Is your Ladder Leaning on the Wrong Wall?

Pat Alva-Kraker’s book Katherine’s Quest is about a main character whose life and challenges every reader can connect to, and who happens upon inspirational words from the past. If that’s not enough, Pat’s book also contains musings and teachings from the author herself. I gained amazing insights by perusing its pages.

If you enjoy traveling, you will feel like wearing Bermuda shorts and flip flops while reading this sweet parable about islands such as:

Aeiea Island – the place of beginnings

Conception Island – the place to start a sacred journey.

Socrata Island – the place to heal.

Mindando Island – the place to learn the love of work.

Faon Island – the place of happiness without possessions

Thole Island – the place of love

Elation Island – the place of culmination

Pat was driven to write this book for you because of three disastrous life events she herself experienced: cancer, widowhood, and a layoff. She navigated her way through these trying circumstances and now provides ways for each of us to circumnavigate our own challenges in a fictional story about Katherine.

Pat Alva-Kraker

Working most of her career in a male-dominated industry, Pat is now on a mission to help women feel empowered in the engineering and IT industries. Pat ran into women who were ambitious and hungry for executive management. She had asked them the burning question:

How can I help you get there?”

Pat Alva-Kraker

Her reputation and customer base ignited when people in companies would tell their female employees, “you should talk to Pat.”

Pat begins her coaching process by asking her clients to define “success” for themselves.

Many women step into the shoes of what society deems “success’ to be, such as a college degree, management, climbing the corporate ladder, and then they don’t feel happy because their ladder is leaning on the wrong wall.

Pat Alva-Kraker

Pat’s description illustrates what happens to many of us – we fall out of congruency with our own measure of success.

I enjoyed this inspiring nugget from Chapter 2 of Katherine’s Quest:

We always have our choice. Our sacred journey is an ebb and flow of experiences that make us who we are. Our life experiences show up like wrinkles around our eyes. Some of the wrinkles are of joy, others of sadness. Each of us are on a sacred journey that is unique, that cannot be lived by anyone else.

Katherine’s Quest; Pat’s Musings

You’re exactly where you need to be. Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 7 because we all have a unique path.

Pat Alva-Kraker

Every morning when you wake up, name 2-3 things you are grateful for. Allow yourself to sit in silence, then ask the question: “What’s my next best step today?” Then go do that.

At the end of the day, Pat encourages us to participate in an exercise she calls unraveling:

Play back your day as if it was a movie. Be the observer of your movie and watch for the patterns in your day. What went well, and why? What did not go so well, and why? You can learn from every day’s experience by being the observer of your life. Write your discoveries down.”

Pat Alva-Kraker

Pat provides Self-Care methodology in her book as well, which should be practiced every day.

When our cup is full or overflowing, then we can give from a better place versus depleting ourselves and putting us last on the list. Giving from an empty cup doesn’t serve anyone.”

Pat Alva-Kraker

Pat suggests:




Feelings are the magnet to bringing in the things you want. How do you want to feel, and how do you want others to feel? Let go and ask for what you want or something better.”

Pat Alva-Kraker

Pat advises it is better to be satisfied than successful. Rather than get hooked into being defined by the money goals of career, be sure what we are doing is really what we want to do. Make sure our actions connect with our mission.

In Pat’s book, the main character, Katherine learns this important lesson:

In the end, a choice between the life of overindulgence and never-ending work, little peace and only rare moments of joy, and a life of elation, she would take elation. She would seek the great joy and happiness that is best when it comes from inside and lived on the outside.

Katherine’s Quest

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WHAT is Enough

For those of you saying, “I’m tired,” “I’ve done everything I know to do,” and “I don’t know what else I can do” our recent guest, Treveal C.W. Lynch is someone to pay attention to. Perhaps you are exhausted from all the effort you are exerting and the hard work you are putting in day after day, only to feel you are never enough.

I completely get it! I needed to hear his message!

Treveal is a Self-Worth Specialist, and author of the book What Is Enough. He founded iamthepossible®, and preaches:

The greatest thing you will ever become, is accepting of WHAT you already (are)

Treveal C.W. Lynch
Treveal C.W. Lynch

The “C.W.” represents his father: Christopher Westley. Treveal was estranged from his father for many years. Once reunited, Treveal found forgiveness and now honors his father by making him a part of all he does, and everything he is a part of.

