasn’t hungry, or I already ate. I would drink a diet coke to fill me up, but I wouldn’t really eat anything.”
Her body, starving for
nourishment, would crave food and Kayla would binge on “junk food” in one
sitting and fill herself up with unhealthy alternatives like ice cream, peanut
butter, and everything sweet.
This cycle continued for
10 years through high school and college, hiding her habits from family and
friends.
“I think my parents knew that I was struggling. Either they didn’t want to accept it or didn’t know what to do. My mom’s diabetes affected her diet, but they didn’t understand the full problem I was experiencing because I didn’t open up to them.”
Kayla weighed herself at
least 10 times a day and eventually lost 10-15 pounds taking her to weighing
only 96 pounds. Counting calories was a constant thought.
“About 8 years ago I went through recovery and am fully recovered now. As I work with my clients, I hold myself accountable in my diet, body image, and self-care.”
Today Kayla is an anti-diet advocate and body image transformer on a mission to support parents with tools to help their child overcome low body image, negative self-esteem, and eating disorders.
She is the CEO of Wisdom ‘N Wellness, the host of What’s Eating You? Podcast, and the creator of Dangers of Dieting workshops.
There are several types of eating disorders. Kayla defined a few of them for us:
Anorexia
Self-starvation and weight loss. Compulsive exercise, distorted body image, and preoccupation with weight.
Binge Eating Disorder (BED)
Episodes of eating large quantities of food quickly resulting in shame and guilt.
Bulimia
A cycle of binge eating and self-induced vomiting.
Pica
Involves eating items not typically thought of as food and do not have nutritional value such as hair, dirt, and paint.
For Kayla, fear and control were always present throughout her years of dieting. Her relationships were affected as well because of common panic attacks, bouts of anger, and general unhappiness.
“No one wanted to be around me. I was having panic attacks first thing in the morning, or I’d have to pull off the road while driving. I wouldn’t go to parties or holiday gatherings; and at my wedding I refused to eat the wedding cake despite the tradition. I was depressed, and my husband and I wanted kids, but I couldn’t conceive. I wanted to be normal again.”
Kayla laughed when she talked about her five foot, four inch frame and how she could have been four inches taller if she’d nourished herself better during her formative years.
“I missed being tall. I messed that up.”
Kayla’s healing journey
began with therapy. It involved self-development and meditation. Then Kayla found
intuitive eating.
“Intuitive eating is eating like a baby.”
Kayla learned to focus on her body’s response to cues of hunger and satisfaction rather than weight control. Intuitive eating fosters a positive relationship with food.
“I would ask my husband what it feels like to be full. I learned to tune into my feelings of eating. I learned to trust my body and allow time for ice cream, salads, or a green smoothie. It was okay to have what I wanted.”
Kayla is now the mom of a toddler who is turning three years old soon. She learned how to care for her body to carry a baby, including rejuvenating her natural hormones.
Some of the tips Kayla
teaches are:
Meditation and being
still
Journaling
Conversation with others
and positive self-talk
Self-Care
Self-Love
Kayla hosts the What’s Eating You? Podcast where she talks to parents about communicating better with their kids and speaking more openly with them.
If Kayla could go back
in time and give her parents advice she’d say…
“Allow me to mess up. Let me fail and see what happens. Don’t expect perfection, and don’t apply pressure.”
What does Kayla tell
parents today?
“I teach parents how to help their kids with mindset and positive self-talk. I teach intuitive eating. I help parents help children to write a self-love sentence, an affirmation, things that help them feel better.”
Imagine you’re in the middle of your busy day. Suddenly you get a phone call from a family member who tells you to get to the hospital immediately because someone you love has been involved in an accident and it’s very serious.
What would you do at that moment? Would you say, “I can’t do it because I’m too busy”? Likely you’d rearrange or change your scheduled activities to be at the side of your loved one.
“I just proved to you there’s no such thing as time management. I proved you have the time, and will make the time, for things that are important to you.”
Dr. Noah is a legendary executive coach, keynote speaker, and bestselling author. He is recognized as the father of AFFORMATIONS.
“Let’s imagine I’m gonna give you a million dollars right now. Sounds great, right? There’s a catch:
~You have no time to see your family and friends, and you have to work constantly.
~You have to be sad, angry, depressed, and miserable all the time.
~You have no one to enjoy the money with; no family, friends, nor any personal relationships at all.
Would you still want the million dollars?
I just showed you through an exercise what you might get by focusing only on money. Time, Energy, and Relationships are also necessary.”
