“Good Grief, Charlie Brown!” was often spoken to and by that loveable cartoon character who seemed to be living life with constant loss and disappointment. It was an exclamation that perhaps we should take more to heart that we’ve considered before.
Claire quoted Jamie Anderson: “Grief, I have learned is really just love. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
While leading bereavement groups, Claire has discovered many aspects of grief, and she shared some of her enlightened knowledge with us, even clarifying the decades long standard of death coined by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her well-known book: On Death and Dying in which she describes 5 stages of the end of life.
“Elizabeth Kubler-Ross first wrote about the five steps people go through who are dying. Through the years, many have mistaken that theory to mean the five stages of grief. It’s not to say those stages don’t happen. But they don’t happen linearly. There is anger, there is denial, there is shock, there is bargaining, there is acceptance, but it’s not sequential.”
Claire B. Willis
Claire wrote her book to support
people in knowing they aren’t supposed to be feeling certain things in certain stages
of grief. Claire feels we’ve misrepresented the original idea.
“The way YOU’RE grieving is normal.”
Claire B. Willis
We think of grief as having a very particular
face: sadness, sorrow, despair, depression, and hopelessness. But grief is also
anger, rage, irritability, impatience, regret, gratitude, and relief.
“Grief has as many expressions as there are people grieving.”
Claire B. Willis
Sometimes people judge other family members. When family members don’t act in ways we believe is expected, they may be accused of not grieving. Claire makes it clear it’s important we all recognize grief in the various forms it comes.
“People criticize themselves for not ‘grieving right’. Don’t feel silenced or shamed by the way you grieve. This will add suffering to an already difficult time.”
Claire B. Willis
Providing support to family and others who’ve lost loved ones helps them not to feel alone. Many times, it’s hard to recognize another’s grief when it looks so different from our own, and it takes strength and vulnerability to express our own grief when others may not understand.
Claire was clear to say that grief can be scary to feel, and that it comes in waves instead of all at once. This is a way our mind protects us from significant pain. She used a metaphor to teach us about the waves of grief.
“If we try to look at the sun, we make a quick glance, then look away. We try again a little later and look as long as we can but turn away when the light is too intense for our eyes. Grief is often experienced in the same way. We can’t sustain the deep feeling of loss all at once.”
Claire B. Willis
That wave of grief is often referred to as S.T.U.G. a Sudden Temporary Upsurge of Grief. You may burst out crying completely out of the blue weeks, month, or years after the loss of your loved one.
“This doesn’t mean you’re going backwards. It’s simply S.T.U.G. Ride it out. It will be gone in 24 hours. Your grief changes in intensity, duration, and frequency. At first the loss causes a searing pain and your whole life is seen as grief. Slowly, different things come into your life, and it moves from a searing pain to a dull ache.”
Claire B. Willis
Think of grief another way….like a
“A broken bone at first is very painful. You have surgery, wear a cast, go through physical therapy, and you walk again eventually. But on rainy days the ache returns to the bone. We all must choose at any given moment if we’re going to cope or deal. We can’t cope when we’re dealing, and we can’t deal when we’re coping. It’s a conscious choice we make.”
Claire B. Willis
Most of the time we don’t get the closure
we’d like when a loved one is lost. Claire says that is doesn’t help to think
of all the woulda, shoulda, coulda scenarios.
“The last few minutes of someone’s live can often take on too much significance and overshadow the whole of their life. It we don’t get a chance to have the loving departure with our loved one we hoped for, we often judge ourselves and ruminate on what we could have done differently.”
Claire B. Willis
Claire suggests a better way to honor the life of your loved one is to take action which can increase our capacity to help ourselves and others who are grieving.
1. Writing as a refuge. Writing 3-4 times a week about our loved one may decrease depression. Start each entry with “I remember….” In this way you can recreate the life you had together.
You can also write letters to the person you’ve lost. Your entry in that case could be, “Here’s what I wish I could have told you today…” These can become memories for young family members who didn’t know the person as well.
“Find your unencumbered voice. Set aside the censored voice we use daily. Writing allows us to be healthier, as we release those hidden feelings we can’t actually verbalize.”
Claire B. Willis
2. Kindness. People can be so judgmental of others who are grieving. It’s important to remember to simply be kind and know each person grieves in their own way. Claire shared a mediation (one of many in her book):
“May I start right here. May I offer myself kindness and compassion. May I accept myself as I am.”