Don’t dare leave out the C.W.

Treveal C.W. Lynch

Despite Treveal’s efforts to teach you and I about our significance, he was once feeling very worthless.

At the age of 20 Treveal was held at gunpoint and robbed for $120 of weed. The robbers demanded three times, “Give me what you have.”

When Treveal was unwilling to give them the marijuana, the trigger was pulled.

The gun failed to fire.

Look how worthless I felt. I was willing to be shot for a bag of weed. Are YOU willing to live beneath your true value?”

Treveal C.W. Lynch

A year after he was robbed at gunpoint, Treveal committed grand theft at a bistro to it’s owner. He was facing a 15-year prison sentence.

While still in jail, a county sheriff invited those in custody to attend a church service on Sunday morning.

All I wanted to do was get out of the cell block. I was not religious but was being offered 60 minutes to leave my cell, and I took it.”

Treveal C.W. Lynch

It was during the service Treveal heard a story of Jesus. The message he received from the sermon was clear and life-changing:


You smoked weed, robbed people at gunpoint, broke into buildings and vandalized them, cussed people out, beat people up, and YOU ARE ACCEPTED. With all of your mess, all of your crap, all of your failings, all of your flaws, all of your ugliness, all of your brokenness – I still accept you.

That turned everything around for Treveal. He had been feeling like an outsider, and now belonged to something. He was ACCEPTED.

His pastor came to Treveal’s rescue, and with an attorney friend convinced the judge to allow Treveal to pay his victim back the money he had robbed him. If he agreed to this arrangement, the bistro owner was willing to drop all charges and clean up Treveal’s record.

Treveal was released, went to work, and over time paid all the money back.

Self-awareness is the concept of being aware we are in the right place to BE enough, HAVE enough, and know we’ve ACHIEVED enough.”

Treveal C.W. Lynch

We can live FROM our worth and not FOR our worth.

WHO you are is your identity. WHY you are is the intention of your creator. WHAT you are is your investment to life. You are created to BE a contribution. WHAT tells you WHY you are.”

Treveal C.W. Lynch

Treveal suggests we ADVOCATE for the ALREADY and focus on digging within ourselves to discover WHAT’S already inside us.

WHAT do you do naturally?

WHAT do you think naturally?

WHAT makes you cry naturally and laugh naturally?

WHAT do you naturally gravitate toward?

WHAT social issues in the world naturally pull your heart strings?

WHAT do you do naturally that makes people remark, “You do that so well”?

WHAT is already there. Our WHAT will be pulled out when we take time to self-observe.

You would do well to read Treveal’s book, and to listen to his podcasts. WHAT are you waiting for?

Lights, Camera, Purpose!

When it comes to success in business…

1. Are you willing to do whatever it takes?

2. Will you show up every day and put the work in?

3. Are you obsessed with your business (or your business idea)?

4. Are you committed to discovering what your soul purpose is?

5. Are you able to adjust your business model where necessary?

6. Are you committed to your business for life?

7. Are you willing to learn more about yourself through your business?

8. Are you willing to integrate spiritual techniques into your business?

9. Are you committed to being the face and leader of your brand?

10. Are you a quitter?

If you answered yes to questions 1-9 and no to question 10, you should read Rebekah Louisa Smith’s book. If you answered yes to question 10, do not read her book. And if you answered no to questions 1-9 then definitely do not read Dr. Smith’s book.

Dr. Rebekah Louisa Smith, author of Born to Do It: Becoming the Leader of a Business Niche Using Powerful Spiritual Techniques was our most recent guest on Life Mastery Radio.

Rebekah pursued an academic career with both a master’s degree, and a Ph.D. planning to teach film. Yet when she agreed to help a friend produce a horror film festival, she was inspired to take a different path.

It was effortless for Rebekah to produce the festival despite long days, short nights, and challenges that come with live performances, talks, and music.

It felt easy, and without stress. Thanks to my Ph.D. I knew how to break down huge projects into smaller bite-size chunks. I realized I was born to do it. I came alive and felt more like myself than ever before.”

Rebekah Louisa Smith

Rebekah discovered one of the biggest challenges to film makers was the distribution of their film. She has since become the expert and is known as THE FILM FESTIVAL DOCTOR with 958 awards earned by her clients because of Rebekah’s hands-on-service approach. She now has 10 years of strategic experience in the film industry.