Dr. Noah mentioned there are people who have lots of money, but they’re not happy. When we learn to leverage the other factors (time, energy, and relationships) we have more wealth and happiness.
Dr. Noah grew up in a financially poor family where lack was abundant. One day he went to the library and started reading books on self-help. He read all the classics – Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, & Steven Covey.
“I did what the books told me to do, but I couldn’t seem to get the principles to work. So I started reading books by the spiritual thinkers of our time – Ernest Homes, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hey, Deepak Chopra & Donald Washington.
Years later I had an epiphany when realizing what was missing in all of these works. No one was talking about it. Since then, I’ve published over 20 books and helped our clients find over 2 billion dollars in revenue.”
So, what’s the secret?
“It is wrapped up in the title of my first book called Permission to Succeed. Most people don’t really need more how to’s of success. They need to give themselves permission to succeed.”
During our interview, Dr. Noah discussed these 4 stages of
competency.
Unconscious Incompetence
Conscious Incompetence
Conscious Competence
Unconscious competence
“The highly successful people have become Unconsciously Competent at allowing themselves to succeed. It took the nerdiest nerd in the industry (me) to systematize these unconscious habits that highly successful people are doing. Because they don’t know they’re doing it, they can’t teach it.”
Dr. Noah invented:
AFFORMATIONS.
“When you ask a question, your brain looks for the answer. Therefore, rather than make affirmation-type statements, ask a question to yourself.”
Why am I so rich?
Your brain begins to search for the answer.
We can take conscious control of the questions we’re asking. Change the questions, change your habits, change your results, and thereby change your life.
Why am I so abundant?
Why is it so easy for me to attract money?
Why am I a money magnet?
“My mission on the earth is to teach the world to AFFORM empoweringly. The Book of AFFORMATIONS has over 400 unique AFFORMATIONS in all areas of life, from health, wealth, abundance, overcoming fear, lowering your stress, relationships: whatever is keeping you from being successful in 10 major areas of life.”
Dr. Noah’s AFFORMATIONS Method is the first of 11 power habits
that unconsciously successful people practice. These AFFORMATIONS change our
subconscious thought patterns instantaneously.
Think about how often you may be telling yourself “I can’t do it because… (no time, no money, no power)”. Dr. Noah suggests asking “Why CAN I do that?”
Dr. Noah’s The 7 Figure Expert is a free book for you, and he suggests to read this one first.
If you’re suffering from “income-ceiling-syndrome” no matter
what you do, you will just keep banging your head against that income ceiling.
If you’re an action-taker, take responsibility for your life and be coachable
with Dr. Noah.
It’s time to FACE FACTS! There is so much we learn about people by examining their facial structure and details. Our most recent guest is an expert.
Joseph McGuire joined us from Dublin, Ireland to share his amazing tool for understanding sincerity and honesty in communication. It also comes in handy for negotiations when we learn to become an impartial and unbiased observer of people.
“I was reading people as a small child and intuitively knew stuff about them. In sports I could see which players were committed and which players were holding back, and a lot of other stuff like that.”
Joseph McGuire
At one point, Joseph was introduced to the ancient Chinese scale of reading faces as a diagnostic tool for mental and physical ailments. He then worked as a therapist for 30 years and was continually reading people’s faces and body language.
“People are endlessly fascinating, and when I would touch them I would know what was really going on in their life. Their stresses were being absorbed into my body. That’s when I decided to bring these techniques into the world of business.”
Joseph McGuire
Joseph teaches that we tell a story before we even open our mouths or move a muscle. We also register others’ faces in 1/17 of a second, leading us to tell ourselves a story about the face and the person behind it, whether it’s realistic or not.
Walt Disney’s Bambi
“Hollywood has been using this stuff for the last century. Look at Bambi, for example, very soft, rounded features with big eyes. When we see a face like that it triggers a soft response within us. Somebody with features like that is not a threat.”
Witch from Disney’s Snow White
“Contrast the witch in Snow White. She has very tight, angular, pointy features. Because it’s not pleasant, we aren’t attracted. Even though these examples are fictional characters, their facial features and expressions are designed to represent a particular type of personality.”
Even though as humans we have innate reactions to faces, Joseph is concerned about eliminating bias.
“I’m not about judgment, and I’m not concerned with conventional notions of beauty and attractiveness. When I’m looking at a face, I’m looking for character.”
