On December 14th, 2014, while walking with friends into a restaurant for dinner, Scott Schilling’s legs stopped working and began to tingle. He was suddenly disoriented, and things were spinning around him. Friends noticed his gray color and profuse sweating.
Scott went to the emergency room at a local hospital and was misdiagnosed with a migraine. He was sent home. That night his head pounded in so much pain he cried out, “God, help!”
The answer Scott received was, “Get on your knees”.
“God I’m choosing to believe your plan is to wake me up and serve others for the rest of my life. I need your help and guidance to do that. I was cradled.”Scott Schilling
In answer to prayer, Scott’s headache sub-sided and he had a restful night’s sleep. The next day he worked hard as usual and saw a neurologist as a follow-up.
Scott was surprised to learn he’d had a full-blown cerebellum stroke and consequently spent 6 days in intensive care. While researching these types of strokes, Scott learned he may not speak again; may not have balance again; and may not be able to drive again.
“That was all unacceptable.”Scott Schilling
Scott wanted to make sure other people know they can come through a circumstance when the odds may seem against them, and his fifteenth book emerged.
“If you’re living, you’re going to take a hit every now and then. It’s not the events that count, it’s how we react to those events.”Scott Schilling
Regarding his near-death experience a friend commented, “Scott, I didn’t know you’d gone through that. What did you say to yourself after it was over?”
Scott answered, “That sucks. What now?” The title of his book was born: That Sucks…What Now? Real World Solutions for Getting Through What You’re Going Through.
A stroke of luck and That Sucks!
Survivor’s guilt can come into play, as it did for Scott. He noticed everyone who’d had a stroke with their facial deformities and twisted limbs. “Why me?” He thought. “Why did I survive without problems? What’s the reason? What do I do from here?”
Scott remembered creating his mission 11 years before his stroke: “To create a worldwide community of over a million people; cause over 100 million dollars in charitable giving; and impact 100 million people on the planet.”
“God’s plan and timing is perfect. You can believe it’s perfect, or you can believe the event shouldn’t have happened, but you can’t believe them both at the same time. Pick one and live it.”Scott Schilling
Besides his amazing story and mission, Scott also shared during our interview the Four Stages of Competence:
- 1. Unconscious incompetence: We don’t know what we don’t know
- 2. Plausible deniability: You know that you don’t know. It’s decision time
- 3. Consciously Competent: You know that you know. You decided to learn a new skill which you didn’t think you could master.
- 4. Unconsciously competent: You know that you know, and it has become second nature. You operate on autopilot in that new skill
Since Scott is a trainer and coach, he clarified ways to mentor others:
“Model from stage four but teach from stage three.”Scott Schilling
Scott suggested we need more balance, and there are little things we could all do better. He urges us as a nation to return respect, honor, and dignity to the planet.
“Respect is how I treat you; honor is how I lift you up, dignity is how we both feel after that’s done.”Scott Schilling
“Over the last couple of generations, we’ve taken responsibility from individuals and it’s not helping them. Respons-ibil-ity is the responsibility to respond. Take control of your life by taking responsibility for everything in your life.”Scott Schilling
Three positions we often take are:
“It’s your fault” – blaming another“
I screwed up” – shaming ourselves
“Well…it was because…” – justification and making excuses
Scott offered us many gems of information during our interview and throughout his book. He is kindly inviting you to join his Bee Konnected Community.
“Bee Konnected is a worldwide global community. It’s dating software for the business world. We match people with their ideal customer in less than two minutes, and there are courses to help people grow businesses.Scott Schilling
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