Rebekah did not know her soul’s purpose then but has since recognized that it is the key to loving all you do. Anyone who knows their purpose will gladly spend hours in a day fulfilling their purpose and wake up drawn to their purpose every morning.

Her book is not about the film industry. It is about the powerful ways you and I can feel excited about our life everyday by doing what we were born to do. It is a personal story that draws upon unique techniques and practices to learn your soul’s purpose and teaches us to start a business in a niche which matches our purpose.

Rebekah would tell you being the leader of your business niche does not mean you need to put a ridiculous amount of pressure on yourself to be the best in your field and compete against your competitors; rather, it means you stand out from the crowd of people within your niche (including other entrepreneurs, business owners and your competitors etc.), no matter how big or small that crowd might be.

Ed J.C. Smith encouraged Rebekah to create what he calls a ‘killer problem statement’, which becomes the core element around which a business must be based. He explained the best way to tell people what you do is to simplify how you will resolve your client’s pain. It is broken down as follows:

I help … (your niche)

Get … (their desire)

Without … (their pain)

By … (hiring your services or buying your product)

Rebekah also provides methods of a spiritual nature to include in the pursuit of a successful business:


Vision boards

Cosmic ordering

Feng Shui for business

Cosmic ordering, Rebekah explains, is asking for what you want from the universe.

I really want ____________________for the good of all concerned.

Every morning I place a cosmic order where I ask to get one new business lead. I also ask for one of my films to get into a film festival for the good of my clients and all concerned.”

Rebekah Louisa Smith

Rebekah has tweaked the original verbiage to add: “What I’d really love and appreciate is…”

Rebekah cautions:

You have to let go once you place the order. Do not stress about the problem any longer. If you are worried about whether it will come through, you might miss it altogether.”

Rebekah Louisa Smith

Rebekah was a very interesting person because of her experiences, and the powerful lessons she can teach everyone. You can learn more about her by visiting one or both of her websites:

Rebekah Louisa Smith and The Film Festival Doctor

Accountability and your Teepee

Our most recent guest on Life Mastery Radio was royalty since she is known as the Queen of Radical Accountability. Her program with clients is 90 days of intense focus on what matters, and it is called Radical Accountability Movement.

If you are a visionary entrepreneur, you likely have many ideas. So many ideas in fact, it becomes hard to focus on just one at a time, and that leads to constant distractions. UGH! I feel it – it is MY life!

Rebecca explains why it is not helpful to be in this mindset:

Our ideas mean hard work and relentless focus on mastery. We let go of our real brilliance because we’re trying to do everything on our own.”

Rebecca Irey

We have so much going on, and we cannot possibly follow through with all the tasks listed in our head. It becomes more and more difficult to feel as though we are having success. In Rebecca’s program the first step is to get clear on YOUR PURPOSE.

Your talents are unique, which makes your mission unique.

Visionaries are less likely to get distracted when they know their purpose. You learn to differentiate from the ideas that are needle-movers, and those ideas that don’t have to be acted on right now.”

Rebecca Irey

Rebecca suggests A Someday, Maybe List.

Get your ideas out of your head and down on paper. You’ll tackle them eventually, just not today.”

Rebecca Irey

Clients who work with Rebecca set long term goals 12-18 months out. She understands this helps her clients feel less intimidated, but clear on goals, and real on the steps needed to achieve their goals.

Everyone needs clarity about where they are and where they want to be. Breaking long-terms goals down to daily actions will help every individual progress toward their desired end every day. Break audacious goals into tiny steps and be accountable to someone.”

Rebecca Irey

Rebecca cautions us about who to be accountable to.

“On the Lakota Medicine Wheel, the 7th power is ACCOUNTABILITY, and a phrase they teach is (I’m paraphrasing) DON’T BE ACCOUNTABLE TO ANYONE WHO LIVES IN YOUR TEEPEE.”

When working with Rebecca and her Beyond Accountability Movement, you will focus equally in four areas of accountability to attain proper balance in life:

  • Relationships
  • Spirituality
  • Business
  • Fitness

You can be radically focused on business and everything else becomes dim. The first week in the movement is hard because you have to face the reality of where you are.”

