It was a trip to the mall to buy clothes which set Jackie Simmons’s daughter off the first time. The teenager was in between sizes and couldn’t find anything that fit. Coming home from the shopping trip left Jackie’s daughter feeling that along with clothes not fitting, she didn’t fit anywhere.
The young girl stormed to the bathroom. A few minutes later she came to her mother Jackie, asking for help. Her left arm was bleeding due to an obvious self-inflicted injury. It was not life-threatening, and Jackie was able to stay calm. After a visit to a mental health facility the next day, Jackie and her daughter didn’t talk about it again.
“Who was to blame? It had to be somebodies’ fault.”
Since Jackie’s daughter was getting professional help, Jackie
feared if she mentioned suicide in a conversation that she might put the thought
back in her daughter’s head.
Her daughter made 13 more attempts at suicide.
“By the way, it’s not possible to put a thought in someone’s head.”
Jackie Simmons
Jackie Simmons created The Teen Suicide Prevention Society to provide stigma-free, pure-prevention programs, books, and products designed to help you easily start “suicide proofing” your friends, family, team, and yourself.
It started with a simple idea: What if, instead of teaching
people what signs to look for and ways to intervene, they are given ways to
start talking about suicide in a way that didn’t assume someone was “at
risk?”
Jackie’s book Make it a Great Day The Choice is Yours contains stories of heartache and stories of triumph from over twenty contributors.Each story is designed to help you break the silence. The stories are real, raw, and sometimes comes with dog turds.
Proceeds from her book go to The Teen Suicide Prevention Society and sponsors projects like a community center in the Mukuru slums in Nairobi, Kenya. They’ve built a small building used as a library for breakfast before school and a meeting place for kids after school. The Society also sponsors a night shelter for the safety of youth.
“Teen suicide is rising quickly world-wide. In 2020 more deaths in Sweden were from suicide than Covid-19, although it’s being driven by the consequences of COVID-19.”
Jackie Simmons
Jackie’s focus is on providing emotional resilience tools for
kids and teaching them to kids.
“Resilience is caught not taught, and many parents aren’t able to share tools of resilience because they lack the trait as well. Children learn what they live.”
Jackie Simmons
Jackie is now a TEDx speaker. You can listen to her talk right here.Have “The Talk” to Stop Teen Suicide
“Silence is deadly when it comes to suicide.”
Jackie Simmons
Jackie claims a suicidal thought is perfectly normal. If having the thought causes fear, then an emotional layer is added to the thought. We try not to think about suicide, but often not thinking about it causes the thinker to think about it even more. This cycle becomes a negative echo chamber.
“The conscious mind is not in control. The subconscious is designed to manifest what we’re thinking about, and our brain looks for opportunities to bring about what we’re thinking about. Unfortunately, far too many people take the opportunity presented.”
Jackie Simmons
Kids call it self-deleting because it’s as easy as hitting the delete
key.
Research has discovered that many people take their lives because it seems like the best idea at the time. Jackie’s mission is not to take suicide off the table, but to replace the ruminating thoughts with different ones.
Here’s a script for “the talk” that will change suicidal thought patterns in an easy, comfortable way.
Parent to child: “I’ve decided to be part of the movement to make teen suicide a thing of the past. They gave me a guide and I need to practice. Would you be willing to help me practice my talk for tomorrow?”
(When teens are given an opportunity to help they get a dopamine hit and the parent has started building a buffer between them and the ledge.)
Child: “Yes.”
Parent to child: “Thanks for helping me. It’s only four questions. Here’s the first one. Have you heard about the rise in teen suicides?”
Child: “Yes.”
Parent to child: “Thank you. Question 2 – Do you have a friend who has tried or died?”
Child: “Yes.”
Parent to child: “Thank you. Question 3 – Have you ever thought about leaving that way?”
Child: “Yes.”
Parent to child: “Thank you. Question 4 – What are your reasons for staying?”
(The good news is that when the teen lists reasons for staying they will begin to smile and change their attitude. Keep them talking about reasons for staying. You’ve just redirected their brain and created a new neuro network.)
“A child who confesses to thinking about leaving by suicide but cannot list reasons to stay needs to be helped immediately. Stay with them and call 911. This is the moment when you need professional intervention. They will hate you for it, and you might save their life.”
Jackie Simmons
Jackie reports the percentage of people who have had thoughts of
leaving and no reasons to stay is ZERO.
“People who are struggling with depression and suicide are good at masking and lying. Even if they lie about reasons to stay, the brain believes them. It’s Ninja mindset magic!”
Jackie Simmons
Jackie cautions parents to follow the guide verbatim. Use this
precise language. If parents’ probe for more information, they’ve just broken
trust.
“We are about saving lives, not making parents feel good.”
Jackie Simmons
The Teen Suicide Prevention Society makes it as easy as possible to help your kids catch emotional intelligence. You can join the society and support their programs.
Audrey Weidman was a type-A personality; a self-described over-achiever always seeking for acknowledgment, reward, and attention. As the oldest child of three the pressure to carry out her father’s hopes for her were all-consuming.
