by admin | Jul 8, 2016
Sometime we find ourselves in situations where we are feeling tongue-tied, scared, or alone.
We know it is important to speak up, but we forget how to do it. We forget that speaking clearly is linked to knowing what we want and sharing that message with another person.
Children are born with a natural ability to communicate. They lift their cup to show mom they want more juice and they snuggle their stuffed animal while smiling and showing pure glee. We know what children are saying, at least most of the time.
Then we grow, experience challenges, and we become more complicated.
At some point, adults must be articulate enough to communicate their needs with the important people: their boss, their spouse, their aging parents.
But the reason we must articulate our needs and communicate openly isn’t linked with our success – anyone can survive by going it alone. Albeit, it is not the easier or most fun path, but it is a path.
Most of us desire relationship. We want to be connected. We want to experience the joy of knowing someone else, working together very well, and making plans together.
So, regardless of our situation, we must have the courage to communicate.
I once worked for a woman who had a little start up company – I thought it would be fun to have a female boss – but I quickly learned that she was not much of a communicator.
She would tell all the members on the team when we performed badly or how we must speed things up, but she was virtually incapable of sharing her vision for the company, her dreams, the goals she was setting for the team.
She was not open with us. She was merely correcting us. Eventually, the company closed its doors.
Without the courage to communicate, our relationships become extinct. They have no life. They have no support. They die.
Someone has to take the first step. Someone must be on the high road and say, “I have a vision, here, and it goes like this….”, or “I am aware that we need to make some changes and I am here to share my ideas and hear yours,” or “It is clear to me that you have some unmet desires and I would love to learn about them. Will you share them with me?”
Remember, courage is not something to try out once everything is going well. We act with courage when we are in a state of fear, busyness, or transition. Taking action while we are scared is the essence of courage. We do one thing – one foot in front of the other. We share openly, thoughtfully, honestly.
No doubt, communicating is a courageous act. Yet communicating is our birthright. It links us to those we love, the jobs we love, the life we love. We cannot let the life we are creating be void of relationships and meaning simply because we failed to speak.
Survival is a quiet, lonely journey. Add a little communication, take a little risk, and the path expands. The fog lifts. The heart opens. Two are joined. Life is possible.
by admin | Jul 8, 2016
July 12, 2016 – Dating coach, Pouline Middleton, did a little experiment.
Single and disappointed with her love life and the love life of others, she went looking for her top three qualifications in an ideal partner: A lover, a handyman, and a communicator.
By speaking up front with her potential mates as to what she was looking for, they were more honest with their priorities. This allowed “reality to play a much larger role that romance.”
Thus, a more conscious approach to dating kicked in.
Our interview with Pouline is excellent in its entirety. Everyone looking for a partner should consider the wisdom in her new, unorthodox approach.
Her book is called “One Woman Three Men,” and you can buy it here.
Formal Bio:
Dating coach Pouline Middleton was deeply disappointed by her love life.
We’ve all been there at one time or another. For Pouline, it was a divorce, leaving her a single mother, and then a relationship with a cheating man that opened her eyes.
When Pouline decided to rethink how she dated, and make a list of all the aspects of having a mate that were important to her. Turns out her list had 26 items. She culled them down to just three areas: a man to talk with about not only small things, but also the meaning of life; a man to be intimate with; and a man to handle the practical things such as handy man tasks. That’s when the conscious approach to dating kicked in.
Pouline decided to take the pressure off and super-charged aspect of dating to “find the one.” She made up her mind to date three different men, one for each area that was important to her. She began a very transparent search online. Every man she connected with knew her plan and needed to state which area he wished to be considered for. The interactions were fun, funny and profound. Pouline experienced this conscious dating exercise for a year and a half and then found the man who met all of her needs, and they married in 2013.
“One Woman Three Men is a fun read,” says Middleton. “But under the humor is a serious look at bringing our highest consciousness to modern love and sex.”
A native of Denmark, the country that seems to always be out in front with ideas that can change the world, Pouline’s book took off right away and a new career was born for her as a love coach.
Since creating her conscious dating model, which she calls Modern Love was born, Pouline has coached hundreds of people to get in touch with their three most important area, whatever they may be. Her process also works for men seeking women and same sex couples.
Pouline Middleton has been a Modern Love coach since 2010. She was born and lives in Denmark. She holds a M. Sc. in Economics and has worked extensively around the world. She worked for several companies in sales and marketing until she decided to become a coach. “One Woman Three Men” can be ordered on Amazon, at any bookstore worldwide and is currently available in paperback, Kindle and iBook format.