Rebecca Irey

When we focus on only one of the aforementioned areas, Rebecca calls it “Being Ruled by the Tyranny of the Urgent. We become controlled by the feelings of having to do everything. We get into a cycle of performing in areas of our lives we are not good at, and without knowing it we are on a path completely opposite of our goals.

Focus on accomplishing the four most important tasks each week through daily goals, and you’ll always be moving the needle in the right direction. Daily goals work to keep you moving forward consistently.”

Rebecca Irey

Would you like to be part of Rebecca’s Radical Accountability Movement? There are 4 spots open right now! It is easy to get involved.

Find her on Facebook @Blueskyebusiness  and through her website at Blue Skye Business Find the Beyond Accountability Movement and sign up today!

Getting All your Cylinders to Fire!

Who does not want more energy? Who does not want to feel as though all cylinders of your life, business, and health are firing at the right time and in the right way?

Our recent guest, Juan Miolan is a life energy coach. He recognizes that entrepreneurs who have children can often find themselves backfiring and burned out. Trying to “balance” priorities between home and business usually saps entrepreneurial energy instead of igniting it.

Juan Miolan gave us insight into the answers to solve these common problems, and to get out of the exhaustion cycle.

From early childhood Juan experienced the downside of mental health since his mother struggled with it. Juan learned the importance of taking care of what is between our ears, and what is in our heart. He set out on a journey to explain his own exhaustion, insomnia, and a lack of personal success.

Juan studied spirituality, brain health, neuroscience, quantum mechanics and ancient philosophy with a goal to get answers about how parent business owners, coaches, and the like can be their best without sacrificing one area of life to have success in another.

If our health fails, everything else fails.”

Juan Miolan

Juan coaches his clients about the importance of integrating all aspects of health into human wholeness. With four elements of focus, its not that one element is more important than another – we must master all of them together.

The four laws are: spirituality, mental health, emotional health, and physical health. What do we biologically and physiologically need?

Juan Miolan

Juan claims exercise is not always the best place to start, even though we have been taught to do so when it comes to “getting into shape”. Instead, it helps to understand the brain and the mind are separate and different from each other. Juan proclaims we must focus on neuro nutrition, and what we can do to allow our brain to function at full capacity.

I always like to start with truth. Transformation happens through truth, not strategies. A lot of us are trying to change without understanding our body and how our brain and belief system operates. You can’t get to the next level of health without the next level of mindset; and you can’t get to the next level of mindset without the next level of health.”

Juan Miolan

Juan encourages us to set more heart-felt goals.

I want to help people come alive in their purpose. Recognize that you don’t have an energy problem, you have an energy distribution problem.

Juan Miolan

A lot of our thoughts are contracting, rather than empowering our success. For instance, Juan says we should think about starting to move before starting to exercise. Hops and twists will help our lymphatic system to release toxins and stress. Exercise is a hormone stressor. To recover from this stressor, we need proper sleep and nutrition.

Juan provided for all of you his Small Movement Library: Click Here

There is an order to how we should do things. Exercising hours and hours takes us away from family and other important things. Health does not require you to suffer.”

Juan Miolan

Other trainers do not look at your belief systems, they simply suggest you work harder and more often to reach your goals. Not always helpful.

It’s important to have a strong and true relationship with yourself.”

Juan Miolan

Juan offered another gold nugget of information: When it comes to nutrition, we need to consider what food means to us. Food is connected to our experiences, and as we try to remove some of these foods from our diet, we should understand our intimacy with them. Our brain creates neuro connections with food which represents feelings we have had with family or community. This neuro relationship makes it hard to give up the foods we love. Juan says the answer is to rewrite the meaning of that food in our life’s script.

Live through the heart and tap into what you really want to feel. Be compassionate with yourself.

Juan Miolan
Juan Miolan

Find this life-changing expert @JuanMiolan on Facebook

Check out Juan’s website:

Here’s Juan’s Small Movement Library once again: Click Here

Becoming the STAR of Your Life

Janelle Anderson was 16 years old when she discovered her boyfriend who had been drafted into battle during the Vietnam war would not be returning home. When she was a sophomore in college, Janelle was drugged and raped by an acquaintance she’d met at a bar. Not the best foundation of confidence for a young woman.