Audrey’s father was a doctor with the expectation Audrey would be as well. When her father died of a sudden heart attack when Audrey was twenty years old, her first thought was, “At least I don’t have to go to medical school now.”
Her father served in
Germany as a medic during WWII. He immigrated to Canada and then the United
States. Living in a small town as a doctor meant he alone took care of all
medical issues from the smallest to the biggest. It was a stressful, never-off-work
type of career. His goal was to have the nicest house and the prettiest wife.
Sounds to me as though
Audrey is a lot like her father. She would also suffer a heart attack like her
father did.
After getting a food science degree, working alone in a lab day after day, and then deciding to work in market research after achieving an MBA; Audrey began to invest in real estate. After a successful run, everything went south in 2008. With two children still home to support, Audrey lost everything she’d worked hard to have.
Worst of all she blamed
herself.
“I should have seen the fore coming disaster. I was weighed down with knowing I had to make up for our lost income. For the first time I was not successful. The negative talk began, and I was feeling really down on myself.”
Audrey Weidman
One Saturday Audrey was cutting down brush in her yard while listening to a podcast about successful people and began to feel angry about her inability to feel successful in the moment.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
Suddenly Audrey became dizzy. Soon she was sitting in the kitchen, her husband prompting her to take a break. Then came the strange sensation in her chest – tightness and burning.
Audrey attributed all this to muscle soreness from exercise the day before. She already had an appointment with her doctor on Monday (two days from then), so she decided to wait to seek answers to her strange feeling.
On Monday morning she ran to the train and then walked several blocks to her doctor in Chicago. As was routine, the doctor hooked Audrey up to an EKG monitor.
Audrey was expecting good news since she’d been working hard at lowering her cholesterol and taking much better care of herself since her previous appointment.
“Doctor, I’ve had this strange chest pain all weekend and it hasn’t gone away.”
Glancing over at the EKG monitor Audrey’s doctor exclaimed, “Oh my god Audrey, you’re having a heart attack right now!”
The emergency room physicians acted quickly. Before long Audrey felt as though she was playing a part in a movie being zipped through the halls of the emergency room on a gurney watching the ceiling tiles flash by.
“It was real trauma for me to be in the emergency room thinking about myself and how it seemed impossible to be having a heart attack. Friends told me I was the healthiest person they knew. I thought I was the healthiest person I knew as well.”
Audrey Weidman
Following all the tests,
doctors reported no plaque in Audrey’s arteries, but with special imaging
available to her at this teaching hospital, the problem revealed itself
quickly.
Audrey was true to her
over achiever personality.
“I didn’t have an ordinary heart attack. I had a SCAD – Spontaneous Coronary Artery Dissection.”
Audrey Weidman
According to
MayoClinic.Org Spontaneous
coronary artery dissection is an emergency condition that occurs when a tear
forms in a blood vessel in the heart. SCAD can slow or block blood flow to the heart, causing a heart attack, heart rhythm problems (arrythmias)
or sudden death.
SCAD most
commonly affects women in their 40s and 50s, though it can occur at any age and
can occur in men. People who have SCAD often don't have risk factors
for heart disease, such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or diabetes.
SCAD can
cause sudden death if it isn't diagnosed and treated promptly. Seek emergency
attention if you have heart attack symptoms — even if you think you aren't at
risk of a heart attack.
Watch this video from the American Heart Association
Hindsight is 20/20 and
Audrey sees now that stress was a key contributor to her heart attack.
“Many women (like me) look healthy and fit. What’s going on in their mindset may be causing stress. Stress sets off biochemical reactions unfavorable to overall wellness. When you are constantly stressed and don’t vocalize it you are hurting your body.”
Audrey Weidman
Audrey realizes she was
trying so hard to please others she failed to honor herself.
“Focus on what brings you joy. You have more power than you think in terms of following your own path.”
Audrey Weidman
For a while Audrey felt sorry for herself. She felt ashamed and embarrassed that she’d had a heart attack. The only treatment for SCAD is to let it heal. She went to cardio rehab.
While in cardio rehab Audrey was encouraged to meditate. She tried Transcendental Meditation and saw the results immediately. Using a Heart Math device today allows Audrey to monitor the effects of meditation using biofeedback.
Audrey is now a Certified Stress Mastery Educator. She offers online courses you can take starting in March. It’s $99 and Audrey promises you’ll enjoy learning science-based content and instruction.
Have you ever considered what it would be like to have a relationship with Divine Mother? What would you ask Her?
Our most recent guest, Connie Huebner has authored a book, and teaches classes helping people like you and me not only meet Divine Mother, but get answers to questions, and learn vibrational healing from Her.
“Divine Mother is the wholeness of the Mother/Father God presence in the universe. Her power is coming forth in the world to balance the human family. We experience too much conflict, separation, and isolation without Her.”
Connie Huebner
Connie describes ways we need the qualities of Divine Mother such as compassion, love, and creativity to center ourselves. Connie’s book was written to empower those who are feeling disempowered and unsure about what the next day will bring.
