“Real love is a daily, earthy, grounded, simple as dirt yet profound as poetry experience“. ~ Dr. Gary Salyer
Dr. Gary Salyer was our guest on Life Mastery Radio with Todd Alan back in April of this year, but the recording of the show was not usable. That mishap had a happily ever after ending though, because we got to bring him back for another conversation about LOVE!
Even though LOVE is felt in the heart, our brains actually influence how we give and receive LOVE.
How does the brain of someone who’s created a loving, lasting relationship work deep down inside? What are the insider secrets for getting a secure brain that just knows how to pick Mr. or Ms. Right, and then insures that the relationship lasts for a lifetime in a way that feels good?
“I’ve learned we must train our brains to have the love we want.” ~ Dr. Gary Salyer
Love is a full body-based feeling that resonates in every cell of your body.
Genuine, secure love is sharing a host of little moments with each other as you go through your day.
Love is seeing a smiling face or hearing a soothing voice as you walk through the door at the end of a day
It’s stopping your life to listen when your beloved is overwhelmed or troubled;
It’s praising your partner for the smallest of achievements just because you take notice.
Like a two-sided coin, for love to exist there are feelings we need to feel, and rights we need to have.
Welcomed with Joy
Worthy and Nourished
Cherished and Protected
Empowered with Choice
“A brain that is aligned with these four feelings easily creates a profound, intimate, deep, calming, and empowering We. From this We extraordinary couples are born, nurtured, and raised.” ~ Dr. Gary Salyer
The Right to Exist
The Right to have Your Needs Met
The Right to Separate and Belong
The Right to Create Your Own Experience
The Right to Assert with Voice and Choice
The Right to Love and Be Loved
It helps to identify our attachment styles as well. Are you secure, anxious, or avoidant?
“When you show up for love in any way, you never know who it will affect, and how it will change their life.” ~ Gary Salyer
Dr. Salyer encourages couples to understand the “pattern” as the problem, and not the “partner”. We can all be better giving and receiving long-lasting, fulfilling love. It is the key to our common future.
Join Dr. Gary’s movement for LOVE. He invites you to make LOVE your personal mission in life.
“When you feel worthy of love, you naturally reach out for love.”
Dr. Gary Salyer let go of all the stories he had been telling himself about how he wasn’t good enough for love, and decided to live a life of real love instead. In the end, his heart opened up to love in a thousand different ways.
“I quite literally felt like a man who had been freed from the bondage of his childhood and his past relationships. Then I experienced the joy and peace of a man who had been liberated to live a life filled with love.”
“Every child on the planet begins life by asserting their natural self. Rights allow us to express our unique, authentic human experience in the world. When we get negative responses from our environment, we naturally suppress various aspects of our original, authentic essence. We’ll restrain our life force, give up our needs, deny our desire for support, limit the experience we want, choose what we don’t want, or settle for less than being truly loved.” ~ Dr. Gary Salyer
Our April 23rd guest on Life Mastery Radio was Dr. Gary Salyer. His book, “Safe to Love Again” was published a few months ago. As a radio show co-host, I knew this book could be important to individuals looking for love the first, second, or third time around; but I didn’t expect it to have a take-away for myself. I’ve been married for over 36 years to the same man
Preparing for the interview, I read the first several chapters of Dr. Salyer’s book, and was surprised to learn there was much I didn’t know about love.
I was intrigued with the story of Paul, one of Dr. Salyer’s
clients. Paul had been through 2 broken marriages, even though he’d been taught
examples of lasting love from his parents, grandparents, and so forth. He was
the first in generations of family who’d been divorced; and he couldn’t figure out
While working with Dr. Salyer, Paul kept repeating “Love will turn on me; when is love going to turn on me?” This feeling of mistrust in his two wives led them to “turn on him” because he couldn’t fully commit to love. He had created the situation of love “turning on him” because he expected it to happen.
Dr. Salyer discovered how this feeling originated in Paul
when he was 5 years old. I won’t give too much away, because I want you to read
his book, however Paul’s “truth” was not THE truth. As a child, he had interpreted
a situation of his father beating him as “love turning on him”. But, when an
older brother heard Paul’s interpretation of the same event, Paul realized his
father was saving his life, not turning on him.
Unfortunately, Paul had undermined all his relationships because of a childhood feeling. FEELINGS, I learned, are what shapes our ability to be loved and love well. FEELINGS, not logic.
Conestoga wagons were an image Dr. Salyer put in my head to illustrate the “ruts” of love we find ourselves in because of feelings early in life. During the pioneer migration of early America, these wagon wheels would get stuck in the deep ruts formed by hundreds of wagons gone before.
These ruts, or styles of love get us caught in repeating certain behaviors which can undermine relationships, like Paul’s.
Dr. Salyer spoke of an epidemic of unworthiness.
There are so many tools available in his book to help you find love or secure love in your life. There are 4 feelings, and 6 rights we all NEED to receive and give love.
Read his book to know more. Find out if he’s holding a workshop near you. Download his online workbook to help you get started. Safe to Love Again
Eloquently spoken, Corinne Zupko was our Life Mastery Radio guest on March 19th. She is the author of From Anxiety to Love, wherein Corinne shares how A Course in Miracles helped her heal from anxiety.
Anxiety is nothing more than fear projected into the future: fear about what might occur at some future time. Love is lived only in present tense – A Course in Miracles
Experiencing anxiety from early childhood, Corinne’s mother encouraged her to study A Course in Miracles. Corinne explained how she literally put her fingers in her ears to avoid her mother’s explanation of “spiritual crap”.