I was living in a fog and feeling as though I was nothing. I had no confidence in myself, no one else saw value in me, and I didn’t feel worthy of being heard.”

Janelle Anderson

While in college she met a young man, who knew exactly what to say to manipulate Janelle. After graduation they headed to California but made a stop in Las Vegas. Unfortunately for Janelle they ended up staying in Nevada where her manipulating boyfriend talked her into becoming a “working girl”.

Janelle’s situation would be considered trafficking today and she lived this life of desperation for three years. At the time she could not see the slave-like, trapped life she was in, but it deeply exacerbated her lack of confidence and unworthiness.

Janelle turned to drug use to get her through the daily pain. She took drugs to help her get up in the mornings, and drugs to help her sleep at night. She felt alone and lost.

Janelle contemplated: “How did I get to this place? My parents love me. I’ve been raised with morals, so how did I end up doing what I’m doing?

One night her boyfriend became physically violent and almost choked her to death. After surviving that night, Janelle called her mother. Janelle was invited to pray with her mother for peace, and to return home.

Peace and home sounded so right. That’s exactly what I needed.

Janelle Anderson

Janelle went home to her parents and found solace in religion. She participated in programs which helped her begin to heal from years of trauma. Her boyfriend also went home and supposedly found religion as well. They ended up getting married. Their union produced a child and eventually ended in divorce.

We’ve lost touch with him today, but I have a beautiful daughter. She has made everything worth it.

Janelle Anderson

In the 30 years that have followed Janelle has remarried and continued to heal while remaining disconnected from the emotion of her trauma. It wasn’t until her 50’s when she finally awakened.

I still had to do the inner work and start facing my past. It was like a laser beam going to the core of my pain, and for the first time I realized I was not a bad person, I had been a victim. I now own my story. I learned to feel the emotion I so long disassociated from.

Janelle Anderson

Janelle is now sure of her purpose and how her life story will make an impact in the lives of women who lack confidence as she did. She has been guided by love, faith, and family. She is a Confidence Coach for Women Entrepreneurs & Leaders.

Janelle Anderson leads women through her S.T.A.R. process of self-discovery, personal transformation, and growth to create a fearless confidence in who they are and what they do. This life-changing process results in new levels of success, satisfaction, and engagement in their lives.

Janelle has a webinar beginning on January 18, 2021 called Conquer the Impostor Within. To learn more about it, go to

I enjoyed our interview with Janelle. While hearing her story I learned some tips for my own healing:

  • Find people to trust
  • Spiritual guidance of some sort is important
  • Journaling is a helpful tool
  • Consistent work is required
  • Be open to opportunites

If you are tired of playing small Janelle will help you stand tall. If you tend to discount your accomplishments and fly past your successes without a second glance Janelle’s course will help you.

Look for Janelle’s book coming out soon: She’s Taking Center Stage: How to Be the Star of Your Own Story.

The Making of Magic

No matter your age, nationality, or the circumstances of your childhood, when you hear the word Disney it undoubtably invokes happy feelings and memories.

That is the MAGIC OF DISNEY!

(Photo by Mark Ashman/Disney via Getty Images)

Our most recent guest, Kimberley Bouchard has become a “back door” expert of that Disney Magic, and she shared much of it with us.

Like Kimberley, when I was young “The Wonderful World of Disney” was broadcast every Sunday evening on TV. For one hour each week, my family lived harmoniously. It was the one common love we all shared.


My first trip to Disneyland at the age of fourteen was truly magical. It was a short escape from contention, abuse, and conflict at home. That year I attended the park with my mother and stepfather. The following summer I went again with my father and stepmother. Both experiences were simply magical.

Kimberley Bouchard was twelve when she first visited the park, and she found herself most captivated by the castle. Her family had travelled all the way from Canada in a car to be transformed into the magical world of the happiest place on earth.

Kimberley is now the author of 5 books titled Positively Disney. The first four books contain stories from actors, animators, artists, and guests. The fifth book is a special edition featuring Star Wars. Within all her books the reader discovers the inspiring stories of life-changing experiences influenced by the magic of Disney.

“If you recall the Chicken Soup for the Soul books by Jack Canfield, you’ll be familiar with the types of experiences you’ll read about in my books. However, it’s all related to Disney.”