“I was at the time a teacher of meditation. I was helping people gain connection to their inner self when I perceived a brilliant light rising out of the unified field. The light divided into two, then four waves which interacted as flows and particles of energy.”
Connie Huebner
Connie asked, “Who are you?”
The answer: “I am The Divine Mother, and I am birthing the Universe.”
“I wanted to work with Divine Mother. I had to purify myself and clear negative blocks of energy. I didn’t know how to express myself, but I received guidance.”
Connie Huebner
Connie explains all of us are both masculine and feminine and our power needs to be balanced. We get out of balance when we experience fear, shame, and unworthiness. Connie teaches tools to shift our thinking and emotions. Negative belief systems must be broken up.
“Atoms are made of high energy particles which make up who we are. We can direct those particles positive or negative. When our life force is no longer flowing through us we can experience illness. Physical conditions can be healed through restorative energy.”
Connie Huebner
Connie will pour divine
light into a person or a place.
“Attention and intention are powerful. I call upon Divine Mother and the company of heaven. Any block can be broken apart by bringing in the light. Depression, relationships, finances. The Divine Mother wants her children to thrive.”
Connie Hubner
When working with students Connie teaches people how to breath and
center in the heart. Softening is the next step. She guides people to soften the
heart, settle in the throat, and expand all the chakra centers.
“You’ll experience your higher self, increased love, and joy.”
Connie Huebner
Sadly, according to Connie most people don’t love themselves.
“We are made in the image of God. That says that there is something big and expansive and beautiful about us, but we have a habit of negative self-talk.”
Connie Huebner
She explains falling
asleep at night is the best time for self-hypnosis. It is then when we can “get
in the gap” where we are more willing to accept the truth.
Grace: a vibration and energy that cannot be understood intellectually
“When grace occurs, the whole universe shifts and turns to bless you. The entire universe is intelligence and when our hearts are pure we want good. We will bless the planet with grace and grace comes back to us. The Universe is light, love, kindness, and truth.”
Connie Huebner
Self-love is a magnet that will draw people to you.
Connie Huebner will help you connect to and communicate with Divine Mother. Her course teaches you how to have that important dialogue.
Clare’s curiosity of death led her to study Buddhism five years before she came face to face with death. Her significant other, Brent was diagnosed with cancer.
Brent refused all treatment except surgery. He wanted to live in control of how he went. Since losing his father to cancer at the age of 16, Brent had developed a fearless way of living life.
“Dying is so easy. I thought it would be harder.”
Brent
“Brent saw the benefits of knowing when he was going to die and how he would go. He felt himself lucky. Everyone else lives in mystery and uncertainty, which leads to fear.”
Clare Goldsberry
Clare was prepared to support Brent in his final 18 months. She had read a Tibetan book of living and dying. She witnessed Brent journeying through the signs and symptoms mentioned in the book. This knowledge made Brent’s death much easier for her.
“I said to Brent, ‘I’m sure glad you’re dying by the book’.“
Clare Goldsberry
Buddhism also taught Clare about death and dying. Teachings such as Remember death; Death is certain, but the time of our death is uncertain are now included in her book which helps people be ready for death.
The first chapter of Clare’s book intrigued me – Why we don’t know how to die
According to Clare, the best way to have a “good death” is to not be afraid of it. Using a wand and shouting Riddikulus is metaphorically possible. All is created by the mind in the mind. Quantum physics and Buddhism agree our thoughts create our reality.
“Thoughts can destroy us or give us a peaceful happy life.“
Clare Goldsberry
Clare explains fear effects our immune system. To improve our health we should be fearless.
“Indigenous leaders teach today is a good day to die. This is interpreted as meaning – today is a good day and I will accept whatever comes, even my death. When we embrace life and all that comes with it we can live our life to the fullest.“
Clare Goldsberry
According to Clare, our biggest fear and regret near the end of our life is that we never did what we really wanted to. Her book encourages us to be true to ourselves and know our calling.
Learn more about Clare and her philosophy in her book and on her website here: ClareGoldsberry.com
Joseph Campbell said, “Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer. We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
Is it possible to live a stress-free family life? When I was a young mother it seemed impossible and unrealistic. Though I tried, I struggled to stay on top of my own schedule as well as the schedule my children needed to adhere to.
Our recent guest, Madeleine Davis also struggled to be a “together mom.”
“When I embarked on the journey of motherhood I thought I was the only mom who didn’t have all the answers. It was intimidating. I was successful in my business life, and I thought popping out a few kids would be easy.”
Madeleine Davis
Madeleine thought what many mothers think: “I’m never going to figure this out before my kids grow up and leave for college.”
Thankfully, Madeleine did figure it out, published a book, and created a system to help overwhelmed parents to be relaxed and confident while setting their kids up for success.
Her book is A Stress-Free Family – Chaos to Calm in only 28 Days. Madeleine calls it a daily handbook which most parents complete in 6 weeks (partnering with her Stress-Free Family System) but can be done in 28 days.
“You don’t have to be born a together mom – you can learn how to be one.”