Listen to “One Woman Three Men with Pouline Middleton 07/12/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | Jul 5, 2016
Replay July 5th, 2016 Original air date December 16, 2014. Guest, Alan Cohen, joins us to inspire everyone to “get real” about life. Alan is our friend and mentor, as well as the founder of Holistic Coach (.org) based in Hawaii. The author of 24 popular inspirational books, including the best-selling The Dragon Doesn’t Live Here Anymore, the award-winning A Deep Breath of Life, and the classic Are You as Happy as Your Dog? has made him a household regular for the spiritually minded. He is a contributing writer for the New York Times #1 bestselling series Chicken Soup for the Soul, and his books have been translated into 24 foreign languages. His work has been featured on Oprah.com and in USA Today, The Washington Post and 101 Top Experts. Alan’s radio program Get Real is broadcast weekly on Hay House Radio, and his monthly column From the Heart is featured in magazines internationally. We are very fond of Alan and have experienced great renewal thanks to his life coaching programs. He is a joyous man who loves to turn daily life into a meaningful life lesson. He is magnificently encouraging on a personal and also professional level. www.alancohen.com and http://holisticcoach.org
Listen to “Get REAL with Alan Cohen07/05/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | Jun 22, 2016
June 28, 2016 – “We work too much, sleep too little, love with half a heart, and wonder why we are unhappy and unhealthy,” writes clinical psychologist Arthur Ciaramicoli, author of The Stress Solution: Using Empathy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to Reduce Anxiety and Develop Resilience.
In it, Ciaramicoli provides readers with simple, realistic, powerful techniques for using empathy and cognitive behavioral therapy to perceive situations accurately, correct distorted thinking, and trigger our own neurochemistry to produce calm, focused energy. He developed this approach over thirty-five years of working with clients struggling with depression, anxiety, and addictions. Over and over again, he has helped sufferers overcome old hurts and combat performance anxiety, fears, and excessive worry.
Ciaramicoli’s pioneering approach offers new promise to readers facing a variety of stress-based concerns.
More on Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Ed.D., Ph.D….
Listen to “The Stress Solution with Arthur Ciaramicoli 06/28/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | Jun 9, 2016
June 14, 2016 – Our interview with Paul Zak was an engaging, and applicable-to-real-life science lesson that covered everything from hugs to a fundamental difference between men and women to running major companies.
The thread linking these topics? Oxytocin
Paul Zak is a neuroscientist that studies oxytocin, a chemical naturally released in the brain.
This is an engaging interview for anyone who loves learning about new discoveries in the brain and exploring the complexity of human relationships.
Formal Bio:
Paul J. Zak is a scientist, prolific author, and public speaker. His book The Moral Molecule: The Source of Love and Prosperity was published in 2012 and was a finalist for the Wellcome Trust Book Prize. He is the founding Director of the Center for Neuroeconomics Studies and Professor of Economics, Psychology and Management at Claremont Graduate University. Dr. Zak also serves as Professor of Neurology at Loma Linda University Medical Center. He has degrees in mathematics and economics from San Diego State University, a Ph.D. in economics from University of Pennsylvania, and post-doctoral training in neuroimaging from Harvard. He is credited with the first published use of the term “neuroeconomics” and has been a vanguard in this new discipline.
He organized and administers the first doctoral program in neuroeconomics. Dr. Zak’s lab discovered in 2004 that the brain chemical oxytocin allows us to determine who to trust. His current research has shown that oxytocin is responsible for virtuous behaviors, working as the brain’s “moral molecule.”
This knowledge is being used to understand the basis for civilization and modern economies, improve negotiations, and treat patients with neurologic and psychiatric disorders.
Dr. Zak’s work on oxytocin and relationships has earned him the nickname “Dr. Love.” His current work applies neuroscience to improve marketing and consumer experiences, and to build high performance organizations.
Listen to “The Moral Molecule with Paul Zak 06/14/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | Jun 3, 2016
June 7, 2016 –
In our interview with
Shane Stott, we witness an entrepreneur at work who’s carrying a profound message for all of us:
We’re victims of information overload. The young don’t realize the extent of it. And the rest of us have grown accustomed to its insanity. We need to take steps to find peace and stop harming ourselves and others with our stress, anxiety and isolation.
This is strong dialogue delivered toward the end of the interview, but Shane’s message is crafted from his struggles and experience.
The remedy he offers to combat society’s plight is called – floating. Imagine floating in water that cradles you and won’t allow you to sink. Imagine suspension in the dark with no sound and nothing to touch.
To learn more about float tanks, or sensory deprivation, as a form of therapy, meditation, mental and physical recovery, check out our interview, as well as Shane’s book.
Formal Bio:
Shane Stott is CEO of Walker Tape Co, and the co founder of Zen Float Co.
Shane is also a Best -Selling Author of the Float Tank Cure and is currently at work on a new book of Meditations.
He’s an inventor at heart and has revolutionized both of his industries.
Shane has been featured on ABC, MSN, The New York Times and Yahoo.
Listen to “The Float Tank Cure with Shane Stott 06/07/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | May 28, 2016
May 31st, 2016 – If you really want to change, you have to first change how you perceive and pay attention. Which will entail some sifting around in the clutter of our own mental attics.
In our wonderful interview with Donald Altman, we discuss truly fascinating topics – ones we can all relate to – like “mental Facebooking” and how we tend to deal with the difficult people in our lives.