Kimberley Bouchard

Here is a taste of a few stories contained in Kimberley’s books:

Sherry Alberoni (Baird) was one of the original Mouseketeers of 1955. She had entered a contest selling cookies. Because Sherry sold the most cookies, she was prized with spending time at the opening of Walt Disneyland Park with Walt Disney himself.

Sometime during the events of the day in an ice cream parlor inside the park, Sherry made Walt Disney an ice cream sundae. While photographs were being taken, she did not realize the ice cream was dripping onto Walt Disney’s coat. Walt just laughed it off. He always cared more about people than things.

All the Disney stars are really down to earth. They don’t take on airs.”

Kimberley Bouchard

Walt was very persistent in following his dreams, yet he could not have been successful without his brother Roy.  

It took two to create what they did. Walt was the creator and visionary. Roy was the action man who got things done. They needed each other.

Kimberley Bouchard

Disney’s 49th animated movie called The Princess, and the Frog highlights the first African American Disney princess. The main character, Tianna was based on Leah Chase, owner of Dooky Chase restaurant in New Orleans whom Kimberley met a few years ago. Leah is known as the Queen of Creole, and at the age of 93 still cooks in the kitchen.

She (Leah Chase) had the light. She has inspired me with her difficult life and what she created despite it. Her parting words to me were: ‘Go out and make a difference in the world. That’s what this is all about‘.”

Kimberley Bouchard
Kimberley Bouchard

The very first story in the very first book of Kimberley’s series is her personal experience with the magic of Disney. You’ll have to get her book to read it!

I’m very blessed to do what I do. I am grateful for the people who have shared their stories with me. I feel driven to illustrate that Disney is not just a park, it is not just products. Disney is magic. It is timeless, inspiring, and far reaching.”

Kimberley Bouchard

Give someone you love the gift of magic this Christmas – one of the Positively Disney books by Kimberley. If YOU have a magical Disney experience story to share, contact Kimberley on the Positively Disney Facebook page, or email her at Kimberley@PositivelyDisney.Com Maybe your story will be in book number 6!

Picking the Brain of a Neuroscientist

You do not have to be a neuroscientist to be on Life Mastery Radio, but when you are, we get to “pick your brain”.  Dr. Ali Lankerani, affectionately known as The Parent Whisperer, not only let us pick his brain, but he willingly shared inspiring information with us.

Dr. L. helps parents to optimize their children’s success in many areas. He shared 4 with us:

  • Health
  • Wholeness
  • Modelling
  • Purpose


The only organ that can modulate itself and control what comes into it, and what goes out of it is the brain.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani

Dr. L. explained we choose to focus on information from the brain or not. Before we can ask the brain to do something for us, we must make sure to provide the proper nutritional building blocks.

If you feed your brain the right things, it will provide a different output for you than if you’re feeding it the wrong things. Nutrition plays a role in your perspective.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani

The brain gives us power based on how many parts are working simultaneously. When we are stressed our brains do not receive the nutrition it needs to help us thrive.

Dr. L. listed the foundational blocks that support the brain. He also called them the foundational pieces of health.

  • Nutrition
  • Rest
  • Oxygen
  • Neuro Stimulation (movement)

Dr. L. related all these pieces to a metronome used to keep rhythm in music.

The Inferior Olive lies deep within the brain. Think of it as the metronome of the brain. Signals which come too far apart or too quickly can cause us to misunderstand the impulses of the brain. It can affect our perception of reality.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani

Dr. L. explained why strobe lights bother me and make me feel physically stressed and unwell:

Strobe lights alter your visual field. Jackie, the brain perceives where everything should be, but the strobing lights create a different reality.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani

I was happy to hear Dr. L. say that dancing is a wonderful brain workout.

It involves all the senses and creates a cohesive picture of reality. While dancing, we are breathing deeper, taking in oxygen, and moving our whole body.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani


Related to the metronome of our brain – the Inferior Olive, anxiety propels us into the future (metronome set on a fast rhythm); and depression keeps us in the past (metronome of a rhythm too slow).

Often, the negative thoughts we have force the brain to find perspectives to validate those thoughts.

Dr. Ali Lankerani

Meditation is a powerful tool to keep us in the present.