Madeleine Davis
Parents who’ve decided to
take Madeleine’s program say they no longer wanted to fake it or keep the “together”
illusion. Her program is simple and easy to implement.
“It’s a family system. It helps everybody.”
Madeleine Davis
Family life is often chaotic, and the pandemic hasn’t made it any easier. Kids are in different schools (or at home) starting at different times of the morning. Parents are working from home, too. Most parents know children thrive with structure, but don’t know how to create it.
“Sometimes as parents we feel comfortable in chaos because we grew up that way. We’re all trying to do the best we can, but trial and error learning is inefficient learning. Even if parents research solutions the glut of information is paralyzing.”
Madeleine’s system makes sense and fits all the important pieces together. The Stress-Free Family System is a five-step process and it’s included in her book.
Step 1: Routines
“Stress is reduced when routines are effective. I teach families to optimize routines in the home and make it easy to change as the family changes.
One part of the process is clustering; and once implemented clustering is a life changer.”
Madeleine Davis
Madeleine suggests identifying a time when a child’s routine is most challenging and in which rooms the activity takes place. For instance, in the bedroom a child would make his/her bed, get dressed and grab their book bag. In the bathroom a child would use the toilet and brush his/her teeth. In the kitchen they’d eat breakfast and grab their lunch box.
“Chances are right now your kids are ping-ponging back and forth from room to room allowing distractions at every turn. The Stress-Free Family System takes them to each room only one time, and then out the door.”
Madeleine Davis
In the Routines part of the system parents also learn to use a Tomorrow Box/Basket/Bag. This is a way to contain everything that needs to go out the door with each child in the morning. Each child will also take everything to the bedroom with them at bedtime.
The system teaches parents to plan each day the day before. Just this one principle helps children practice next-step thinking, as well as strategic and critical thinking. This way parents can avoid all the forgotten homework and lunch boxes.
Simple, fast, and seamless
parenting!
Step 2: Rhythms
This is a process to identify the repetitive events that require both parent and child participation.
“Families solve each problem for the last time. The result is a home which runs effortlessly.”
Madeleine Davis
Imagine kids constantly
asking questions, misplacing notes from school, forgetting lunch, and learning
there is no permission slip for a school trip when it’s needed.
Now, imagine erasing all
of those problems forever.
Step 3: Rules
Rules are either enforced, or not depending on the energy level of the parent enforcing them. In Madeleine’s system rules are based on two factors 1) they are tied to family values and principles; and 2) they are created for each family member… including parents.
“A couple of suggested Mom rules are, ‘I will only choose consequences I know I can honor’ and ‘I will not allow my emotions to guide my actions’.”
Madeleine Davis
Identify one or two rules
you can give yourself to be the parent you want to be.
Step 4: Rewards
In Madeleine’s Stress-Free Family System, consequence is used instead of punishment and chores are called contributions.
“It’s best to reward for good behavior instead of punishing for bad behavior.”
Madeleine Davis
Madeleine reports that money
rewards rarely work, but internal motivation does.
Think about three things your child would want to have, or to do. Only include rewards you can realistically give them and think of them ahead of time to reduce the temptation to bribe in the moment.
Step 5: Revolutionize
Madeleine suggests keeping the changes you’re making under cover until just the right time.
“Kids already have changes happening in their lives. If you announce a new program to include big changes at home you’ll get push back from the family.”
Madeleine Davis
Making changes covertly will create a revolutionary buy-in later since you’ll be able to provide examples of the positive changes already made. Madeleine’s system includes scripts to say just the right things during the revolutionized meeting. Your children will feel they are driving the changes, and there will be no push back!
Stop beating yourself up and stop feeling guilty for not being a “together mom or dad”. Check out Madeleine’s book, and her Stress-Free Family System. Make 2022 the best year yet for your entire family!
Our recent guest, Shiraz Baboo uses Energetic Magic to help people rewrite their reality. He has transformational coaching programs for groups and individuals and allows them to shift their belief and story in the moment.
“I was learning bio energetics; I was a body builder; and all of a sudden one morning I woke up with arthritis.”
Shiraz Baboo
Shiraz had pain in every joint of his body. Some days he had to sip his meals through a straw because his jaw was so swollen and painful. He spent nights lying in agony. He tried to lead a normal life, but there was always constant pain.
Shiraz tried nutritional changes, medication, supplements, and acupuncture.
Everything would work for a little while, then not work at all.
“Why were things only temporary?”
Shiraz Baboo
After 20 years Shiraz looked for any treatments he hadn’t yet tried. His father mentioned a program in India, and away he went.
Shiraz found a man in India who simply asked Shiraz questions
about his life for two weeks. Being in India, Shiraz expected reiki or some
form of hands-on healing. That’s not what he got.
Then came the diagnosis from the Indian guru:
“Unconsciously, you believe you’re responsible for everyone in your life. You’ve created this belief.”
Shiraz wondered, what does that have to do with arthritis?
The guru continued,
“It’s too much work to be responsible for everyone. You found a solution. If you’re in bed and in pain you don’t have to be responsible for anyone, and you don’t have to feel guilty. It’s a solution for a problem you don’t know you have.”