Be kind to yourself and others. There is a lot of private pain. Make your healing process a no-compare zone.
3. Restoring in nature. Nature asks nothing from us. We just take in what’s happening. Being in the natural world can help us rest. In nature we see the cycles of life, death, and rebirth which will provide a sense of hope.
Claire read a poem by Wendell Barry titled: The Peace of Wild Things
When despair for the world grows in me, and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things who do not tax their lives with forethought of grief.
I come into the presence of still water, and I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting with their light.
For a time, I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
Learn to give your grief full expression
and find a companion in Claire’s book.
How often have you been told to shake it off, get a grip, move on, let it go, or you’re too sensitive only to realize that these platitudes make you feel worse? Traditionally, empaths are so sensitive that many recoil from the world. Our recent guest, Michelle Welch teaches empaths (and we all have some empathic power) to connect rather than disconnect.
Growing up in the Bible belt of Texas in a religious family, Michelle was not taught, nor encouraged to learn about, empathic skills or anything regarding the metaphysical. However, she remembers being intuitive from a young age. Her religious family would define her sensitivity as The Gift of Prophecy and/or discernment.
Michelle attended law school and
worked in prosecution, defense, and appeals cases. She had a desire to be a
judge – perhaps because of her “discernment”.
“One day I woke up and I wasn’t happy. I was empty. I was not feeling anything. I knew there was more to what I had studied in seminary and law school. I questioned everything. I pondered it all.”
Michelle began to learn the metaphysical. She learned her highly intuitive self was not a choice, and it didn’t matter which side of the brain we operate from. We were given both, and Michelle began to own her power.
Later when she told her legal colleagues
she was leaving, they were relieved because they recognized Michelle was making
a move to a more authentic side of herself.
“I believe in creating your reality and speaking your reality.”
Michelle is now the owner and operator of soon to be three SoulTopia metaphysical stores in Dallas, TX, where she offers intuitive readings and healing sessions in addition to teaching classes on crystals, tarot, energy work, and intuition. As a “reformed attorney,” she is still licensed in the state of Texas and has lent her intuitive abilities to numerous court and law enforcement cases.
Michelle is also the host of the SoulWhat podcast and the Michelle SoulTopia YouTube channel. Furthermore, she is an ordained minister and holds many certificates in various divination and healing modalities.
While working in her stores before and during the pandemic, Michelle was troubled by what she was hearing her customers say about their inability to tolerate other people, and their desire to break off relationships (cut cords) thinking they would be less traumatized by the energetic climate of the times – political and otherwise.
Her clients were trying to be more
authentic by cutting these relationship cords, and Michelle knew it wasn’t
“Customers were stating, ‘I can’t go to that party….; or I can’t be around that person…; or I can’t be friends with him/her… because of their negativity’. I wasn’t hearing people say, ‘I choose’. They wer saying ‘I can’t’ and taking no responsibility for their own energy.”
Understanding that we are all energy,
and we’re all one, cutting those cords
could have negative effects on all of us. Michelle pondered the idea that we
could learn to transmute or change that negative energy into something
“Why can’t we transmute our bad energy instead of cutting cords and severing relationships? If we are one, then we can’t cut the cords. I was compelled to write my book.”
“You can become a Superhero who can confidently engage in the world.”
The ability to spontaneously transmute
energy will help us lose our need to always come from a defensive and even
powerless standpoint so there’s no more need to cut cords. We heal cords
through transmutation. It’s a win-win prescription for healing and engaging!
Michelle’s book has over fifty meditations and exercises to assist readers in embracing their spiritual connection to live more empowered lives. Superhero’s Tools and Sidekicks are introduced and affirmations, mantras, tarot cards, candles, and incantations—along with a cast of assistants (ascended masters, archangels, deities, and others) at the ready to help you make magic happen.
“Start from the beginning and do each of the exercises in order. They are repetitive on purpose.”
Her book is for everyone, since we all have some form of empathic power. As you progress through the book, you’ll learn how to transmute energy. We all have been programmed to respond or react to energy. Our programming can change to lean more empathic. Sometimes “vibes” people give off have been interpreted wrong, and we can all learn to react to energy in a better way.
“Scan your own energy before you make judgements about the energy of others.”