While Altman acknowledges that our past stories of pain and abuse are important, he challenges listeners to open their minds to the times they were strong.
Formal Bio:
Donald Altman, M.A. LPC, is a psychotherapist, award-winning writer, former Buddhist monk, and teacher. He served as adjunct professor at Lewis and Clark Graduate School of Education and Counseling, and is an adjunct faculty member of the Interpersonal Neurobiology program at Portland State University.
A prolific writer whose career spans more than twenty-five years, Donald has authored several pioneering books on mindfulness, beginning with his 1998 Art of the Inner Meal. His book The Mindfulness Toolbox is the winner of two 2015 Ben Franklin National Gold Awards as the best book in two categories–Mind-Body-Spirit and Psychology. Another book, The Mindfulness Code, was named as “One of the Best Spiritual Books of 2010.” He has also authored Living Kindness, Meal by Meal, The Joy Compass, and a personal guide to developing a mindfulness pratice, A Course in Mindfulness.
Two new books include 101 Mindful Ways to Build Resilience (Jan. 2016) and Clearing Emotional Clutter March 2016).
In addition to his books, Donald was a staff writer for an EMMY-Award winning children’s television (The Magic Door, CBS Chicago), won an American Medical Writer’s Association Award, co-created the first interactive comic strip on America Online, and has had articles appear in New Age Journal, The Los Angeles Times, and Independent Business Magazine, among others.
He has served the professional community by serving on the Board of Directors and as Vice-President of The Center for Mindful Eating (TCME.Org). Currently, Donald is an advisory board member for TCME. Donald works extensively with mindful meditation in his own life, as well as offering these tools to others through his books and classes. He teaches mindfulness and spiritual values around the country. He is dedicated to bringing these ancient practices in tune with modern living and to invite wellness into our stress-filled lives. Donald is also a member of the Burma Buddhist Association. An avid motorcyclist, he enjoys riding his motorcycle along the beautiful Oregon coast.
Donald’s website: http://www.mindfulpractices.com/
Listen to “Clearning Emotional Clutter with Donald Altman 05/31/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | May 18, 2016
May 24, 2016 – Many of us lose touch with our intuition way back in childhood, starting with that one little word we hated to hear – NO.
In our insightful interview with Zen Cryar DeBrucke, we learn a simple, effective technique for reconnecting with that internal compass we lost. She also gives us four questions to help with decision making in relationships, business, and family.
In a nutshell, Zen describes the opening and closing that happens within each of us as we confront our life circumstances and the emotional world that accompanies them.
Formal Bio:
Master intuitive coach and stress expert, Zen Cryar-DeBrücke, teaches about the physical sensations in your body that are called anxiety, worry and fear. She uncovered their relationship to ones thoughts and how to manage them for optimal health and happiness. She is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council with experts such as Marianne Williamson, Jack Canfield & more.
Zen’s website http://www.internalguidancesystem.com/
Listen to “Find Your Inner Compass with Zen Cryar-DeBrucke 05/24/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | May 12, 2016
May 17, 2016 – People speak whatever they want from their minds, but they speak their truth when they divulge the most important thing in the world to them.
Stacey Hall explains in this interview how to get in touch with what’s true about yourself.
Once we do that, we can walk away from the energy that no longer supports us, and build the bridge toward the new energy that does support us.
Formal Bio:
Stacey Hall is an entertaining, paradigm-shifting, life-changing keynote presenter.
Known as “THE Business Coach with a Heart,” Stacey saves the lives of overwhelmed and out-of-balance business owners using a variety of natural and effective “antidotes” to physical, emotional, and mental stress which, of course, is the leading cause of disease.
Stacey supports her clients, boosts their energy and increases their personal power so they can attract more clients, make more money, and spend more time with loved ones.
Website http://www.chi-to-be.com
Listen to “Paradigm Shifting with Stacey Hall 05/17/16” on Spreaker.
by admin | May 9, 2016
May 10, 2016 – Cara Bradley is an athlete, yoga instructor, and the author of On the Verge: Wake Up, Show Up, and Shine.
And she’s asking people to slow down and take note – Who are you in THIS moment?
How does it feel to be this busy? To be alive? To be in this drama? To transition from one mindset to the next?
When we ask ourselves these questions, we learn to know ourselves. We show up differently than we do when we’re shut down and disconnected.
In other words – we shine.
Formal Bio:
Cara Bradley is the author of On the Verge: Wake Up, Show Up, and Shine.
A passionate teacher of yoga, meditation, and fitness, Bradley has been in the trenches of personal transformation as a Mental Strength Coach for over three decades at her Verge Yoga Center.
Her work also involves retreats, corporate training sessions, and sports teams such as Villanova University football and Penn State men’s basketball.
She lives in Wayne, Pennsylvania. Visit her online at www.carabradley.net.
Listen to “Show Up and Shine with Cara Bradley 05/10/16” on Spreaker.
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