Joseph McGuire
The first question Joseph may ask himself is about a person’s eyes. Does the person convey warmth and a genuine smile that lights up the eyes?
“We should always enter a room with a smile. It’s a muscle relaxant, it lowers blood pressure, and releases tension when we smile.”
Joseph cautions about “the social smile” people use to get on our good side. He reports that if the eyes are not engaged with their smile, it’s a red flag of insincerity.
During
election season, Joseph suggests watching politicians and celebrities with the
sound off at first, then rewind and watch again with the sound on.
“Ask yourself if what you’re watching now rings true with what you just saw and heard. You’ll often find the body language is telling you something different than what they’re saying.”
Joseph’s
book is categorized by different parts of the face. The first chapter is the
shape of the face.
“Facial shape is a very basic outline of a personality. You’re not looking for specific details especially since some of us are a mixture of 2 or 3 facial shapes.”
Joseph described Todd’s facial shape:
Todd Cudaback
“He’s an element of the rectangular shape, but he’s got a relatively broad, flat chin. He will have lots of practical ideas.”
Joseph
described my facial shape:
Jackie Bailey
“Jackie’s got that leadership look. Jackie doesn’t want you to waste her time.”
Chapter 2 of Joseph’s book looks at each half of the face. The right side of the person’s own face tells you about their professional/public persona while the left side reveals their private persona.
“The right side shows genetic influence from the mother’s side, and the left from their father’s side. I’m looking for differences, particularly with the eyes, because the eyes will often give you very different messages.”
Chapter
3 focuses on the forehead, hairline, and eyebrows.
Is the forehead vertical or sloped? A vertical forehead indicates people who like to work with structure and planning. For this type of person, it’s important to present your information in an orderly, structured manner.
“If the forehead curves back like Vladimir Putin, this person will absorb information very quickly. Therefore, they want you to speak quickly and present the information quickly.
Russian President Vladimir Putin
If the eyebrows are straight across these are people who like information in a very logical, linear manner. If the eyebrows are more curved they’ll want to connect personally with you first before you offer information.”
I don’t
want to give away too many of Joseph’s secrets because his book is very worth
owning. He goes into forehead lines, noses, mouths, and even ears. It’s all so
fascinating.
Joseph typically works with CEO’s and C-Suite individuals in terms of their personality, character, and the ways they are being perceived when they communicate. Joseph also teaches the skills of negotiation using the knowledge from his book.
“I will sometimes work with teams and managers to help with the communication between themselves. I do a lot with sales teams. l build bridges, create relationships, and help people get their message across.”
Joseph’s work helps us recognize who the person is we’re speaking to and engaging with. It’s easy to be confused or even seduced by words. Some people are incredibly articulate, very descriptive, and very convincing with their words. But we need to be able to see beyond the words.
Don’t be deceived! Learn to
let your intuition interpret what you’re visually seeing and feeling. Trust.
“I was a lost kid for a while because I could sense things differently. I’m empathic, and I could pick up other people’s emotions or read the room really early on as a kid.”
Anna Chen’s
parents had no idea what to do with her since in her Asian culture it was taboo
to talk about spirituality.
“I pretended to be normal and played along. By the time I got into university, being Asian, I went into business.”
Anna Chen
Because
Anna wasn’t living authentically, she burned out, withdrew from some classes,
developed depression, and felt she had no direction. She grew tired of trying
to fit into certain groups and find commonality.
“During that low point I ended up losing my grandfather and my uncle in a 4 month period. Then within another 2 months my dad was diagnosed with cancer. I was experiencing grief, doubting my identity, and was kicked out of business school.”
Kiyomizu
A Japanese proverb changed Anna’s life:
“One needs to have the courage to jump off the stage of Kiyomizu (about 4-5 stories high) to become successful.”
She
realized she needed courage to risk everything for the one thing that would bring
her real happiness. For Anna, that meant being on stage.
“I wanted to be on stage, but at that time I didn’t know what I was going to be on stage. I could sing. I could speak. I didn’t care. I started looking at all the possibilities.”
Anna went
back into business school and applied for a classical music program. She had a
goal to help people find their identity.
“And now, my secret mission is to break down the barrier between spirituality and business.”
Anna
feels she’s made her big jump from Kiyomizu. Her professional title is Business
Dharma Coach.
“I started in spirituality. I went into divination. I’m trying to make sense of the world on the other side.”
Anna Chen
Anna teaches that people are the happiest when they get to be themselves. She enjoys helping people in business build that business to represent who they are.