You can shop at Michelle’s online store for crystals, beaded bracelets, healing bracelets, herbs, candles, statues, charms, books, cards, gifts, etc. https://mysoultopia.com/
Living a spiritually attuned life can come with challenges. Discover how to transform and transmute difficult or unwarranted energies to become a grounded source of love and light, able to withstand the dynamic energies of the times. Discover the Magic of Connection in your life. Get more information at MichelleWelch.com email@example.com
From the age of 6, Millen Livis wanted to understand how the world worked. She studied physics but discovered it didn’t provide the answers she was looking for. A shift was about to happen.
“I was on top of the world living the American dream. We came to this country with no money but ended up with a job on Wall Street and a great salary.”
What she calls “a divine crisis” brought Millen to her knees. A divorce. She experienced failure, guilt, and shame. Millen put aside her potential.
“I was experiencing the darkest night of my soul. I was dying inside. I wasn’t sleeping or eating. I didn’t want to talk to anyone. I avoided people, but I intuitively started praying and meditating.”
Millen had not been raised in a religious home and unexpectedly found metaphysics provided the answers about life she’d been seeking.
“It felt right. Intelligent love gave me what I needed. I was narrow minded before, and it took this painful experience to open my heart and my soul. It had to be an earth-shaking experience to shift my model of the world”
Millen admits before this crisis, ego had
kept her resistant to the Source.
“We don’t like to embrace the unknown, but that’s exactly how things work for our benefit in the quantum field. The shifts in my external life started happening when I changed inside, and I changed big time!”
Today, Millenis a financial independence mentor, best-selling author, investor, and entrepreneur. She combines her traditional and holistic education to help professional and entrepreneurial women become financially independent and retire early, so that they enjoy more choices and more freedom, without having to worry about money!
FREEDOM, Millen discovered is her core value. She wants to be free to enjoy life on her terms without obligations, guilt, or owing something to someone.
“I adjusted my choices which became aligned with the vision I now had of myself. Despite being strong and smart, I still needed support. I thought only weak people asked for help, but life taught me an important lesson.”
Millen explains life is like a boomerang. It’s about what YOU emit to the world. THAT’S what you’ll receive. When we live in integrity with values and words we use (which are frequency based), things will change for us. We will make better choices when we have clarity on what we WANT.
“Clarity about what you want is important. We have ability to create the experiences we want. Everything is perception.”
We (including myself) have strange perceptions of money. Millen explains many people feel money is something to chase and is hard to get. We might even feel money is not something we’re meant to have.
Millen has a different view of money.
“I choose to see money as a friend who has my back. You don’t need to chase a friend.”
Millen explains we are not linear beings, but multi-dimensional. Simply learning to invest is not enough for everyone. We can create success from the inside out and attract money through our frequency.
Mediations are part of Millen’s practice. Dr. Joe Dispenza is a mentor of hers and she endorses his meditation resources.
Millen also offers you a complimentary consultation, so you never have to worry about money again. She will help you map your path to financial independence.
Imagine you’re walking down a beautiful path toward the beach. You’re
happy in the moment until suddenly there are huge boulders blocking the way to your
You begin to think, “I can’t possibly crawl over these rocks, and there’s no way I could move them. My whole day is ruined, and I have to turn back.”
Your thoughts lead you to feel frustrated, sad, undeserving of joy, and guilt for wasting time. These feelings affect your physical body. Tension builds and you are suddenly exhausted, achy, and foggy in thought.
this may be what Highly Sensitive People experience daily.
Our recent guest, Nathalie Ekobo, is a highly sensitive entrepreneur. She is dedicated to help you remove obstacles and activate more business blessings so you can fulfill your purpose with more ease, and enjoy profitability, impact, and freedom.
“I help you remove those boulders in your path.”
Since Highly Sensitive People (HSP) have a nervous system wired a little differently than most, it’s easy to get into the cycle of negative thought, negative emotion, and negative energy which the boulder metaphor described.
“Thoughts produce feelings. If you feel frustrated for instance, then you’re vibrating frustrated energy to the world of ‘I’m a failure and a loser’. You broadcast everything energetically to other people, and they feel your energy. The Universe can’t respond in any other way but to give you more frustrated energy.”
Energetically you are blocked. If you don’t want to stay there, Nathalie can help. Her super HSP power will tap into your energy, your vibration, and the vibration of your business, and she will tell you what’s holding you back.
