by admin | Feb 23, 2015
I had an epiphany on my 39th birthday! I was depressed about getting close to hitting the big Four Oh. My colleagues were happily planning a birthday celebration that would finally expose my true age and I was dreading it (everyone at work thought I was much younger than I was!). Usually I arranged to be out of the office so I could avoid birthday hoopla but I had a project that required me to be there so I was stuck! Lastly, for some reason, I was feeling like no one truly cared about me because no one had called to invite me out to birthday dinner nor sent a card.
Birthday morning, I arrived at the office early hoping to get some work done before the big “celebration”. When I walked into my office I saw my desk covered with birthday cards. Someone (the administrative assistant, I am sure) had taken the time to remove the cards from their envelopes and stand them up on my desk. I was so surprised and happy! I had never received so many birthday cards, ever! I thought, “Oh these must be from the people I have done favors for or who may have received a card from me at some point.” I wasn’t sure who might have sent them because birthdays were something I occasionally forgot…maybe frequently forgot. I grabbed the cards to see who they were from. To my surprise not one of them was from anyone I had gone out of my way for nor from anyone I had sent a card to in the past. I was puzzled. Why would these folks take the time to send me a birthday card when I could not recall doing them a favor or sending them a card?
The Circle of Giving
It was then that I realized that giving and receiving was not a “tit for tat” experience. I finally got it that the picture was much broader, wider and deeper. I realized it is a mistake to expect what I give to come back to me directly from the folks or places I gave to. I finally understood that giving was a circle rather than a straight line. I give to you, you give to someone else and the Universe gives it all back to us. This process works for both the good stuff and the not so good.
Jewels in our Crowns
This epiphany has stayed with me. My grandmother used to tell me, whenever I found myself pouting about not getting recognition for something “Well dear, that is a jewel in your crown in heaven.” That saying used to annoy and confuse me as a child but as an adult I now understand what she was saying.
I think of the Circle of Giving and remind myself that whatever I put “out there” comes back to me, pressed down and flowing over. All I need do is look at what is coming into my life and to be thankful for it. In fact, we can even be thankful for the situations that aren’t to our liking. Many a time I have changed my ways because I didn’t like something in my life and have received something much better instead. I have observed this with other people as well. So, trusting that it is all good, regardless of appearances, opens us up to experiencing more good. And so it is.
by admin | Feb 20, 2015
February 24, 2015 – Pamela Beatty is a New Thought minister who believes that one’s personal choices affect their communities. This includes choices made in everyday living down to our deep, metaphysical thoughts. “We have more power than we utilize; we need courage to make a real difference.”
Pamela helps individuals, groups, and leaders first envision the work they would like to do in the world and the way they would like to be. Then, she helps them to make it so. Her expertise is in organizational and group behavior, professional development, and management coaching.
As a minister at Northern Lights Spiritual Center, she uses the metaphysical and spiritual principles she has learned through Science of Mind and ministerial teachings in her Sunday talks, as well as in workshops and spiritual coaching. As a Science of Mind minister, her heart’s work is to use the power for good in the Universe to create good for ourselves and the world we live in.
Besides being a minister, Pamela is also an inspirational speaker, artist, dancer, and singer.
Listen to “Healing Community with Pamela Beatty 2/24/15” on Spreaker.
by admin | Feb 13, 2015
Pam Grout was a recent guest on the Life Mastery Radio Show. This post is from her blog. If you’d like more on Pam, visit our archives for her interview!
“Love gives us some pretty darn cool quantum powers.”—Greg Kuhn
My new favorite pastime while flying (at least when seatmates make it abundantly clear they don’t want to chat) is reading the New Yorker. Last week I read about a seven minute workout, custom cookie cutters made from a 3D printer and a 27-year old genius named Emerson Spartz who has already launched dozens of highly-successful websites.
His first, when he was 12, was Muggle.net, the most popular Harry Potter fan site in the world. It landed him on CNN and Fox News and J.K. Rowling even invited him to her estate in Scotland. Today, he has nearly 50 employees and raises millions in ad revenue every year. Did I mention he’s 27?