“That’s messed up!”
Shiraz Baboo
Shiraz replied, “If that’s true, all I have to do is say I’m not responsible for anyone but me and I should be healed.”
The guru told Shiraz that he had to believe it.
Miraculously, the next morning, Shiraz woke up without pain, with
no inflammation, and with more mobility than he’d had in years.
“I’m freaking out!”
Shiraz Baboo
Shiraz had a complete shift in consciousness:
“What you think is a problem, is typically the solution. If you’ve got a consistent or reoccurring problem in your life, it’s the solution. Most people don’t get that, and they can’t fix it.”
Shiraz Baboo
For Shiraz, the solution to the story he was creating for himself
was arthritis.
“This is not just about illness, it’s why some people don’t have relationships, money, or a successful career. The lack of those things is actually the solution to something else.”
Shiraz Baboo
Shiraz and his popular programs can help you rewrite your
reality using his Energetic Magic.
“It’s all about energy. Your beliefs are energy. The stories you tell are energy. When you shift your energy, you shift your story. Your reality shifts like magic. It’s incredibly simple, but it’s not easy.”
Shiraz Baboo
Shiraz explained that our beliefs and stories become addictions. We read books, go to seminars, try the newest thing, and we can get short term relief from our challenges, but they always return. Why? Because it’s an addiction and we go through withdrawal.
“Comfortable and safe is where everyone wants to be, but comfortable and safe doesn’t mean happy.”
Shiraz Baboo
One client Shiraz worked with was frustrated because things were always going wrong for him. Shiraz helped this man to see he was self-sabotaging circumstances so he could fix them. Be fixing the problems he was creating, the got a drug-like fix by being seen as the hero.
This same man began working with Shiraz and started to see positive changes in his story. After three weeks however, the man started feeling anxious about everything going right. Finally, when something went wrong, the man felt relieved.
“It was then he understood the addiction he had to his story. When a story ends up like we expect, we get to be right. We get a fix from being right.”
Shiraz Baboo
The universe works on resistance. The less resistance you have
to outcomes the more the universe flows. When you’re trying to create something,
you must be willing to have the best possible outcome.
Shiraz claims it can take 6 months to rewrite your story and make it stick. Your brain grows neurons in a river of consciousness and these neurons begin to control how you think. To get out of it you must create contrary neurons.
Shiraz teaches classes on his Energetic Magic method.
“By the end of a two day course everyone is doing Energetic Magic on everyone else. No muscle testing required; it’s just reading energy.”
Shiraz Baboo
Perhaps it’s time for you to consider your stories. Are they working for you or against you? Shiraz has Monthly Magic programs for his clients, and this New Years Eve, he is hosting an event to rid people of the crap experienced in 2021, and set themselves up for more successful stories in 2022.
“This journey helps us recognize the denied shadow of ourselves which we wouldn’t know without meeting our opposite twin. Without this journey we may not see this part of ourselves. It alchemizes fear and transmutes it into love. We become aligned with our soul.”
Elle Hari is describing a condition if, when followed to completion, will help us accept and develop love for ourselves. The journey she has written about and talked about on our show is a twin flame journey.
A twin flame journey was brand new to Todd and me. Therefore, we started with the basics. We asked Elle to define the difference (if any) between a soul mate and a twin flame
A twin flame is the person who shares your soul. Everyone has a twin flame, and only one twin flame. Two bodies, one soul.
A soul mate is another soul entirely (any living being) that resonates with your soul. Most people think of romantic partners as soul mates, and it can be. However, soul mates can be family members, friends, strangers, and even pets.
“Our soul is energy and originates in the fifth dimension. Our physical world is in the third dimension, which has a completely different energy paradigm. In 3D everything is opposite and/or in duality with each other. Up/down, hot/cold, etc. Our souls choose to incarnate here because we must experience opposites.”
Elle Hari
Elle teaches to
live in this 3D energetic environment, the soul creates an opposite of itself.
One half of the soul goes to each twin flame; each having an opposing polarity
to the other. We may never physically meet our twin flame, but if we do the
polarities of each twin flame come into play.
“A twin flame journey begins when paths cross and the soul recognizes itself in the body of the other twin. At that point, the polarities become activated. Twin flames are drawn together like magnets. They feel as though they’ve never connected as much with someone else as they are to this person. They feel at home.”
Elle Hari
The push-pull
problem
You might think meeting your twin flame would be an amazing experience. However, Elle explains the way the magnetic energy to one’s twin flame can be challenging.
“The polarities manifest physically as a push-pull. One twin will push while the other twin pulls. The push twin energy is moving toward their twin, and the pull twin’s energy is pulling away from the push twin. If one is pushing and the other pulling in tandem, you can imagine it’s impossible for them to come together physically for any sustained amount of time. The polarities must be neutralized.”
Elle Hari
Neutralizing the
push-pull problem
Elle describes the
push-pull energy as fear-based energy, while the soul is love energy. To
assimilate on this planet in the 3D paradigm of duality love must overcome the
fear. Not always easy.