“We can co-partner to remove the boulders and clear your path to business success and joy .”
had a career as VP Marketing of Sales, and after 10 years she wanted more. Out
of the blue she remembered a dream she manifested at the age of 15 while visiting
U.S. national parks with her parents.
“I had a dream to open a French Restaurant in Phoenix, AZ.”
Nathalie had never told anyone her dream until travelling with a work associate one day. His reply to Nathalie was, “I have the same dream. I want to open a French Restaurant in Phoenix, too!”
With suitcases in hand and a dream in their hearts, Nathalie and her business partner moved from France to Arizona and opened their restaurant – French Ambience.
“I married the chef, and we now have a teenage daughter.”
restaurant eventually become overwhelming to an HSP like Nathalie. She was
introduced to energy work and a person who helped people clear past lives. She didn’t
know about past lives but was open minded… and desperate for any help.
“I began to feel things opening up. I had clarity of vision, and obstacles in my path were cleared. I wanted to learn how to do that for other people!”
felt she was always intuitive but suppressed it. Now she has constant
conversation with Source.
“It’s phenomenal how I developed this gift. Anyone can do so with a little practice. If you connect with knowingness you can make your dreams happen. You can step forward with faith, trust, and Universe as your partner.”
you feel cluttered and overwhelmed?
you doing everything all the business coaches are telling you, but your career
is still not flowing forward with ease?
According to Nathalie you don’t need one more marketing strategy or one more social media tip. The goal in life is to open yourself up. Get connected to your Source. Make life and business happen with ease and without overwhelm.
“I lived years without knowing I was HSP. I would be exhausted after networking events. I would give a speech somewhere and need a full day to recover from it. Lights and noises while travelling stressed me out. I thought something is wrong with me. I have an MBA. Why am I struggling to grow my business?”
good news is: there is nothing wrong with you! You’re just sensitive. Take
Nathalie’s quiz to determine your level of sensitivity, then book a call with her
and get those boulders in your path cleared away!
Imagine being in the path of a tsunami. A large wall of water towers over you and washes away the once-thought sure foundation beneath you. Being washed to and fro in the churning waves, you struggle for something, anything, to hold on to.
Imagine as hard as it is to keep your head above water, and to dogpaddle until exhaustion nearly overtakes you, this may be a perfect situation. This may be the best thing which has ever happened to you.
3. The love of her life broke off
Maria was drowning in the tsunami. Thankfully, a few angel-friends showed up to help her. She was inspired by others who survived tragedies like hers, and she began to recognize synchronicity in the events of her own life.
Despite the triple tragedies in 2008, it ended up being the best year of Maria’s life.
“I found a job a thousand times better than the old one. I became a speech champion, achieved a top 10 percent award as an instructor with Dale Carnegie courses, and I finally returned to Greece – a lifetime dream.”
That’s Maria’s message: “Whatever you’re currently going through, it might be the best year of your life. Miracles happen every day and we miss them.”
“We may not know it because of the little voice in our head, but we are perfect. Perfect, based on our purpose and what we are supposed to do.”
If you judge a fish by how well it can
fly, it would be a very bad fish.
Remember when you were a teenager, and you thought you knew everything? Now as you look back, you realize you didn’t know anything. Remember when breaking up with your first love at the age of 14 was the end of your world? Now it seems like an insignificant event.
“We all have different versions of ourselves. We look back at those old versions and wonder why we did certain things. What if we could see who we’ll be after life’s tsunamis? We can get overwhelmed with what’s going on right now, and we don’t think about the better and more brilliant version of ourselves we’ll be after the current tsunami.”
In Maria’s book you’ll learn to access your true self. You’ll learn how to jump into the next phase of life with peace, joy, and synchronicity. You’ll learn fear is an illusion, and gratitude is the cure to gain a different perspective.
She discovered God’s desire for her to write this book through a vision:
“One morning a puppet was standing at my bed side. Pinocchio-like and dirty, he was despondent. Dark clouds hung over his head. Strings attached to his hands and feet were being manipulated by an unseen puppet master. The puppet could not figure out why he kept failing in life.
Suddenly his eyes opened wide as he became aware of an eternal truth: he didn’t have to live that way. His expression became one of determination. The puppet took out a large pair of scissors and cut the strings above his head.
As the puppet faded away, the words: The Miraculous Realm of Heaven on Earth faded into view. I knew that would be the title of the book God was telling me to write.”
