The Holistic Orgasm

by Todd Alan | May 31, 2010

On multiple occasions on our radio program we have featured guests who specialize in Holistic Sex. The first question we usually get is, “What is Holistic sex?”. Well, to put it simply, it is a way of relating to your partner from a mind-body-spirit connection that takes the experience of sex from a physical sensation to a very loving sacredness. Now to understand what can be experienced in that place of connection, we have interviewed the experts and put their advice here in a short, sweet list.

The Female Holistic Orgasm

Physical Nature- Most women, over 80% of women require clitoral stimulation during intercourse to experience an orgasm. Why is this? The majority of nerve endings for sexual stimulation are held within the clitoris. The stimulation of the clitoris raise a woman’s receptivity of the man and creates a desire for intercourse. The penis contains all its required nerve endings throughout the penis and therefore men obtain stimulation through intercourse alone.

Mental Nature – A woman who is not judging herself or her mate will be more open to allowing her body to feel the freedom of orgasm. Feeling safe and cared for is crucial for the experience of a Holistic Orgasm. This level of connection between partners is not only mental, emotional, and physical but combined, becomes spiritual.

Spiritual Nature – In the height of orgasm, a woman is vulnerable and her most genuine. She is letting herself be ‘seen’ and experienced for her truest sexual and divine nature. When a woman can willingly surrender to the feelings of ecstasy with her partner and let go of all judgements, thoughts and pretense, then she is in the hands of the Holistic Orgasm.

Experiencing a full mind-body-spirit orgasm is extremely liberating for a woman and also very connecting for a couple. The sheer sense of love that flows through, likened to a Christ experience by some women, erases resentment, fear and doubt from the tanglements of a relationship.

Holistic Practitioner – Tina Marie Jones

More data: Fifty to 75 percent of women who have orgasms need clitoral stimulation and are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone. Even for women who do orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, most still need the right position to provide clitoral stimulation.Bring the woman very close to an orgasm before you actually engage in intercourse, so she has a better chance to have an orgasm once it begins.

— Understanding the Female Orgasm, Al Cooper, Ph.D., Sex Therapist, July 2003.Thirty-three to 50 percent of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm.Performance anxiety is believed to be the most common cause of orgasm problems, and 90 percent of orgasm problems appear to be psychological in nature.

— Orgasmic Dysfunction, Medline Plus Medical Encyclopedia, September 2002.Ten to 15 percent of American women have never experienced an orgasm.

Only 35 percent of the female population will orgasm during intercourse.Reasons for failure to climax include: sexual ignorance, sexual anxiety, and fear of letting go.

A sexual response is a complex blend of many physical and psychological variables.

What a woman expects, how she believes she should respond, and how she thinks she should act, will all impact how she experiences, behaves during, and reports her orgasmic event.

— Pathways to Pleasure, Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., Sexologist and Adult Sexuality Educator, 2000.