The thing about Emerson that most interested me was something his parents insisted upon when he was a kid. I have no idea if they made him pick up his room or eat vegetables. But there was one thing that was non-negotiable. He was required to read four short biographies of very successful people. Every single day.
In other words, his parents made it compulsory that he fill his mind with possibility, that he focus on success, that he learn about what a little creativity and vision can accomplish.
It’s like I always say: We animate into our lives whatever we place our attention upon.
Make this week shine, my friends.
Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.
by admin | Feb 13, 2015
February 17, 2015 – Jackie Bailey believes the most exceptional leaders are those who foster the leadership qualities in others. By helping clients develop the skills to speak influentially and set succinct intentions, Jackie strengthens the hidden, yet innate leader within. That new leader strengthens the next, thus creating a ripple effect to claim personal power within the business world.
For 30 years Jackie has led teams of various sizes spreading the ideology that in order to successfully navigate the waters of team leadership, people must first learn to lead themselves. Her book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, teaches the four must-have traits of exceptional leadership: Sacrifice, Empowerment, Love and Friendship – SELF.
Jackie is President of Emerald City Consulting where she works with business owners, teams, and individuals, helping them to enhance communication, optimize individual performance, and increase team effectiveness. She is the writer for the Navigating Your Fishbowl blog, and an award-winning, championship speaker.
She is a two, a grandmother of two, and has been married for over 32 years. You can reach out to Jackie through her website www.EmeraldCityConsulting.com
Listen to “Being More SELF Centered with Jackie Bailey 2/17/15” on Spreaker.
by admin | Feb 9, 2015
I feel we’re in a new age of wisdom. This new age provides an opportunity to become extraordinary and to experience much success. Wisdom isn’t granted to those that are old and experienced. Wisdom is the ability to cut to the chase, the ability to sort out the static from the signal. It’s the ability to see the essence in every experience. It’s the ability to pay attention to what you’re paying attention to.
So how can we wise up? Turns out, you have an innate ability to do this – simply ask yourself questions and then find the answers. Wisdom comes from within; it’s a product of thinking and not copying. Here are some ways to awaken your wisdom:
1. Realize duality is in everything. A coin is just as much heads as it is tails, so look for the opportunity on the other side. The key to duality is making things happen at the same time you’re letting things happen.
2. Feel the motion and be aware of it. Just like a pendulum, everything is changing, moving, vibrating and spinning. Realizing that everything is dynamic helps us to stay out of our need to control everything and welcomes change as part of the cycle of life.
3. Train yourself to step back and look at the big picture; get away from the habit of staying up close with a symptom. I’m reminded of the fly in the window. Flies are so determined to get through a window, they display an incredible obsession to get outside and they’ll die trying. When often, all they have to do is fly around a little and discover that the door is open.
4. Learn to see others with your heart. Now that doesn’t mean we are to become a doormat. Remember, we can love someone, but that doesn’t mean we have to do lunch. Open your heart and just be yourself.
5. Continue to learn. Learning is as vital to life as oxygen and water. Look for the lessons in everything. The biggest obstacle in learning is not what you think you have yet to learn; it’s what you think you have learned but haven’t. If you aren’t feeling uncomfortable, it means you’re not breaking new ground.
The biggest benefit of awakening your wisdom is that you get to understand and know yourself. So wake up everybody! A new age is upon us, and you definitely don’t want to be caught sleeping through this one.
Make it a great day and remember – it’s a choice!
Todd Alan
by admin | Feb 7, 2015
February 10, 2015 – Linda Carroll teaches people how to rediscover love, fun, and passion in their most intimate partnerships, no matter how challenging their relationship has become. In her new book, Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love, Carroll explains how to understand where one is in the circle of a relationship and provides strategies and clarity on how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times.
Carroll is the author of two other books – Remember Who You Are about the 7 stages of a woman’s journey and Her Mother’s Daughter, a book where the author tells of “the curse of the first-born daughter.” Her Mother’s Daughter is Linda’s story of self-discovery as an adopted daughter, discovering her biological mother to be famous author, Paula Fox, and raising her own first-born daughter, rock star Courtney Love.