Hila explains the puppet as a metaphor to show us how to go forward and change our lives when we feel we can’t. We are being manipulated by others, and not allowing the Spirit to work in our lives.
This is Hila’s purpose and passion –
to help people who are stuck in unfulfilled lives break out of repeating cycles
of behavior which holds them hostage like puppets.
Hila coaches people in her master class: 5-step Miraculous Realm System
Preeminence – The Kingdom Lifestyle
“Don’t settle for the dictates of life. Expect to see more and you will. What you see and act on will change your life. It’s up to you to go after it!”
Hila J. Esters
Find Hila at www.FreedomNetworkNow.com where she
provides a podcast, messages, her book, a goldmine of resources, and her contact
“You have to get quiet. Meditate. Ask: I welcome you Holy Spirit to give me revelation, wisdom, and knowledge of __________________. Then you listen.
Live as though you already have it, and it will be brought to you. As soon as it comes out of your mouth you have it.”
“Let’s say you want to build muscles, and it’s suggested that you change your diet; eat fruits, vegetables, etc.
How does that support you to build muscles? It doesn’t. Until you lift weights you will not gain muscle. Dieting and building muscles are two different functions of your body.
Therefore, paying off credit card debt is like dieting – it will not build the assets that will allow you to create wealth. Later in life you end up with no debt, but you also have no assets.”
This is an important lesson our recent
guest, Rennie Gabriel learned. Despite education in, and a career as, a
financial planner, Rennie became financially broke at the age of 50.
“I was not taught the foundations of handling money effectively, which is sad. Ninety percent of the population has not received the right information about money.”
How has this happened?
“Parents and teachers can’t teach what they don’t know. I’ve asked hundreds of Certified Public Accountants, and not one has said budgeting and handling money was part of their course work. It wasn’t included in my course work as a financial planner.”
Rennie explains financial planners are
taught to help wealthy people stay wealthy, but not how to create wealth. Rennie
says the first place to start creating wealth is with our attitudes, beliefs,
There are some beliefs which hold us back. These beliefs keep us stuck in the same old rut of living from paycheck to paycheck, choosing which bills we can pay this month, and being concerned about impressing strangers.
“There is a myth which says you have to pay off your credit cards before you can start saving or investing in yourself.”
Once Rennie knew the secrets, he paid the minimum payments on his debt, and he saved money while doing so. In three years, he’d saved $18,000. He used that to start an investment portfolio with two other people.
“Anyone who lives on 80% of what they earn will be able to create wealth. Ten percent saved for later, and ten percent kept for the rest of their life. That’s the money used to build wealth.”
More money will
buy the happiness I’m missing now.
spending plans are the same thing.
If I just made more money, I wouldn’t
need a spending plan or budget.
This will take
too much time and restrict my spending.
Setting up a
spending plan will be too complicated.
Rich people don’t have to do this. I shouldn’t have too either.
Because of his wealth now, Rennie can give more money to causes he believes in. He gives all the proceeds of his book and programs to a nonprofit called Shelter to Soldier.
“They take dogs from environments where they could die on the street, or in a shelter where they could be euthanized, and they are trained as service animals for soldiers who’ve returned from service with PTSD, traumatic brain injuries, or other issues. Suicide rates among our returning military personnel is almost one an hour – 22 a day.”
Not one soldier who has received a
service dog has committed suicide, yet thousands of dogs a day are euthanized.
Rennie describes a few ways dogs can help:
Someone with PTSD can start to get uncomfortable in a crowd, and his/her service dog can sense this and take the soldier out of the situation.
A soldier could be having night terrors, and their service dog will jump on the bed and wake them up.
These dogs can turn on light switches, open doors, and whatever else the veteran needs.
Rennie is a TEDx speaker. You’re welcome to listen to his presentation here.
Rennie’s book should be a part of your library as well. If you’re like me, you need more education on building wealth.
Our recent guest, Eva Goulette received a message from Spirit 2 years ago: the world is ready, and the children are waiting. She took action which has resulted in spiritual training for children in 14 different countries around the world.
has been miraculous. Eva has always been creative. She was a ballet dancer and
a teacher – running a dance studio in upper state New York in her twenties.
Following her intuition, Eva made a cross country move to the west coast and found a job at Disneyland producing events. This was a dream job for Eva, and yet she began to realize it was feeding her ego, but not her spirituality. Despite several nudges from the Universe to move on, she did not listen.
