A Practical Guide to Extraordinary Relationships

by | Feb 16, 2023

Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are the authors of the award-winning book, the Soul Mate Experience, a Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships.

Mali and Joe coach singles and couples on creating and sustaining relationships that are intensely passionate and profoundly connected.

Their newest book (out soon for purchase) is Wild Monogamy – Cultivating Erotic Intimacy to Keep Passion and Desire Alive.

You can find a sampling of the book prior to release here MaliandJoe.com

“We decided to tell our own stories in in this book. People get an idea of what it really means to be vulnerable and intimate.”


Mali and Joe

To write their book, Joe and Mali took about 3 years of conversations and transcribed them into a 200 page outline for their book. From there, Mali would draft a chapter and Joe would read it.

“Then we sit down and tear it apart together and have even deeper conversations.”


Mali and Joe

Their book is to help couples who avoid talking about uncomfortable issues and insecurities in relationships.

“We’ve structured the first section of our book called the Intimacy Inquiry, which has dozens and dozens of questions to consider.”


Mali and Joe

One of the early chapters of the book is titled, 6 Keys to Intimate Adventures and lists the first key as connection. The next key is resilience.

“If you’re going to have an intimate relationship that continues to grow in connection, you’ve got to build the foundation of real trust which we call resilient trust.”


Mali and Joe

Their book is going to poke and prod you into having important conversations.

Mali Apple and Joe Dunn

“Once you finally start talking about intimate things, a weight comes off your shoulders and there’s an immediate increase in intimacy that you have with your partner, because now you’ve allowed yourself to be vulnerable.”


Mali and Joe

Another goal Mali and Joe have with their book is to help people find where the edges of their relationships are, because those are places where they can play.

Mali and Joe believe boundaries in relationships come unconsciously from our conditioning and our fears. By shutting down or not being vulnerable with your partner, the relationship tends to stagnate.

“Our real purpose in this is finding ways to help people turn a long term relationship into a long term adventure.”


Mali and Joe

There are many stories in Mali and Joe’s book of how people approach all kinds of problems, whether it’s with the way their bodies function, or problems with what their mind is telling them, menopause, and such.

If you want to get out there in your relationships. If you want to have a deeper connection with your partner. If you want your partner to understand where you’re coming from, and why you have thoughts, fears or concerns, reading Mali and Joe’s book will be a wise decision.

Wild Monogamy with Mali Apple and Joe Dunn

by | Feb 8, 2023

Mali Apple & Joe Dunn Feb 14 2023
Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are the authors of the award-winning book The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships. They coach singles and couples on creating and sustaining relationships that are intensely passionate and profoundly connected.
Their newest book,Wild Monogamy: Cultivating Erotic Intimacy to Keep Passion and Desire Alive.
Like many other couples in a new relationship, Mali and Joe experienced a deeply profound, almost magical feeling of connection when they began dating almost two decades ago. Not wanting this experience to end, they began a conversation about love, intimacy, and sex—and especially the question of how two people could keep their connection passionate, loving, and alive indefinitely.
They decided to put all their ideas, tools, and techniques into a book so more people could have access to them.

Discarding the Shop-Window Version of Yourself

by | Sep 24, 2019

Have you ever edited yourself to a shop-window version of who you are? Doing so narrows your intimacy and connection with others.

Addiction is the opposite of connection.

Jamie Catto

Jamie Catto is the producer of the multi-award-winning 1 Giant Leap film of 2002, as well as his 2019 creation, Becoming Nobody. He is a founding member of a band called Faithless. He leads unique, transforming workshops for his clients, and was our guest on Life Mastery Radio recently.

The body is an exquisite pharmacy

Deepak Chopra

Jamie says, “we all store an accumulation of the injustices we’ve felt, the tears we’ve cried, the rage we’ve experienced, and the unexpressed emotional pain. The body’s genius knows we have emotional constipation, and it wants to flush it out. Emotion must be felt to be flushed.

Being willing to feel those raw emotions, and even being curious about reacting to them, is how we flush out the emotional poo, and live more authentically in the present. That is the beginning of self-love. You can either do it willingly, or not. The body can’t hold in poo forever.”

Turn toward emotion like a wine taster.

Jamie Catto

Jamie has learned these principles from a lifetime of believing something was going to be bad, but finding it was actually good.

We’ve built this map around ourselves with all these dragons around the edges. When you take a tiny quarter turn around your edge, you realize there’s no dragon there. It’s a child’s chalk drawing of a dragon. One little puff, and it’s gone.

No one has to go into a deep scuba to do this stuff. Just gently snorkeling around the edge is plenty. How great to be a bumbling human fool again. Relief. It’s wonderful to wear your imperfections proudly, and give other people permission to do the same. There’s discovery in failure.

Some days you’re going to be on top of the mountain, and other days you’re going to roll down the side of it onto the golden calf.

Jamie says it’s your soul’s job to give you lessons and curriculum, and we shouldn’t resist it. His job is to re-purpose your skills and turn your demons into employees.

When we release emotions, creativity rushes in to the space. Space is full of ideas.

Jamie Catto
Book by Jamie Catto

On the cover of Jamie’s book is an Axolotl. Jamie used this amphibious creature to represent what he believes we all look like without our masks on.

He has a lovely face; vulnerable, lovable, soft. Axolotl’s are self –mending, and resilient.

Jamie Catto

Jamie’s current movie, Becoming Nobody is touring the country now. Click the link to learn when it’s coming to your area, or to organize a special showing.

Listen to Jamie Catto sing his song Little Prince

Diana & Richard Daffner intimacy Tantra style

by | Aug 15, 2011

BIO:
Diana & Richard Daffner are the authors of Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day. Together, the Daffners developed a program for couples called Tantra Tai Chi – easy movements that help deepen physical intimacy, emotional closeness and spiritual awareness. They have been married for 26 years, and have been leading Intimacy Retreat workshops for couples since 1997. Upcoming Intimacy Retreats are offered in Florida, Seattle, British Columbia and Jamaica. In addition to their book, the Daffners offer a DVD showing the Tantra Tai Chi moves and an audio-CD that provides an at-home guided experience of tantric intimacy.

Diana holds a Masters degree in Counseling and is a member of AASECT, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists. She has taught massage and energy awareness at Esalen Institute in Big Sur, CA. A black belt in Aikido, she is featured in the book Women in Aikido. Richard & Diana are both certified in sexology and also as instructors of Tai Chi Chih. The Daffners are passionate about sharing with others what works for them in their own relationship. Information about their workshops and products can be found on their website, www.IntimacyRetreats.com.

Holistic sex, tantra style

by | Aug 12, 2011


Diana & Richard Daffner are the authors of Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day. Together, the Daffners developed a program for couples called Tantra Tai Chi – easy movements that help deepen physical intimacy, emotional closeness and spiritual awareness. They have been married for 26 years, and have been leading Intimacy Retreat workshops for couples since 1997. Upcoming Intimacy Retreats are offered in Florida, Seattle, British Columbia and Jamaica. In addition to their book, the Daffners offer a DVD showing the Tantra Tai Chi moves and an audio-CD that provides an at-home guided experience of tantric intimacy.