Linda has been a couples therapist for over thirty years and is certified in Trans Personal Psychology and IMAGO Therapy. She is a seminar leader, a keynote speaker, and also a private coach. She teaches workshops with her veterinarian husband, Tim Barraud, based on the Imago work of Harville Hendrix, the PAIRS training of Dr. Laurie Gordon, and their own insights, study and practices. They continue to offer retreats and seminars all over the world.
Listen to “Linda Carroll and the Cycles of Love 2/10/15” on Spreaker.
by admin | Feb 2, 2015
Guest Post by Coach Debby:
Outgrowing any sort of habit, whether it be shopping too much, eating too much, or even sleeping too much involves growing our emotional “muscles;” it’s a new mindset. This journey of outgrowing isn’t about white-knuckling your way through the day because you already know the outcome – deprivation leads to cravings! Instead of being gentle about it, we emotionally beat ourselves up! The cycle repeats over and over, until we feel paralyzed, hopeless, and ashamed. What’s missing? Well, the key to real change begins with self-acceptance.
People who are really driven to succeed or reach goals (that’s many of us) can be exceptionally hard on themselves. They’re always on high alert and ready to banter and bruise themselves for something. It is like whacking yourself for every tiny error and at the same time expecting to feel happy. It’s not happening! And it’s definitely not self-accepting. So let’s stop the abuse first.
Underneath these unattractive habits we aspire to rid ourselves of are our emotions. They want to be shared and expressed, but most of us learned as young people that authority figures have opinions about our expressions. They shamed and criticized instead of opening their arms and offering love and empathy. So we figured out a way to keep emotions at bay. We developed bad habits that comforted us or distracted us from feeling.
So as I said in the beginning, we start with self-acceptance and that requires finding a safe place where we can express emotion. I suggest finding a professional–a therapist, coach, doctor, school counselor. Take that first step and you will feel these cravings/habits/impulses/addictions eased.
In short, when we feel, we heal. By Running away from difficult feelings, we run away from ourselves. So instead, we must find safe and healthy ways to express them. I invite you to take this step and experience a new sense of ease.
by admin | Jan 30, 2015
February 3, 2015 – Linda Deir is an author, speaker, life coach, and intuitive who teaches others how to overcome fear-based living, how to be inspired by new experiences, and how to believe in themselves. Working with Linda, clients discover that they have purpose, that they have value, and that they are being guided through their lives.
Growing up in horrific circumstances of physical and emotional abuse, Linda learned she had to separate from what was happening in the reality of her home. At a very early age, she encountered what she refers to as spirit guide angels that made her realize she was not alone in the world. They supported her as she struggled to survive the wrath of her mother and, when the time was right, they guided her out of the parental dysfunction that had marred her childhood.
Her book, Guided, shares her entire story of survival. In it, she tells of what she learned from her spirit guides and how she tuned in to listen to them. Linda understands healing as much as she does great hardship and struggle. And that’s the message she brings to her audiences and clients – that there are great forces with you even during the most harrowing of circumstances, and they can set you on a path that leads to higher ground and a more daring, joyful life.
Listen to “Listening to Our Spirit Guide with Linda Deir 2/3/15” on Spreaker.
by admin | Jan 23, 2015
Guest Blog Post by Coach Debby
First, let’s think about the fact that whenever we are focused on a new intention, we are actually saying “YES” in our mind. We have, to some degree, made a decision to move forward.
Some of us have tried to say “yes” in the past to the very same thing that we are saying “YES” to today. So what will make the difference? How will we stand in the energy of “YES!” each day?
It’s no easy feat, but I suggest that each of us take time every morning to not only recall and be with our desire for at least 5 minutes, but also notice if in ANY way we are saying, “no,” and possibly blocking out intentions from manifesting.
I’ll give you an example: I said “YES” to this very same vision of writing for the public once before and I failed. Why? Because I was also saying “NO.” On the one hand, I said I wanted to write a blog and a book and offer it to the public. But that wasn’t totally accurate. I actually wanted to write a GREAT blog. Then it occurred to me that I might write a MAGNIFICENT book as well. I had somehow lost track of merely writing and enjoying the experience. I was no longer thinking about service. Instead, I allowed the voices in my head to turn the intention into a lofty expectation!