“I knew I was living from my head, and not my heart. I needed to connect with my heart, but I did not know what it meant then. I didn’t want to leave the fun stuff and step into the unknown.”
had to intervene. A head-on auto accident resulted in a TBI (traumatic brain
injury) after which Eva had to move home to be cared for by her parents. With
memory loss and physical limitations, she considered alternative healing
Eva began studying shamanism. She noticed changes in her brain and added drumming to her therapy. Her healing was accelerated. Then she was introduced to a spirit camp for kids being taught by an acquaintance. She was invited to consider teaching a camp.
“This was a perfect marriage for me – spirituality and children.”
the small camps Eva hosted had profound experiences. She witnessed children reenergize
the memory of their spiritual nature. She started a business called Dancing
Jaguar Inspirations with a mission to:
Use a mixture of ancient traditions, nature experiences, and modern holistic techniques to assist in the development of well-rounded, empowered children, who are connected to their authentic selves, by providing them with educational experiences that nurture their minds, bodies, and spirits.
In order to reach children in the 14 countries that now benefit from her programs, Eva felt inspired to create training programs for Spirit Camp teachers.
“It was a full body of work in my head, but I didn’t know how to make sense of it on paper for teachers. Spirit opened up, and it just came to me.”
The results on kids? Light, awakening,
recognition in children as young as five years old.
“It is so amazing and an honor to be witness to that in such a young soul.”
Eva explained that many children, by the time they are 8 years old, do not share their empathic skills publicly because society (and often family members) have discouraged it. As children get older, they push their sensitivities down because those gifts are not often spoken about in families and/or they are made fun of because of special gifts they exhibit.
“There’s a part of these children which have been neglected. There is a lot of self-discovery happening at Spirit Camp.”
Eva reports teaching children to tap
into their inner wisdom, listen to the way their body communicates with them,
and tools to help them nurture themselves.
“At school they are nurtured in the mind; through play they are nurtured in the body; and at Spirit Camp they are nurtured in the Spirit.”
Children from age 5-12, and teens are taught to read their energy, and sense the energy in another person, and in nature. There are also classes for adults. In case you are interested, the next Spirit Camp begins the end of April, and there is a 6-class series coming up March 8th. Any adult who would like to teach Spirit Camps can enroll in a certification course beginning May 1st.
Pat Alva-Kraker’s book Katherine’s Quest is about a main character whose life and challenges every reader can connect to, and who happens upon inspirational words from the past. If that’s not enough, Pat’s book also contains musings and teachings from the author herself. I gained amazing insights by perusing its pages.
If you enjoy traveling, you will feel like wearing Bermuda shorts and flip flops while reading this sweet parable about islands such as:
– the place of beginnings
Island – the place to start a sacred journey.
Island – the place to heal.
Island – the place to learn the love of work.
Faon Island –
the place of happiness without possessions
– the place of love
Island – the place of culmination
Pat was driven to write this book for you because of three disastrous life events she herself experienced: cancer, widowhood, and a layoff. She navigated her way through these trying circumstances and now provides ways for each of us to circumnavigate our own challenges in a fictional story about Katherine.
Working most of her career in a male-dominated industry, Pat is now on a mission to help women feel empowered in the engineering and IT industries. Pat ran into women who were ambitious and hungry for executive management. She had asked them the burning question:
“How can I help you get there?”
Her reputation and customer base ignited when people in companies would tell their female employees, “you should talk to Pat.”
her coaching process by asking her clients to define “success” for themselves.
“Many women step into the shoes of what society deems “success’ to be, such as a college degree, management, climbing the corporate ladder, and then they don’t feel happy because their ladder is leaning on the wrong wall.”
Pat’s description illustrates what happens to many of us – we fall out of congruency with our own measure of success.
We always have our choice. Our sacred journey is an ebb and flow of experiences that make us who we are. Our life experiences show up like wrinkles around our eyes. Some of the wrinkles are of joy, others of sadness. Each of us are on a sacred journey that is unique, that cannot be lived by anyone else.
Katherine’s Quest; Pat’s Musings
“You’re exactly where you need to be. Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 7 because we all have a unique path.”
morning when you wake up, name 2-3 things you are grateful for. Allow yourself
to sit in silence, then ask the question: “What’s my next best step today?”
Then go do that.