It may look like the push twin is obsessed with the pull twin. It can be devastating when a breakup happens. The energy felt when you meet your twin flame is addictive, and if it’s lost all thoughts are obsessed with a reunion to the pull twin, and the push twin may have trouble getting over the loss.
“The soul will not allow you to focus on anything else once you recognize your twin. To neutralize or balance the energy into love, the push must stop. When the push stops, the pull will return. It’s not easy to stop obsessing about losing a part of your soul.”
Elle Hari
Elle shared three indications
you may be on a twin flame journey, which begins at soul recognition.
1. An obsession
2. Core wound pain
3. Doubt
“Domestic violence, suicide, and stalking can be an indication of a twin flame journey, but people don’t know to consider this possibility. If you’re fixated on someone or are trying to manifest a relationship, you may be on a twin flame journey.”
Elle Hari
Elle’s twin flame
journey
“I had just gotten through a divorce. I had two young children. I met a guy younger than I was, and we connected deeply. In six week’s, he was gone. I felt like my soul was ripped out, leaving a gaping hole and intense pain. I could not function. I would lay on the floor crying, barely able to care for my kids.
For 6 months I consulted with psychics, spiritual advisors, spell-casters, voodoo mambo, and a therapist. I was trying anything to rid myself of this physical and emotional pain.
I finally spoke with a telephone psychic who mentioned twin flames to me for the first time. I Googled the meaning. I paid this psychic for a session and within two weeks I was functioning normally. Three months later my twin flame came back to me.”
Elle Hari
Elle is still with
her twin flame today. Not always easy since she is the push twin. Push energy
will reveal itself again, and it’s a constant process learning to neutralize
that. However, because Elle understands the shared energy with her twin flame
she has become fearless in the relationship and has come to accept and love
herself.
“The doubt is always there. Your soul guides you to the journey for a reason. You can also be magnetized with a close soul mate, which can cause confusion and doubt at times.”
Elle Hari
Elle was inspired to author her book to teach the truth and bring clarity to the twin flame journey. Many people have reached out to her, and she has now become a coach.
“So many people are awakening to their twin flame journey.”
Elle Hari
Elle offers a Magnetize your Twin Flame coaching program where she teaches clients to access and work with their soul’s energy. One hundred percent of her students have magnetized their twin flame back into their lives.
“Finding your twin flame reveals the part of yourself you’ve always denied. You are given opportunity to accept yourself without judgement and find complete self-love.”
Alina Boyte was our recent guest. She is the founder and director of Changemaker Institute, a brand new (since March 2021) public benefit corporation.
According to Wikipedia, public benefit corporations, also known as benefit corporations, are for-profit businesses whose charters commit them to social or environmental missions, not just maximizing shareholder value. These corporations take into account how other stakeholders such as communities and the environment will be affected by their actions.
Alina has years of experience in law as her
resume suggests:
Stanford Law Grad with a PhD in copyright law and history
Professor at Mississippi College Law
Awarded Cambridge Commonwealth Scholarship
Awarded Fulbright Scholarship
Awarded Lieberman Fellowship at Stanford
“What I’ve come to realize in teaching law and attending law conferences is that things we know and talk about in academic circles never leave the ivory tower. We talk about it, debate it, and author a book only our mothers will read.”
Alina Boyte
Businesses don’t always get the information which allows them to apply important tools in a way that makes sense.
“The mission of Changemaker Institute is to take what we know in academia and bring it to business. You can be a profitable business and influence social good at the same time.”
One company in Mississippi – Musee Bath – sells bath bombs and bath products. They influence social good by employing marginalized women such as former felons, domestic abuse survivors, and the homeless.
Musee makes handcrafted, natural products in Madison County, Mississippi with the mission of restoring lives by providing dignified work for vulnerable people in our community. We primarily hire women in recovery, people with disabilities, and people who have lived in chronic poverty. Our products are handmade in the USA with ethically sourced, natural ingredients. Our bath balms are cruelty-free, paraben-free, and sulfate-free and safe for all skin types.
Musee’s website
Their bath bombs
are adorable, and I’m going to gift a few to my granddaughters.
“Social impact is not just the responsibility of governments. Ordinary people can have impact. Businesses make an impact by who they employ, how they treat their employees, who they do business with, and the business model they develop.”
Alina Boyte
Without these
types of business, more people may return to prison and/or to situations that
bring unhappy consequences.
Another example of a socially impactful business is Patagonia. They claim:
We’re in business to save our home planet.
Patagonia is Alina’s dream social impact company. They are a clothing company careful about causing no harm in the production of their merchandise. If something the consumer has purchased gets torn, the company will replace it rather than have it get thrown away. They’ll even collect your old clothes and recycle them for you.
“Patagonia is making very conscious decisions and considering their impact for not only their customers, but for you, me, and the planet.”
Alina Boyte
Consumers will feel better about purchasing from a company which is conscious about social issues because it allows them to also be part of the solution to those same issues.
How does Alina begin collaborating with a company about their social impact?