Our current lifestyles have changed our values and geared us more toward IQ rather than EQ. Since this decades long aberration has switched our focus to one part of our brain – the money making, innovating, and schedule-filled brain, other more important areas of the brain – enjoyment, rest, and simple pleasures are no longer cherished.

We are drastically different than our forebears. Nutrition, stimulation, rest, posture, movement, oxygen levels. They have all changed because of our fast-paced lifestyles.

This exposure makes it’s print on the brain. What we see and do strengthens neural pathways. What we are no longer doing gets pruned out. It causes problems in the rest of our body because it hasn’t caught up yet.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani


Although we have neuroplasticity throughout life, there is a window of time when we can write, rewrite, rewire and/or retrain the personality of our children and teenagers.

Dr. Ali Lankerani

As parents and influencers of children, we can optimize young lives. Often however, we inadvertently get in the way of a child’s progress because we are leading by example – perhaps a poor example.

Dr. L. is known as The Parent Whisperer because he works alongside parents and children supporting them and empowering them to lead by example to create future leaders and role models.

A healthy brain helps us all to connect, be happy, and fulfill our unique mission. The brain can be rewired. Even the brains of individuals healing from tragic experiences can be retrained.  


If you have been through tragedy, you have an important message to share with the world. YOU can be a motivator and change-maker. YOU can change your brain from thinking of challenges as setbacks to thinking of them as stepping-stones. Share your message, move forward, and make a difference.”

Dr. Ali Lankerani

Every person has it within them to influence others for greater achievement. We should support our brain so we can more easily find our unique purpose. Dr. L. claims we can either feel uncomfortable and try to go around a problem, or we can push through it with purpose.

With purpose you can go through anything willingly.

Dr. Lankerani has a program coming  up called: Role Model Lifestyle Mastery. It is three days of events, exercises, and tools to help you and those you love to thrive by your example.

I have already registered to attend. I hope I will see you there so we can become ROLE MODELS together!

A Revolution is Underway

A revolution is underway. You may not have noticed it yet —because this is a revolution that starts on the inside. To join it, you don’t need to gather arms; you don’t need to learn battle strategies. You don’t need to do anything —except reclaim a power that you lost long ago.”

Kim Chestney

Kim Chestney was our guest this past Tuesday. She is the author of Radical Intuition A Revolutionary Guide to Using Your Inner Power.

She worked in tech for 20 years with some of the greatest innovators of all time. Kim learned that geniuses honor and use their intuition.

Steve jobs knew what he was doing, and often spoke about using his intuition. He was naturally open and unafraid to try new things and be different.

Kim Chestney

Kim taught us that intuition is an extraordinary and unexpected illusion. It does not always make sense. In fact, Kim explained there is a fine line between intuition and craziness. On the other hand, intuition is the secret sauce of all success.

Life is about expansion. When you are plugged in to intuition it will push you past your boundaries. Even if your actions don’t produce the expected results, listening to your intuition is always the right thing to do.”

Kim Chestney

What is intuition?

Intuition is our connection to our higher consciousness; all that is beyond this moment and place in time.

Kim Chestney

Intuition communicates with each of us in a unique way. It might come through a feeling, an idea, the recognition of knowledge out of the blue, creative energy, or even an experience. It is also the unifying force that brings all our uniqueness together.

Intuition happens in magical, almost impossible ways. We have access to it 24/7 and we often do not notice it. Have you ever been thinking of a friend, and right then you get an email from him/her? Have you ever taken a different route home only to learn that a horrible accident on your usual route would have delayed you for hours?

Intuition, according to Kim, can be that subtle.

Intuition comes to us in the places between our thoughts. When our minds are going a mile a minute, our tuition can’t speak to us. It’s when we are awake at 3:00 am, in the shower, or meditating that we might finally listen to it because our minds are out of the way.

Kim Chestney

In Kim’s book she offers tools and exercises to help us recognize our intuition, practice it, nurture it, and pay closer attention to it. One of the suggestions she makes is an intuition journal which I thought was fabulous.

Kim explained how writing down our ideas when we have them will give us a chance to look back and identify the intuitive thoughts and ideas which led us to current situations. We can more clearly see the benefits when we trusted our intuition, and our downfalls by not doing so.

How can we encourage more intuitive moments?

Make space in your day for your intuition. Make more white space on your calendar and schedule down time. That’s when intuition will come. The more you do that during the day the less you’ll be awakened in the middle of night.