She is writing a book that will identify archetypes based on Tarot cards. Anna explains there are 22 archetypes, and that we all have one primary archetype and 2 secondary ones.
“My archetype is the High Priestess. My secondary archetypes are the Magician and The Empress.”
The 22 archetypes in Anna’s upcoming book break down into 5 groups, which are 5 key operational areas in business such as sales,marketing, coordination, human resources, and advisory.
“No profile is a bad profile because they identify what you’re good at. You will immediately know your strengths and your weaknesses.”
“You’ll find 9 questions and you’ll rate them between 1 to 10. You’ll get a score. You’ll know the answer to the question, Am I ready to really turn my dream into a business?”
I confess I’m not like the average person afraid of public speaking. I do that for a living and teach kids to be courageous as well. I’m not afraid of death, either. These two phobias are either first or second on the list of top fears.
However, I am afraid of swimming in deep ocean water. I dislike the feeling of ungroundedness and bobbing up and down in the unpredictable waves.
Our guest this week (the show is now on Thursdays) writes volumes in books about fear. Up until about 8 years ago fear was her constant friend.
Lynda Sunshine West reports her fear began when she was 5 years old. She “ran away from home” to the neighbor’s house. Neither of her parents came to take her back home, nor did they make any attempt to reach out after an entire week.
Of course, Lynda’s parents knew where she was and that she was safe. Perhaps they thought they were giving Lynda space, or maybe they liked the break of one less kid to worry about in the large family.
Lynda didn’t know that her parents knew where she was, and her negative self-talk was borne.
“They don’t love me.”
“They don’t want me around.”
Lynda grew up in a volatile, abusive, alcoholic household. Although she can’t pinpoint the exact reason she left that day, she attributes a sense of strength in her five-year-old self.
“I stood up for myself and decided I would no longer live in a toxic environment. We don’t often give kids enough credit at five years old, but I knew I didn’t want to be there.”
Lynda Sunshine West
Lynda believed for many decades she was unlovable. This caused tremendous fear.
“I became a people pleaser. I just wanted people to love me.”
Lynda Sunshine West
Almost 50 years later, 36 years in the corporate world, and employment at 49 different jobs, Lynda had an epiphany driving to work one morning.
“I found myself stuck in the same traffic I’d been stuck in for 36 years, and I thought to myself Why am I here? I have no value, no purpose. There is no reason for me to be here. All I do is push papers around.
I was filled with anger, hate, and extreme judgment. I would talk about people behind their backs like backstabbing women we all know.”
Lynda Sunshine West
When Lynda got to work that day, there was a Facebook post inside of a group she belonged to, and it said “I’m a life coach. I’m looking for 5 women who want to change their life.”
That’s exactly what Lynda wanted, so she hired the coach, quit her job, and embarked on a journey as an entrepreneur not fully realizing what that meant.
“I didn’t know what I wanted, but I did know what I didn’t want.”
Lynda’s coach helped her discover some fears, who she is, and started her on a new path.
“I did my homework every single week. I was doing a lot of inner, deep, soul work. On January first I woke up and asked myself, ‘what scares me?’ Then I thought, ‘I’m gonna break through fear every day this year.’”
Lynda Sunshine West
Lynda learned throughout the year that fear of judgement was an overarching theme. Since she’d wake up each morning open to the fear she needed to break through that day, judgement kept coming up.
“One morning the thought was, ‘go talk to a stranger at Starbucks’. I almost threw up because I was so scared to talk to people.”
During our interview
Lynda shared an entertaining story about her adventure at Starbucks that day.
It didn’t go as planned, but she was able to talk to a man sitting by himself.
“Excuse me, sir. I’m breaking through a fear every day this year, and today’s fear is to talk to a stranger in the Starbucks. Do you mind if I have a seat?
We had a 5-minute conversation, I thanked him for his time, and I walked out. I was so sick to my stomach. Fear is debilitating and will stop us from doing so many things, because we don’t allow ourselves to just go through it.”
Lynda Sunshine West
In the last 8 years, Lynda has gained an exorbitant amount of confidence. She’s on a mission to empower 5 million women and men to write their stories and make a greater impact on the planet.
She is the founder and CEO of Action Takers Publishing. She’s a speaker, and a 23 time #1 International, Best-selling Author, contributing writer to Entrepreneur Magazine and Brainz Magazine.
Lynda is an executive film producer of the Movie Wish Man and a red carpet interviewer. Since that fearful moment in Starbucks, Lynda has interviewed A-list celebrities, movie stars, award-winning singers, government leaders, etc.