1. Get clear on what impact looks like for the business. Each company can make a difference with something that is unique to them.
Start planning the ways the impact will be made – whether it’s the environment or marginalized communities
Consider strengths and weakness currently in the business. How is the business positioned in the market?
Start thinking about a specific outcome the business wants to be part of. Ending poverty? Ending hunger?
Make it happen through reverse engineering or other ways.
“Look at the Sustainable Development Goals of the UN. No one would question the goodness of any of those outcomes.”
Alina Boyte
According to Wikipedia, The Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs) or Global Goals are a collection of 17 interlinked global goals designed to be a “blueprint to achieve a better and more sustainable future for all”.The SDGs were set up in 2015 by the United Nations General Assembly (UN-GA) and are intended to be achieved by the year 2030.
Alina claims you and/or your business can make sustainable change by focusing on changing on of four modalities:
Laws
Norms
Markets
Architecture
“Let’s say a company wants to empower kids. They could focus on changing norms in education. Or, they could consider changing architecture – the infrastructure of teaching children. They could also create a new market where kids have opportunities they don’t have currently.”
Alina Boyte
People are more
conscious about how they spend their money and are more likely to do business
with a company who is making social impact as opposed to those who are not.
Alina has a workshop coming up on Monday December 6, 2021 – The Changemakers Lab.
The Changemakers Lab™ workshop will provide you with:
1. A solid framework to let you think about and create social change that calls to you
An easy-to-implement process to take you from confused and overwhelmed to clarity about your path to profitability and impact, and
A straightforward system you can put in place to create a business that is good for you, people, and the planet.
Like a lab, you’ll study social change and record personal insights about how to make a unique difference in the world, craft your impact story, and design a business that is good for you, for people, and for the planet in a workbook that we will provide.
And at the end of the workshop, you will have a book filled with your unique insights and a plan to put together an impact-based business that you can confidently talk to investors, customers, board members, and the public about.
Imagine blowing air
into a balloon. You keep exhaling into the latex as the balloon expands more and
more, getting bigger and bigger. Eventually the balloon will not be able to
expand any longer and it. will. burst.
Our recent guest, Janine Naus used this metaphor to explain possible outcomes if we don’t learn to handle our trauma and grief. We can explode with unhealthy emotions if we don’t learn to be more mindful of the effects which trauma and grief have on us.
Janine is an internationally recognized Grief and Trauma
Relief Specialist; a Certified Life, Spiritual, and Energetic Coach; a
Certified Calm, Accepting, Resilient & Empathetic (CARE) Trauma
Practitioner, and a best-selling author.
“We can move through trauma. No matter how difficult it is there are steps to move through it.”
Janine Naus
In her books Janine offers tools to examine trauma and grief in all the areas we experience them. Her programs are outlined by four pillars:
Insight
Impact
Intuition
Implementation
“You’ll also be given opportunity to journal. When I let my thoughts come out on paper I release what’s going on. Then I can read my narrative several months later and see the growth I’ve made. I can see my life has changed for the better.”
Janine Naus
Janine reminds us there are differing steps of healing from trauma and grief based on our individual journey and our ability to process the emotions we feel. To continue her healing process, Janine keeps a picture of herself as a baby behind her while in virtual conversations (as she was on Life Mastery Radio).
“That picture is something my mother gave me. I put it behind my shoulder where I can look back at it as I talk with clients. It’s a reminder that I was a happy baby. We all came into the world beaming. Life gives us difficult experiences, but we can return to the happy state we began with.”
Janine Naus
Trauma and grief go together
and can be associated with any loss, such as divorce, abuse, job loss, loss of a
loved one, etc.
“All of it is very traumatic. It’s important to have choice in how we heal from the trauma since we had no choice in the experience to begin with.”
Janine Naus
Janine explains it’s helpful to keep perspective by asking “why”
questions.
Why am I here on this earth? Why am I feeling these emotions?
Why is this experience happening in my life right now, and why do I need to
learn from it?
“Emotions are energy that needs to move through our bodies. Like that expanding balloon, it’s dangerous to hold it in. Let energy flow outward. Thoughts stick in our minds as well and may show up as shame. It’s scary to be vulnerable and face what we’re feeling. However, energy needs to move and flow.”
Janine Naus
Janine reminds us that any emotions we feel are okay. We can
open a door to the possibility of seeing the situation differently when we step
outside of ourselves and witness it from a unique perspective.
“Give yourself grace and space. Keep your mind on the process of healing and be gentle with yourself. Breathe deeply and stay present by narrating your actions.”
Janine Naus
For instance, “I’m going to the kitchen and make myself a sandwich”, or “I’m going to take a warm bath while listening to my favorite music”.
Coming into an awareness of the present is key to healing. Know
that you won’t be stuck in this unhappy place forever.
“We are already the happy baby in our nostalgic photos. There is a higher power and connection when you can see the bigger view. We are never alone. Reach out for help.”
Janine Naus
During the healing process it’s helpful to focus on our bare minimum needs. Self-care and pampering yourself as much as possible will be important. Don’t worry about the extras – ask others to help.