When Corinne’s anxiety escalated into debilitating panic attacks in college she was finally ready to “try anything.”
A Course in Miracles taught Corinne “miracles are a shift in perception”. Corinne simply needed to learn how to shift from an ego-controlled state of body and mind to a Self-controlled state, guided by her Inner Therapist.
requires an exchange of fear for love.
our delightful interview with Corinne Zupko, she illustrated through a personal
story the choice we make to witness either fear or love – in other words, we’ll
experience whichever one we’re looking for.
I was at a doctor’s office because of a symptom I’d had for a long time. My fear had led me to finally seek a diagnosis, and while in that state of fear the nurse (while drawing my blood) asked, “what are you here for?”
Upon explaining my concerns, the nurse replied, “oh, that’s not good. I sure hope you don’t pass out.”
Of course, I passed out! The nurse had validated my fear, which I was witnessing for.
I was sent to another doctor’s office for more tests. This time I had decided to witness for love instead.
When I walked into the office, the nurse I saw was the mother of a friend of mine. I didn’t even know her mother was a nurse. During my blood draw, I chatted with the nurse about my friend (her daughter).
The mother of my friend observed, “I don’t usually work on Monday’s, but was called in today. I arrived 30 minutes before you did.”
I was witnessing for love; the second nurse validated my love; and I’d had a completely different experience!
We’re grateful at Life Mastery Radio that Corinne shared her journey from anxiety to love. We will definitely keep the lessons.
It was a delight to be joined by yoga master, Rainbaeu Mars, and her mother, Brigitte, a renowned herbalist and health specialist. Rainbeau, based in Hollywood, CA., is clearly guided by her a supportive force as she began the interview with, “We are all born with the possibility of love…” Her long-time yoga practice and daily centering of her mind keeps Rainbeau in alignment. “Yoga means union…and alignment brings us home.”
In the studio, Todd Alan took this in and sat tall before his microphone, rolling his head slowly from left to right and back again, and asked, “How much time do we need each day for yoga?” Rainbeau didn’t hesitate, flinch, or sugar-coat the facts. “You need an hour a day.” Wow! An hour! For many, this might sound like a huge commitment.
Well, yoga is a lifestyle, and our lives deserve our commitment, yes? I sat in the studio and wanted to say, “You go, sister!” I listened intently to learn about the disciplines from her own practice. After all, this is a woman who has successfully led tens of thousands of clients along a holistic path. “How you start your morning is how you’ll treat yourself the rest of the day.” Sage wisdom.
Her mother, Brigitte joined the conversation and discussed the idea of introducing greens, especially dandelion greens, into one’s spring diet. Both Brigitte and Rainbeau offered a genuine concern for the foods we select for our body, our “temple.” Listeners received an overview of Rainbeau’s five secrets for a holistic life:
1. Prayer and Gratitude. Rainbeau suggests that you ask to receive guidance (from whatever source you access).
2. Get on the mat! If you only have 10 minutes, go through the chakras and meditate.
3. Learn to cultivate “sexual magic” by allowing this energy to inspire you rather than confuse you.
4. Practice Virtues. Be aware and alert to the seven deadly sins.
5. Dedicate your life to a higher purpose. Raise your vibration!
Todd Alan inquired about the spring cleanse, a program to help anyone reset by moving the clutter of energy, chemicals, and habits away in a 21 day program. Check out lifemasteryradio.net and select “events” to learn more about the spring cleanse offered by Rainbeau Mars. And just for fun, get that yoga mat out of the closet and move with a feeling of gratitude. Namaste. Hypersmash.com
October 18, 2011 Guest: Rickie Byars Beckwith, First lady of New Thought Soul Music talks about her uplifting New book “Let My Soul Surrender” and music CD. A beautiful compilation of spirit. Also joining us is Diane Rose Kelly, lead singer of JAYLA music, published author,poet & composer that has performed with Ricki at Agape, Rythym & Soul Festival. Join us LIVE for some SOUL full vibrations.
October 11, 2011 Guest: Jennifer Joy Jimenez, creator of “Let’s Dance Together” and “The Body Image Breakthrough Online Movement and Dance Center” motivates us through dance and Joy with her internationally acclaimed programs which can bring you back to fitness and wellness while developing a loving relationship with your body. Join us as she teaches us to shake our Groove thing and have fun. www.bodyimagebreakthroughcenter.com
Believe you can make a difference? Yes each of us can. Listen in to Kell Kearns and Cynthia Lukas as they share how to make a difference in every step and movement we can take. Globalized Soul, the documentary film that will be shown at the United Nations International Peace day on Sept. 21 Peace begins with ME.
Kell Kearns and Cynthia Lukas grace us with their world sharing and development of the film they have created “Globalized Soul” which has premiered in Taos N.M, Germany and on Sept. 21st at the United Nations International Peace Day gathering. We will discuss the coming together of world/spiritual leaders/activists to create Oneness in our global world and how to assist one another in a unified movement. Join us at 10 am PT, 12 pm Ct. Their url is www.globalizedsoul.com and there you will also find heavenonearth.com and small snipets of the movie. Their show schedule is also there and you can purchase the video with your donation to their non profit organization. The bottom Line is” LOVE
In two weeks…Aug.30 the YES! Tribe will be unveiled. It’s not a “Secret” as to why this program is changing lives. Stay tuned..Do you want to be a member of the YES! Tribe? Listen in and join our site and when you get a chance find Tina Marie Jones on facebook. YES!