At the end
of the day, Pat encourages us to participate in an exercise she calls
“Play back your day as if it was a movie. Be the observer of your movie and watch for the patterns in your day. What went well, and why? What did not go so well, and why? You can learn from every day’s experience by being the observer of your life. Write your discoveries down.”
Self-Care methodology in her book as well, which should be practiced every day.
“When our cup is full or overflowing, then we can give from a better place versus depleting ourselves and putting us last on the list. Giving from an empty cup doesn’t serve anyone.”
“Feelings are the magnet to bringing in the things you want. How do you want to feel, and how do you want others to feel? Let go and ask for what you want or something better.”
Pat advises it is better to be satisfied than successful. Rather than get hooked into being defined by the money goals of career, be sure what we are doing is really what we want to do. Make sure our actions connect with our mission.
book, the main character, Katherine learns this important lesson:
In the end, a choice between the life of overindulgence and never-ending work, little peace and only rare moments of joy, and a life of elation, she would take elation. She would seek the great joy and happiness that is best when it comes from inside and lived on the outside.
For those of you saying, “I’m tired,” “I’ve done everything I know to do,” and “I don’t know what else I can do” our recent guest, Treveal C.W. Lynch is someone to pay attention to. Perhaps you are exhausted from all the effort you are exerting and the hard work you are putting in day after day, only to feel you are never enough.
I completely get it! I needed to hear
Treveal is a Self-Worth Specialist, and author of the book What Is Enough. He founded iamthepossible®, and preaches:
“The greatest thing you will ever become, is accepting of WHAT you already (are)”
Treveal C.W. Lynch
The “C.W.” represents his father: Christopher Westley. Treveal was estranged from his father for many years. Once reunited, Treveal found forgiveness and now honors his father by making him a part of all he does, and everything he is a part of.
“Don’t dare leave out the C.W.”
Treveal C.W. Lynch
Treveal’s efforts to teach you and I about our significance, he was once
feeling very worthless.
At the age of 20 Treveal was held at gunpoint and robbed for $120 of weed. The robbers demanded three times, “Give me what you have.”
When Treveal was unwilling to give them the marijuana, the trigger was pulled.
The gun failed to fire.
“Look how worthless I felt. I was willing to be shot for a bag of weed. Are YOU willing to live beneath your true value?”
Treveal C.W. Lynch
A year after he was robbed at gunpoint, Treveal committed grand theft at a bistro to it’s owner. He was facing a 15-year prison sentence.
While still in jail, a county sheriff invited those in custody to attend a church service on Sunday morning.
“All I wanted to do was get out of the cell block. I was not religious but was being offered 60 minutes to leave my cell, and I took it.”
Treveal C.W. Lynch
It was during the service Treveal heard a story of Jesus. The message he received from the sermon was clear and life-changing:
“You smoked weed, robbed people at gunpoint, broke into buildings and vandalized them, cussed people out, beat people up, and YOU ARE ACCEPTED. With all of your mess, all of your crap, all of your failings, all of your flaws, all of your ugliness, all of your brokenness – I still accept you.”
everything around for Treveal. He had been feeling like an outsider, and now
belonged to something. He was ACCEPTED.
His pastor came to Treveal’s rescue, and with an attorney friend convinced the judge to allow Treveal to pay his victim back the money he had robbed him. If he agreed to this arrangement, the bistro owner was willing to drop all charges and clean up Treveal’s record.
released, went to work, and over time paid all the money back.
“Self-awareness is the concept of being aware we are in the right place to BE enough, HAVE enough, and know we’ve ACHIEVED enough.”
Treveal C.W. Lynch
We can live FROM
our worth and not FOR our worth.
“WHO you are is your identity. WHY you are is the intention of your creator. WHAT you are is your investment to life. You are created to BE a contribution. WHAT tells you WHY you are.”
Treveal C.W. Lynch
suggests we ADVOCATE for the ALREADY and focus on digging within ourselves to
discover WHAT’S already inside us.
WHAT do you
WHAT do you
you cry naturally and laugh naturally?
WHAT do you
naturally gravitate toward?
issues in the world naturally pull your heart strings?
WHAT do you do
naturally that makes people remark, “You do that so well”?
WHAT is already there. Our WHAT will be pulled out when we take time to self-observe.
You would do
well to read Treveal’s book, and to listen to his podcasts. WHAT are you
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