…And I did not discover these voices in just one sitting. You see, I was in a class and I had said “YES” to my intention of writing in front of the whole group. However, each night, alone and quiet in my little room, I heard nasty voices saying, “You are too busy to write,” and, “You really have too much unorganized material to ever create a magnificent book,” and, “You don’t have a good plan for your blog–all bloggers are good planners,” and, “You might piss off your family when you talk about them in your book,” and so on, and so on.
Truly, these messages were my “NO” voice and they were stepping all over my intention–writing for and serving the public–the one thing I THOUGHT I was saying “yes” to.
So, I failed. I finished the class, but I did not do my project. But some of the class participants, including the instructor, were curious what went wrong and asked if I’d talk about it in class. I had a profound experience sharing with them all the “no’s” that followed my “yes,” and how I caved in due to pressure. They really understood. They loved me in spite of my fears. They accepted me! And I realized “Ohhhhh! I am not accepting ME. That’s where I need to plant my ‘yes.’ I forgot to believe in ME!”
In essence, the group acted as a mirror so I could see that I quickly gave my power to the “no” voice and justified that the “yes” voice wasn’t that important. I was not accepting myself or believing in myself. I wanted a more balanced and false self to emerge, do all the work for me, and help me look good 
Heck, it made sense to me! But after experiencing the love from the group, it was clear that I was giving in to an old habit, so I cut off the supply of self-love whenever I sat down to write. I stopped all self-acceptance, all connection with my desires, all belief in my worth, and that brought up the loud, nasty, “no” voice.
So, with their love and understanding, I created some writing exercises to get myself back in the groove.
You, too, may have one or two or twenty “no” voices that are looking for a place to go. Instead of letting them guide your intention, try this little trick:
- Take a sheet of paper and create two columns.
- On the left side, write the word, “YES!” On the right side, write the word, “NO!”
- Now, on the left side, try to write your intention in one paragraph. Then skip a line or two and paraphrase that intention into one clear, succinct statement, such as “I have a desire to serve the public by writing a blog for my website and articles for magazines.”
- Carry this piece of paper with you everywhere until we meet on Tuesday. Any time you hear your mind saying any thing about your intention that resembles a “no,” take out your sheet of paper and write it down. Just write it. Don’t worry if it includes cussing or shaming thoughts–just put it on paper so you have a place (other than your mind) for that thought to be.
- After adding the “no” voice to the paper, say to yourself, “This (what you just wrote down) may seem true right now, but I accept myself anyway.” Say it to yourself, breathe, say it again, breathe, and let the charge you feel dissipate. Keep breathing until you feel neutral.
This exercise is good training for the mind because it teaches us that even when we get a little nutty, we do not have to go with our thoughts. We have permission to stay with our self–our truest self–who knows that we deserve unlimited permission to manifest our desired intention.
I practice this often! I wish I had the insight during my previous class to practice it, but I was too caught up in getting to my intention as quickly as possible. Failing helped me realize that whenever I have an intention, my nutty mind will have opinions, so I best practice self-acceptance. As Robert Holden said, “You can have self-acceptance or self-rejection, but not both at the same time. Which one will you pick?”
Try it out for yourself: Write down the “yes” column, carry your note, stop and write any “no” messages that come up, and practice defusing the charge so you may return to that place of self-acceptance and wholeness. This is where the real YES! lives.
Enjoy the journey,
Coach Debby
by admin | Jan 23, 2015
January 27, 2015 – Sara Wiseman is a spiritual counselor who helps others to travel the path of spiritual growth. After a near-death experience in 2000, she says her life shifted completely and everything changed – her own spiritual journey began; she “woke up” and, ever since, has been helping others to do the same.
Sara works with individuals and groups and teaches classes online, empowering her students to take on the task of healing the history of family wounds. Her latest class through the well-known online academy, Daily Om, is called Family Karma. In it, she teaches about the seven shadows written into family histories: abuse, addiction, violence, poverty, illness, abandonment, and betrayal.
In her work to shed light on those shadows, Sara guides clients step-by-step through her process at a level they feel comfortable. You can listen to her free podcasts, Ask Sara Radio, or purchase one of her books and e-books from her website.
Listen to “Family Karma with Sara Wiseman 1/27/15” on Spreaker.
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