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This is Lynda’s mantra, and what has allowed her to overcome so much fear to realize so much success.
“The results have been absolutely incredible. Why are we depriving ourselves of what’s incredible on the other side?”
Lynda Sunshine West
Do it because you’re scared.
At this writing, tomorrow
Lynda is hosting the Finding Your Purpose Summit (May 13-15th)
Attendance is free, and your humble blog writer will be speaking on the summit!
There will soon be a
book featuring all the speakers and nuggets of the summit. So don’t miss either
one. Step forward with faith and don’t let fear hold you back.
I’m still afraid of deep ocean water. However, I now use a floatation device when I snorkel. The fear subsides to almost nothing. I never miss the beauty of the ocean because I don’t let fear stop me.
Life Mastery Radio recently had the pleasure of interviewing Simran, a world-renowned author, speaker, and leader in the field of personal and spiritual growth. Simran’s insightful and inspirational message is grounded in the belief that we are all capable of achieving greatness and living our best lives.
Simran is a love catalyst, rebel humanitarian, and sacred sole activist. The number one rated host of 11:11 Talk Radio and publisher of Award Winning 11:11 Magazine. Simran creates art online courses, books, and media to bridge humanities, experience, and expression.
“Synchronicity is what occurs when we are lined up exactly in the right moment at the right time; meaning we are in such a vertical alignment with source spirit and our presence, that everything happens to match up and work out.”
Simran
Simran explains when we have those moments of synchronicity, it’s because we have gotten to a place where we are lined up with where we’re supposed to be. When we drop into the past or the future then all of a sudden we move out of synchronicity.
Signs have a lot to do
with it. They all lead us through these synchronistic moments. In essence it
resides within all of us. It’s a matter of us tapping into that.
“My journey into spirituality began from a place of unconsciousness. I had reached a point of discomfort in my life, doing everything possible to be aligned, to live by right word, thought, and action.
Life was still hard. I asked for a sign. I had no idea that my verbal asking would initiate a string of signs.”
Simran
The universe was communicating with Simran through the numbers 11:11 quite consistently.
“Life shows us how to embrace signs, many of which are not just momentary synchronicities, but that they actually are around us all of the time and speaking volumes.“
Simran
Signs appear when we
have a specific question.
Symbols are a consistent
meaning of something.
Simran taught, for example, an owl as an animal totem could be a symbol for us, whereas, seeing a cardinal today and a peacock tomorrow would be signs.
Animals show us behaviors within ourselves that might be dormant needing to be expressed. If you need more vision, you may see a hawk. If you need more courage you might see a wolf or a lion.
We’ve not been taught to
look at what our eyes, our ears, our senses land on even though the most
significant signs come in that way.
“Finding the intuitive guidance inside ourselves will cultivate connection and a greater sense of trust with life, the universe, with others, and most importantly, with us.”
Simran
Signs come in lots of
way, shapes, and forms, and they’re always pointing to something. They’re
always directing us to our higher good.
We might have a plumbing
leak, a flat tire, a cut on our finger, or a broken arm. All of those are signs
and not random events as we’ve been taught.
The Universe knows we’re constantly looking outside for answers, so it uses the outer world to speak to us. They may appear across spans of time and create a beautiful mythological saga.
“If the Universe doesn’t get your attention with the plumbing leak or flat tire then the next thing might be a fender bender in your car, or it might be a roof which has to be replaced.”
Simran
It’s a simple ask:
What does this mean?
What am I to know here?
If you respond to a sign
with inspired action, then you get another sign. You respond again and get
another sign. You’re developing this relationship with something bigger than yourself,
whether you call it God, Universe, love, or source.
Whatever it is, you have developed this relationship that you now trust. If you take a step there will be a response that develops a sense of inner authority.
“As you begin to trust yourself and your intuition, and do the work the signs are showing you, then you start to grow a compassion for other people.”
Simran
Simran’s book is divided into 3 sections.
The first section goes
into what signs are and how they appear.
The middle section is stories from other people’s conversations with the universe. They’re happening to everyone.
The final section is
filled with practices, and an understanding of how to create and cultivate greater
presence.
We all have a part to
play in every single thing that’s showing up in our world. When we’re willing
to see that about ourselves, then we empower ourselves to understand our
responsibility on this planet.
“I call myself a rebel humanitarian because I’m asking people to rebel against being so outwardly active and instead go inside and discover your humanity.”
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