Kim Chestney

Kim’s book is not simply a reading book, it’s a doing book. You’ll learn to be true to your higher self – your true heart, mind, and core being.

Being true to yourself is the most revolutionary act.

Kim Chestney

Besides her book, Kim has a free 10-day Global Intuition Summit event: GLOBAL INTUITION SUMMIT ( featuring contributors to her book, daily workshops, and immersive exercises. She calls it an inner retreat to jump start your intuition.

Kim is also hosting Intuition Lab in January- a 6-week program including live coaching with Kim. Illuminate! Intuition Awakening and Mastery Online Program (

Feelings are the Original GPS for Love

The love doctor returned to Life Mastery Radio this week. Dr. Gary Salyer is the author of Safe to Love Again, and he teaches his clients to do just that by helping them rewire their brains with an understanding of four important feelings.

The right to feel:

  1. Welcomed with Joy
  2. Worthy and Nourished
  3. Cherished and Protected
  4. Empowered with Choice

When you add up all these feelings you feel loved and can give love back.

Babies have an attachment style by the time they’re 10 months old. If, as children, we experience all four feelings we become securely attached.”

Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Salyer told the story of his patient, Paul who had become insecurely unattached around the time he was four years old. Paul had learned that at some point, “Love will turn on me.”

Paul was twice divorced around the 10-year mark of each relationship. He lacked trust in each wife since he always knew at some point love would turn on him. He recognized the fault was his but didn’t know how to create lasting love.

Paul spoke of a family campout when, without any provocation or reason, his father walked over to him and began beating Paul. His father “turned against him” leaving Paul with the distinct feeling that at some point anyone who loved him would do the same.

At one session Paul’s older brother was with him as he retold the story.

Staring in complete shock, Paul’s brother spoke:

You got it all wrong, Paul. I was at that campout and witnessed your pant legs catching on fire because you got too close to the flames. Dad jumped up and beat the flames out so you didn’t become a marshmallow. He didn’t turn on you! Dad saved your life!”

Feelings are so powerful we often determine “our truth” which keeps us from seeing “THE truth”. The brain uses these early templates for all our relationships. The brain creates experience, and in Paul’s case set up levels of distrust by misinterpreting an experience.”

Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Salyer explained when the four feelings are not felt as children, we actually separate from our bodies and feelings without a right to exist.

He himself did not feel welcomed as a baby. Dr. Salyer’s mother was extremely disappointed he was not a girl. He was dressed in pink and went without a name for three weeks after his birth.

How did this manifest In Dr. Salyer? He didn’t feel cherished. His mother was abusive and unprotecting. Gary learned it was safer for him to be distanced from his mother, and he spent time playing in his room.

When he got married Dr. Salyer didn’t understand why his wife felt lonely. He was still practicing what he’d learned as a child: being distant is safe. The separation made his wife feel as though Dr. Salyer didn’t understand her. The figurative distance between them widened further and further until divorce was imminent.

If you have fled from feelings as a child your brain is not set up to feel. I was blind as a bat without feelings. I was denying my wife the feelings of being cherished and welcomed.”

Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Salyer affirms: “If there are fights in a relationship it’s because one partner isn’t feeling one of these feelings:”

  1. Welcomed with Joy
  2. Worthy and Nourished
  3. Cherished and Protected
  4. Empowered with Choice

Show me a couple without a WE, and I’ll show you a war. There has to be a WE, and worthy is what makes love go around. It’s a birthright. You were born worthy.”

Dr. Gary Salyer

When Dr. Gary works with individuals or couples, he helps them find the imprints – the big moments when the brain shaped an emotional experience.

Find the flavor of safety the brain was seeking, and you’ll discover the feeling. Giving yourself the right to have these feelings and restoring them is what makes self-love possible. The brain will feel safe. Change the feeling and everything else changes. Feelings are the original GPS for love.

Dr. Gary Salyer

A brain that is aligned with these four feelings easily creates a profound, intimate, deep, calming, and empowering WE. From this WE extraordinary couples are born, nurtured, and raised.

Watch videos on Dr. Sayler’s website he calls MESSAGES ABOUT LOVE. They are only 2-4 minutes in length and many couples report tremendous value by learning from them.

For even greater value – get his book: Safe to Love Again