Creating Heaven Wherever I AM is Janine’s book series.
“The I AM is our connection. It’s also the solution. I AM is your healing strategy. I AM is your Godly sense. I AM is a descriptor and title. I AM is who you are on the inside.”
Quoting from Joseph Benner’s book The Impersonal Life:
I AM the Tree of Life within you. My Life will and must push forth, but It will do it by gradual and steady growth. You cannot come into your fruitage before you have grown to it. Remember, My Life is all the time building you up into the perfection of health and strength and beauty, that must express outwardly as It is even now expressing within. You who have begun to realize I AM within, but have not yet learned to commune with Me, listen and learn now.
“Your experience will give you lessons to create yourself anew. You’ll create a unique way to express your story to share with others. You are creating love and creating your own gifts.”
Janine Naus
Janine has a gift for our listeners – A 30 minute call with her to talk about one challenge you’re experiencing. You’ll get a strategy, a tool, and better understanding about ways to move forward.
“You’ll learn ways to cope and respond from a unique perspective.”
“I loved them. They were inspiring and life changing. They increased my confidence, and my skillfulness in relationships. At sixteen I knew that’s what I wanted to do for other people.”
Leah Fink is describing her experience while attending personal development courses as a teenager. She went on to earn a degree in outdoor leadership and became a social worker. Her understanding of mental health expanded, and she worked at a wilderness retreat for troubled youth.
“It was meaningful to watch the youth gain confidence, understand themselves, and rebuild relationships.”
Leah Fink
Leah learned mental illness is often treated as
a reaction to behavior.
“When your child is doing great, you give them a pat on the head. When they’re not doing great you send them to a counselor. The same thing happens to us as adults. We aren’t taught preventive or coping skills before we need them.”
Leah Fink
Leah’s passion
and ability includes activities which foster a better understanding of self and
others. Building these skills results in happier and more successful lives. She
owns All Thrive, where her public speaking and engaging workshops strengthen
people, solidify their relationships, and change lives.
“Relationships are essential to our wellbeing – relationships to self, others, and aspects of our lives. It’s hard to recover from a damaged relationship.”
Leah Fink
Leah offered her definition of wellbeing:
Perspective.
Look at the world as happy and fulfilling rather than the opposite
Mental attitude. What is limiting your mindset? Knowing how to unblock the
limitations you put on yourself
Healing. Trauma, large and
small builds up in us and healing is necessary
Coping Skills. Boredom, social media, and distraction are often go-to coping skills, but are not a solution.
“Belonging is a core need for everyone. All behavior is a way to fill an emotional need. It helps to understand why the behavior and why the emotion.”
Leah Fink
Leah’s mission is to help protect people
from the pain of damaged relationships.
“The quality and quantity of relationships affects not only our mental health, but our physical health and longevity. Literally how long you live is impacted by your relationships.”
Leah Fink
To help her clients improve relationships, Leah uses a personality typology tool called True Colours. By understanding yourself and others, you will value your relationships more readily, and treat others in a language they understand.
BLUE: emotional type and needs validation through emotion. Cares a lot about relationships. They are sincere when asking about your family. They are looking for deep meaningful conversations. They get stressed when they don’t have that such as covid and not able to hug or see family members.
GREEN: logical and analytical. I “think” and “why?” statements are common. Often looking for information and resources. They get stressed when they don’t have information and must make a quick decision. Give them what they want – answer questions, info and space.
GOLD: these are the organized, planner people. They have their next five years planned and talk about systems and schedules. They’ve been stressed during covid since they haven’t been able to plan. Help them make a structure or offer to help with their plan.
ORANGE: spontaneous and adventurous; the life of the party. When they get stressed they may lash out, and push boundaries because they don’t like rules and limitations. You can help these people by doing something fun in the moment.
Can you recognize yourself, family, and closest friends? It’s helpful to keep in mind how you can help others to destress. They are interacting in the best way they know how.
“Don’t box people in but recognize that you can positively influence your relationships.”
Leah Fink
Leah says curiosity is critical for relationships. Ask questions to gain knowledge about people. Communicate where you naturally come from. Knowing what stresses and destresses you will be helpful.
“Recognize that people tend to view their own actions through good intentions but view others’ actions through bad intentions. Always assume a good intention.”
Leah Fink
Leah reminds us it’s not always easy to retrain
ourselves. We’ve practiced unhealthy relationship skills our whole lives, and
the best we can do is set an intention every day to work toward healthy relationships.
Twenty three kids are heard from in the pages of The Parenting Owner's Manual! This is an updated version than in 2023 because more youth stepped up to the role of author wanting to be heard!
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Join us tomorrow at 11:30 am PST for Gaurangi Gupta's inspiring talk at TED Next! At just 14, Gaurangi has transformed the lives of countless children through her nonprofit, Youth4Us. Her journey exemplifies resilience and creativity, offering valuable insights on overcoming challenges. Let's support our young leaders as they take the stage! #youthleadership#TEDx#empowerment#creativity#inspiration
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